feel like a lot of incel shaming is a result of the mainstreaming of feminism. as feminism became mainstream in the past decade or so, it also became male dominated. so we are essentially seeing grown feminists adopting the language of toxic masculinity. this is largely because feminism is itself more male. there is the acceptance of trans women as identical to biological women. there is also the fact that men still dominate executive and production roles, and thus even tho we may see more feminism, it is a feminism defined by the males who have always dominated mass media. a feminism largely defined by dudes like Joss Whedon, Rian Johnson, and the Russo brothers.
so a lot of what goes on, a lot of shitting on "manbabies" and "incels" and "basement dwelling virgins" is itself Toxic Masculinity. one could say the Ghostbusters 2016 and other SJW films that trade on anti-incel hate have problems with toxic masculinity. the thing is, women can exhibit Toxic Masculinity behavior as well as men. during the 1980s this was more out in the open, the classic feud between jocks and nerds, which played out with the jocks belittling the nerd, calling them a momma's boy ("basement dwelling"), sexless virgins, etc. belittling their male sexuality is the heart of Toxic Masculinity. this is alpha behavior 101. the fact that it is language opted by so-called SJWs and used constantly to harass and pester otherwise neutral cis hetero males, is just one of the sick ironies of our age.
the left would have far more success if they dropped their own Internalized Misogyny. try building up NEW stories with women and minorities who succeed on their own terms, rather than by aggressively belittling men. IMO the most widespread harassment is towards the incels, who are not really an organized group, with a manifesto, but disparate people of all sexes and ages, who like other sexual groups found commonality in online spaces, and have ever since been generalized and defined by people outside of their groups and entangled like the rest in these bs culture wars. anti-incel hate is actually a virtuous form of toxic masculinity. let's end it.