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There is something about a woman who cheats that makes me very uncomfortable

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The One and Done™

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I'm not talking about my wife cheating but instead seeing other women cheat on their bf's or husband's, even when it's depicted on TV as fiction.

I'm not exactly sure why but there is something about it that disgust and enrages me. When I was just a kid/teenager it used to make me physically uncomfortable. But even now, if I see a cheating woman depicted on television it pisses me off a little. I remember watching the movie Unfaithful and feeling EXTREMELY uncomfortable and angry with the woman.

I dunno, it's not like my mom used to do it and it's not like I was ever personally screwed over by a cheating gf, I just do cannot get myself to feel "ok" with it. It's really strange because I don't feel that way at all when a man is the one cheating. Obviously, from a moral perspective, I view it as wrong but is it normal for it to piss me off? I mean, I don't turn into the incredible Hulk or anything but it just really disgust me seeing a woman cheat on her man.

Anyone else feel a similar way? Any thoughts as to why I'd feel this way?
 
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siddhu33

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You're a man, and the thought of this happening to you, whether real or fake, is making you angry. If you were a woman, you'd probably despise cheating by men more.
 
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The One and Done™

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Jitters said:
Does it bother you when a guy cheats?
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That's the thing it doesn't make me anywhere near as uncomfortable when a guy does it. I dunno could it be maybe some repressed fear of being left alone on my part? I didn't have a father growing up and my mom was in and out of my life. I was raised by my grandmother primarily along with my 2 younger sisters. Maybe being raised in a house full of women had something to do with it?

Any similar experiences out there?
 
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Angelus Errare

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In the words of Drake - "I sent him a message, said see you when I can. He sent me one back, but I ain't never read it cause dick is only dick, and I get it when I need it."

/shrug.
 
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wenis

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Cuckolding makes me kinda hot actually. If I think about it.

I've been on both sides of the coin. It still gets me hot and bothered.
 
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Leona Lewis

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You're a guy.

When you see a dude cheat on this wife in media, you feel sorry for the woman, but that doesn't turn into anger. When you see a woman cheat on her husband, the thought of it happening to you causes you to cross that border from pity to fury.
 
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AlexBasch

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wenis said:
Cuckolding makes me kinda hot actually. If I think about it.

I've been on both sides of the coin. It still gets me hot and bothered.
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You mean only watching or "crazy bitch goes bonkers and makes you suck the other guy whilst making fun of your small dick"?

I only like it in porn but when the latter happens it's a immediate dealbreaker. :p
 
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Angelus Errare

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wenis said:
Cuckolding makes me kinda hot actually. If I think about it.

I've been on both sides of the coin. It still gets me hot and bothered.
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KieferCrimson said:
You mean only watching or "crazy bitch goes bonkers and makes you suck the other guy whilst making fun of your small dick"?

I only like it in porn but when the latter happens it's a immediate dealbreaker. :p
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Veelk

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TommyManberg said:
That's the thing it doesn't make me anywhere near as uncomfortable when a guy does it. I dunno could it be maybe some repressed fear of being left alone on my part? I didn't have a father growing up and my mom was in and out of my life. I was raised by my grandmother primarily along with my 2 younger sisters. Maybe being raised in a house full of women had something to do with it?

Any similar experiences out there?
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You'd think that would have you take their side rather than privilege males in this regard.

Anyway, you can't control your feelings. As long as you recognize intellectually that a man cheating is equally as wrong as a woman doing so, you're fine.
 
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Camp Lo

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Leona Lewis said:
You're a guy.

When you see a dude cheat on this wife in media, you feel sorry for the woman, but that doesn't turn into anger. When you see a woman cheat on her husband, the thought of it happening to you causes you to cross that border from pity to fury.
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I'm a guy and I don't get that deep with it. If a broad is going to cheat, there is nothing I can do to stop it. I'd say good riddance.
 
i_am_ben

i_am_ben

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siddhu33 said:
You're a man, and the thought of this happening to you, whether real or fake, is making you angry. If you were a woman, you'd probably despise cheating by men more.
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I disagree. In general, women are judged worse than men for cheating even by other women.
 
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wenis

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KieferCrimson said:
You mean only watching or "crazy bitch goes bonkers and makes you suck the other guy whilst making fun of your small dick"?

I only like it in porn but when the latter happens it's a immediate dealbreaker. :p
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I wouldn't be down for the latter, but if I were in a disposable relationship and she cheated on me, that'd be kinda hot. I mean if the dude was hot too. If he was hot I wouldn't care. If he's a schlub, fuck that.

Also, being the cheatee (?) is a crazy experience.
 
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Winterfang

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Cheating is awful no matter who does it. It's still a common occurrence though, even harder to not cheat for woman, who are bombarded by lusty men 24/7.
 
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AlexBasch

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wenis said:
I wouldn't be down for the latter, but if I were in a disposable relationship and she cheated on me, that'd be kinda hot. I mean if the dude was hot too. If he was hot I wouldn't care. If he's a schlub, fuck that.

Also, being the cheatee (?) is a crazy experience.
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Huh, interesting. Was honestly curious. :p

A friend is getting suggested by her husband to do a cuckold session, and she feels uneasy about it, not about the "getting fucked by another dude" but the "why would you want to see another dude fuck me", she even suggested him to do a foursome with the girlfriend of the other guy but that's a no go, weird.

It's strange though, I would never do that or suggest that to my girlfriend, but other couples doing it? Well...
 
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The One and Done™

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Angelus Errare said:
Goes back to that stupid double standard.

Men are dogs so it's "okay" to cheat
Women are suppose to be "pure" so cheating, premarital sex, and enjoying sex in general is bad!
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Yes there is a double standard. But even when I was a kid I valued the life and standing of a woman more than that of a man. I viewed woman and something to be treasured, respected and loved. Maybe being raised by women actually heightened my standards for women in general?
 
LiquidMetal14

LiquidMetal14

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Men and women have their equivalent behaviors related to what you mentioned TC.

It's terrible and no one wants to be on the receiving end especially when the one who gets the bad end is loyal to the end.

I have to say, finding good people is hard but what really upsets me is how pretty girls fall for the bad guys or just general trouble makers.

I grew up with this El Salvadorian girl and we were good friends, went to church together, and got along well enough. I recall making my feelings known and being rejected but kindly.

Not to toot my own horn but I'm one of those people you meet that is easy to get along with, am not shy, and try to make things easier on you. I carry conversations well and am very level headed bla bla bla

The meat of this particular girl is that she was a smart and beautifully attractive girl into high school until she met this one Mexican (not being racist but just giving detail) gangster. I mean, this guy looked like bad news and dressed in the typical SoCal gangster wear.

Ever since she met up with him her grades went down and eventually her mother had to move back to New Jersey and I haven'tn heard for her since.

Sad since there was several good and long time friends around her who genuinely cared and liked her but she went for the bad guy.

I guess nice guys finish last after all :/
 
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params7

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wenis said:
I wouldn't be down for the latter, but if I were in a disposable relationship and she cheated on me, that'd be kinda hot. I mean if the dude was hot too. If he was hot I wouldn't care. If he's a schlub, fuck that.

Also, being the cheatee (?) is a crazy experience.
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Cuckold in training? lol.

I think the swinging culture = future. We'd be living in that future now if it weren't for religions (mostly Abrahamic). Men compete for females, and being possessive is fine if you're worried that the female might get pregnant with another's. But with pregnancy out of the question, and safe sex a high priority in the mentality of both partners, I see no point in being possessive and locking your sexual life to just one person. Many happen to have specific strong fetishes also, and your partner might just not be that into it. Why shouldn't you enjoy it with another who might be into it more?

If you happen to believe in monogamy, good for you. But its nothing more than a life choice, not the ultimate way humans are meant to live - not in ANY sense of the word.
 
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Angelus Errare

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TommyManberg said:
Yes there is a double standard. But even when I was a kid I valued the life and standing of a woman more than that of a man. I viewed woman and something to be treasured, respected and loved. Maybe being raised by women actually heightened my standards for women in general?
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I respect them by treating them equally. I understood at a young age that women despite what the south would want you to think women enjoy sex just as much as men. I was raised by my mother and sister so I can understand where you're coming from, but with that stated I can't abide by said double standard, women enjoy sex, women cheat, women have flaws. People need to deal with that, it's 2013.
 
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freddy

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I'm not sure I feel the same way about or care at all really but I do feel women are depicted in some movies as being very weak-willed when it comes to remaining faithful, resisting the charms of a male character or sticking with one partner. I tend to feel this is more a male fantasy where the hero or protagonist is seen as irresistible to women and as such isn't so much a commentary on the women but pandering to the desires of men.
 
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HalfBakedProphet

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Cheating in general just makes me mad. What was that movie with Richard Gere and Diane Lane, and the wife was fucking around behind his back? That movie pissed me off.

For some reason I was OK with Don Draper cheating on Betty. Not sure why, I may be a bit of a hypocrite on this issue. :/
 
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The One and Done™

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LiquidMetal14 said:
Men and women have their equivalent behaviors related to what you mentioned TC.

It's terrible and no one wants to be on the receiving end especially when the one who gets the bad end is loyal to the end.

I have to say, finding good people is hard but what really upsets me is how pretty girls fall for the bad guys or just general trouble makers.

I grew up with this El Salvadorian girl and we were good friends, went to church together, and got along well enough. I recall making my feelings known and being rejected but kindly.

Not to toot my own horn but I'm one of those people you meet that is easy to get along with, am not shy, and try to make things easier on you. I carry conversations well and am very level headed bla bla bla

The meat of this particular girl is that she was a smart and beautifully attractive girl into high school until she met this one Mexican (not being racist but just giving detail) gangster. I mean, this guy looked like bad news and dressed in the typical SoCal gangster wear.

Ever since she met up with him her grades went down and eventually her mother had to move back to New Jersey and I haven'tn heard for her since.

Sad since there was several good and long time friends around her who genuinely cared and liked her but she went for the bad guy.

I guess nice guys finish last after all :/
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Nice guys certainly finish last the majority of the time, which is unfortunately but there is a simple genetic reason; women are attracted to the immense pheromones secreted by alpha males with tonnes of testosterone. Bottomline, no one wants to be fucked by a nice girl or a nice guy. Everyone wants the bad one because it means there is a possibility of more sexual stimulation and an increased likelihood of reproducing. Happens more with women than guys though for whatever reason.
 
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NoRéN

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TommyManberg said:
I'm not talking about my wife cheating but instead seeing other women cheat on their bf's or husband's, even when it's depicted on TV as fiction.

I'm not exactly sure why but there is something about it that disgust and enrages me. When I was just a kid/teenager it used to make me physically uncomfortable. But even now, if I see a cheating woman depicted on television it pisses me off a little. I remember watching the movie Unfaithful and feeling EXTREMELY uncomfortable and angry with the woman.

I dunno, it's not like my mom used to do it and it's not like I was ever personally screwed over by a cheating gf, I just do cannot get myself to feel "ok" with it. It's really strange because I don't feel that way at all when a man is the one cheating. Obviously, from a moral perspective, I view it as wrong but is it normal for it to piss me off? I mean, I don't turn into the incredible Hulk or anything but it just really disgust me seeing a woman cheat on her man.

Anyone else feel a similar way? Any thoughts as to why I'd feel this way?
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It probably bothers you when you see it on tv because when a woman does it's "raw and passionate" and she does it because she is a victim and unappreciated. When a man does it he's a no good cheating dog.
 
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Veelk

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TommyManberg said:
Yes there is a double standard. But even when I was a kid I valued the life and standing of a woman more than that of a man. I viewed woman and something to be treasured, respected and loved. Maybe being raised by women actually heightened my standards for women in general?
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Hm....how do you feel about a woman cheating on another woman then?
 
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The One and Done™

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HalfBakedProphet said:
Cheating in general just makes me mad. What was that movie with Richard Gere and Diane Lane, and the wife was fucking around behind his back? That movie pissed me off.

For some reason I was OK with Don Draper cheating on Betty. Not sure why, I may be a bit of a hypocrite on this issue. :/
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The movie is Unfaithful. I mentioned it in the OP. I think you may be onto something as far as how a woman's will and motives are depicted on TV.
 
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rocketknight

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TommyManberg said:
Nice guys certainly finish last the majority of the time, which is unfortunately but there is a simple genetic reason; women are attracted to the immense pheromones secreted by alpha males with tonnes of testosterone. Bottomline, no one wants to be fucked by a nice girl or a nice guy. Everyone wants the bad one because it means there is a possibility of more sexual stimulation and an increased likelihood of reproducing. Happens more with women than guys though for whatever reason.
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I'm pretty sure that at least some of this, if not all of it, is bullshit.
 
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