Topic title says it all, really. She is into cancer research, a field I am just entering. Normally, on blind dates, I feel supremely confident because (narcissism aside) I usually feel like the smartest person in the room. That typically leads to problems when dating, however, so ive begun looking for very intelligent women. This is the first woman I will have dated that has more education than I do. I dont want to pull a george costanza here - any tips for dating someone extremely intelligent? I feel like my typical off the cuff banter might seem low brow in comparison.
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got a blind date with a woman with her phd and I am nervous
- Thread starter Krejlooc
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SocksAndShoes
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Opposites attract, so act like a complete idiot.
It works on sitcoms, I'm sure you're golden.
It works on sitcoms, I'm sure you're golden.
theepicoftyler
Member
Intelligent people are in fact normal human beings. You have a common interest, so just be yourself.
Eighty Deuce
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Be yourself and ignore the fact she's more educated (not necessarily smarter) than you. Have a good time and enjoy the small talk.
bananafactory
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make fart jokes in an adam sandler character voice
FortuneFaded
Member
Make sure you use as many long words as possible. Why use two syllables when 5 will do?
Summer Haze
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Lol.
Phat Michael
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Is she an award winning neuroscientist? If so, meet her in the alley outside.
Spaced Harrier
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If she's a neuroscientist nip out to the back alley.
Mr. Poolman
Member
Show her your Sonic avatar!
dave is ok
aztek is ok
Be sure to tell her this on your date.
samoscratch
Member
Don't over-analyze and just try to be natural, in my experience going in with a plan never works and tends to backfire.
Admiral Woofington
Member
Talk about personal topics. Family, silly stories, etc...
If your first step is to brag about knowledge then yeah good luck lol
If your first step is to brag about knowledge then yeah good luck lol
Enter the Dragon Punch
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Talk about GAF
theechrisfox
Member
Doctors are people too. Pretend she is a normal plebe like yourself.
entremet
Member
The problem is you're that putting too much value in your intelligence so when it's threatened or challenged you end up feeling this way.
Intelligence, looks, whatever are just gifts. Keep it in perspective. There will always be people smarter, fitter, and better looking. Just enjoy people for who they are.
As a corollary, we also have weaknesses and hangups. They don't show up in first dates, usually.
Again, people are people.
Intelligence, looks, whatever are just gifts. Keep it in perspective. There will always be people smarter, fitter, and better looking. Just enjoy people for who they are.
As a corollary, we also have weaknesses and hangups. They don't show up in first dates, usually.
Again, people are people.
HIGH DEF JEFF
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FU, i was logging in to ask if shes won any awards.
kamineko
Does his best thinking in the flying car
Rabbi_Vole
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She's probably a social dunce. You'll do just fine.
Enter the Dragon Punch
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The_Inquisitor
Member
You've already fucked Up by overthinking it and posting a thread. Might as well not go on the date now.
Better yet, prove it to her. You're only as valuable as you are smart, if you aren't intelligent, you're obviously worthless.
spectral_method
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Easy ya'll have the same passion, common ground has been found and conversation should be no problem. Just keep the booze coming and you're golden.
The Smoking Bun
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Difference between intelligence & pretension
PHD holding cancer researcher doesn't mean she can't appreciate low class entertainment
PHD holding cancer researcher doesn't mean she can't appreciate low class entertainment
MrChocolate
Member
Don't worry about the date.
Worry about how you can readjust your ego long-term to saner levels. You should not draw confidence from belittling others. Self-improvement is good, but you might have overlooked improving your ability to see the many qualities of others, in domains that go far beyond professional accomplishment.
Worry about how you can readjust your ego long-term to saner levels. You should not draw confidence from belittling others. Self-improvement is good, but you might have overlooked improving your ability to see the many qualities of others, in domains that go far beyond professional accomplishment.
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Anyway, just try to be calm and composed rather than getting into nonsense arguments. Although, ego might be a factor in between you and her getting together.
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
Your crown of sonnets needs to be about cancer. I'm sure you can handle it.
I got a strong sense of deja-vu reading this....
LOL pretty much. The reason you're still single probably has nothing to do with this...
Bam Bam Baklava
Member
OP sounds like an elitist jerk. Smartest guy in the room? Really now?
borghe on point
great advice
This. In my experience, education and "braininess" do not necessarily correlate. The favorite movie of one of my PhD-exes was "Dude, where is my car?"
bananafactory
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use the word "underpinning" a lot
it's used in meetings at my work all the time and makes anything sound smarter
it's used in meetings at my work all the time and makes anything sound smarter
PhD student here,
1) Having a PhD doesn't mean you're "smart". It makes you very knowledgeable in a very specific field. Don't expect her to be reciting sonnets to you because she does cancer research.
2) I generally don't talk about my work outside of work.
3) As a PhD student, I realize the volume of knowledge required to receive the degree. If you're just starting out, I would never expect you to know it all. If she does think you're "dumb" for lacking this knowledge, she's crazy.
4) Talk about how far video games have come since the NES.
1) Having a PhD doesn't mean you're "smart". It makes you very knowledgeable in a very specific field. Don't expect her to be reciting sonnets to you because she does cancer research.
2) I generally don't talk about my work outside of work.
3) As a PhD student, I realize the volume of knowledge required to receive the degree. If you're just starting out, I would never expect you to know it all. If she does think you're "dumb" for lacking this knowledge, she's crazy.
4) Talk about how far video games have come since the NES.
I didn't want to go this route.. but yeah... as just a reasonable amount of criticism... you put enough importance on yourself in your OP (intelligence, narcissism, etc) that it may indicate at some point a good idea to step back and reevaluate your own shit.
fwiw I used to be exactly like you (felt really intelligent, frequently one of the most in the room, etc) and by my early 30s realized that that and a buck fifty could get me a cup of coffee. who you are is 50000000000 times more important than what you are...
entremet
Member
LULZ @ point 4.
Thats quite a leap to take to assume I belittle others. I typically try to hide my intelligence, actually, because I dont want to sound like a braggard.
War Peaceman
You're a big guy.
Just treat her like anybody else? The fact that she has a PhD makes her no better or more intelligent than anybody else...
paparazzo
Member
So she's bringing her Ph.D with her? Watch out dude.
You sort of already do in this thread.