I, just, am at a loss of words. Been here for a decade. I refuse to judge people's personal lives of people I will never meet. One person shouldn't be the death of an community this large. Even if it is the owner.
I don't want to be banned, I just want to talk about games. It'll take awhile for things to get back to normal. Lets hope it gets that way very soon.
Clicking on threads now is like playing minesweeper...
So ummm, I checked the kotaku article and HOLY SHIT:
They had a sexual relationship after the alleged incident? So why I should believe this person's accusations again?
Tyler's personal life is none of my business
If this thread is anything to go by, it seems like NeoGAF will be infested (or better yet, was already infested) with people that thinks standing against mysoginy, defending LGBT rights and calling out neonazis is considered SJW stuff.
No wonder Trump won the elections and Bolsonaro is heading its way to won in Brazil too. Having empathy became some sort of leftist meltdown, how fucking sad is that?
You know what I've always hated most about Neogaf?
I rarely felt like I could speak my mind. You risked being called something terrible for simply asking a question, or asking for more evidence, or simply being on the fence about something. I realize people hate toxicity, but the ban culture here -fostered- toxicity because the bandwagon attack mobs were allowed to shower insults at will... even if the insults themselves were hate driven ['cunt', for example].
If you asked a question, you were accused of baiting. Do you guys realize how toxic that is? People should always be allowed to ask questions. If you asked for more evidence, you were done. Heck, I fucking hate Trump. But if I mention that? Then clearly, I'm lying... right? I'm just setting up for something else. Bullshit. Bullshit, bullshit, bullshit. I've been far more left than almost every one here for longer than most here have been alive... but just because I don't agree with their agenda I risk being painted as a fascist, which is absurd. That's a culture of fear. That's censorship through ideology shaming. I guarantee my anarchy trumps your fucking Clinton loving nonsense, but god forbid I say anything against Clinton, because I get painted as a Trump loving fascist. That's sick. Sick, sick, sick. Broken minds led by broken ideology ruled by broken moderation that can't handle being questioned.
Now, you know what? I don't know if you're guilty of anything. I don't know if what was said to happen happened, and honestly, even if it did, I don't know what signals were or weren't sent, or what level of miscommunication happened. So I don't particularly like that you were summarily executed by mob. My guess is you're full of shit... but I know that's just a guess. I know I have no idea. And I won't execute you for it, just like I wouldn't execute Naughty Dog, even though it was so much fun for people here to leap to ridiculous conclusions based on a single tweet.
But you know what? You fostered an environment that summarily executes with no evidence. So while I hate it, and I'll -always- be on the side of 'wait for more information' regardless of the topic, I can't say I can't see the sick humor of it all. Some people need to learn by example, and if you're truly innocent of all charges, then I hope next time someone gets accused of something you support the presumption of innocence. This is not saying I don't think horrible things happen all the time - they do... my wife has been sexually harassed at work and I know how hard it is to come forward and rock the boat.
If you're guilty, then I hope you learn. Evolve. Grow. Become a better person. Everyone can change, even though some swear no one can.
If you're innocent, then also learn. Evolve. Grow. The culture of 'no proof needed' you fostered is sick... it flies in the face of everything our collective cultures have learned and fought for over the past few millennia. You reaped what you sowed, and it's either ironic, or horrifying, based on your guilt... which I can never know.
I'll probably get banned for this post. I don't think I said anything worth being banned for. In fact, I think this is a pretty fair assessment of both your actions, the accusations against you, and the general culture of this site. If you ban me, fine. If you don't, I'll still be here, posting, because, honestly, I don't judge a community on a single individual member. Heck, I don't judge -you- based on actions of a previous you, because I know people change over time.
People learn. People grow. People evolve. Maybe you have, maybe you haven't. Now it's time for you to do so, and in the process, evolve this site so it doesn't become an echo chamber of toxicity against anything deemed toxic.
A shame Neogaf has such a bad reputation due to the Off Topic section but all I came here for WAS gaming discussions so I'm glad it's back for that.
You'll notice by my post that I haven't touched the EviLore subject at all. His actions in response to this debacle have ruined this community, and not what he may or may not have done with that lady back then.
You won't have a hard time finding discourse usually associated with the alt-right in this thread - stuff that a lot of users have been keeping to themselves in shame for a long time, but now feel safe enough to spit out there. It's dishearthening.
Just like the people in this thread, claiming OT was a political hellhole despite it being a minority of users issuing the absolutist decrees you all are using?See this is just crazy. 1 idiot writes this and you try to condemn a whole website. How the fuck is this logical? Lots of recent OT members were like this. I just don't understand
If this thread is anything to go by, it seems like NeoGAF will be infested (or better yet, was already infested) with people that thinks standing against mysoginy, defending LGBT rights and calling out neonazis is considered SJW stuff.
No wonder Trump won the elections and Bolsonaro is heading its way to won in Brazil too. Having empathy became some sort of leftist meltdown, how fucking sad is that?
I'm as liberal as it gets, and I certainly wouldn't be the first to defend Evilore, but let's not make the situation out to be more than it was. Tyler awkwardly misread a situation, but the internet is making it seem like he assaulted the poor girl. When a man and a woman are sharing a hotel room, and there's alcohol involved, and someone goes in the shower and leaves the door open - it's not out of the realm of possibility that a person could misread the signs and make a pass. What's important is that both sides agree that, when she made it clear she wasn't interested, he backed off and respected her wishes. That's the difference between consent and non-consent.
So ummm, I checked the kotaku article and HOLY SHIT:
They had a sexual relationship after the alleged incident? So why I should believe this person's accusations again?
As the old members leave, the brand new ones, will stick around, join the forum and make this place bigger and better than ever.
I found you on twitter, but it seems abandoned. Did you get a new one or do you not use it?
OT should stay dead for a while. Too much toxicity that seeped into the gaming side.
Respect for the owner will never come back for some, to those, goodbye.
There was a lot of good users here, and the gaming community was the only thing that kept me coming back. To them I say thank you for all the good times.
If all the reasonable people leave, then this is goodbye, maybe I'll catch you in some other place.
So ummm, I checked the kotaku article and HOLY SHIT:
They had a sexual relationship after the alleged incident? So why I should believe this person's accusations again?
You know what I've always hated most about Neogaf?
I rarely felt like I could speak my mind. You risked being called something terrible for simply asking a question, or asking for more evidence, or simply being on the fence about something. I realize people hate toxicity, but the ban culture here -fostered- toxicity because the bandwagon attack mobs were allowed to shower insults at will... even if the insults themselves were hate driven ['cunt', for example].
If you asked a question, you were accused of baiting. Do you guys realize how toxic that is? People should always be allowed to ask questions. If you asked for more evidence, you were done. Heck, I fucking hate Trump. But if I mention that? Then clearly, I'm lying... right? I'm just setting up for something else. Bullshit. Bullshit, bullshit, bullshit. I've been far more left than almost every one here for longer than most here have been alive... but just because I don't agree with their agenda I risk being painted as a fascist, which is absurd. That's a culture of fear. That's censorship through ideology shaming. I guarantee my anarchy trumps your fucking Clinton loving nonsense, but god forbid I say anything against Clinton, because I get painted as a Trump loving fascist. That's sick. Sick, sick, sick. Broken minds led by broken ideology ruled by broken moderation that can't handle being questioned.
Now, you know what? I don't know if you're guilty of anything. I don't know if what was said to happen happened, and honestly, even if it did, I don't know what signals were or weren't sent, or what level of miscommunication happened. So I don't particularly like that you were summarily executed by mob. My guess is you're full of shit... but I know that's just a guess. I know I have no idea. And I won't execute you for it, just like I wouldn't execute Naughty Dog, even though it was so much fun for people here to leap to ridiculous conclusions based on a single tweet.
But you know what? You fostered an environment that summarily executes with no evidence. So while I hate it, and I'll -always- be on the side of 'wait for more information' regardless of the topic, I can't say I can't see the sick humor of it all. Some people need to learn by example, and if you're truly innocent of all charges, then I hope next time someone gets accused of something you support the presumption of innocence. This is not saying I don't think horrible things happen all the time - they do... my wife has been sexually harassed at work and I know how hard it is to come forward and rock the boat.
If you're guilty, then I hope you learn. Evolve. Grow. Become a better person. Everyone can change, even though some swear no one can.
If you're innocent, then also learn. Evolve. Grow. The culture of 'no proof needed' you fostered is sick... it flies in the face of everything our collective cultures have learned and fought for over the past few millennia. You reaped what you sowed, and it's either ironic, or horrifying, based on your guilt... which I can never know.
I'll probably get banned for this post. I don't think I said anything worth being banned for. In fact, I think this is a pretty fair assessment of both your actions, the accusations against you, and the general culture of this site. If you ban me, fine. If you don't, I'll still be here, posting, because, honestly, I don't judge a community on a single individual member. Heck, I don't judge -you- based on actions of a previous you, because I know people change over time.
People learn. People grow. People evolve. Maybe you have, maybe you haven't. Now it's time for you to do so, and in the process, evolve this site so it doesn't become an echo chamber of toxicity against anything deemed toxic.
I don't know, I think it's a limitation of whatever terrible forum software Evilore is running GAF on. There isn't even a quick reply box without a userscript.This is something I've never understood when I was cleared for registration in 2015. So many times I had seen ridiculous posts but no way to report to mods, vs. TONS of other forums having this as a standard feature.
You just said that's the case.
Like, you literally did.
Sexual assault allegations are almost inherently unreliable--not to say that they're presumptively false. So many do turn out to be false, though.
This... is getting kinda dangerous though. A private facebook post blew up so so much, this will end up actually discouraging victims or people from sharing their incidents and that's pretty terrible. She should be given as much benefit of the doubt as Tyler, you don't shut down an accusation saying she's not to be trusted. There's much back and fort and fact checking to be done to say anything.
This is a delicate situation that should not be used to fuel mob anger.
+1The way this is all being handled is inexcusably bad, it's just a master class in bad executive decisions. There isn't much community left here, but removing the Off Topic forum because the owner of the website allegedly did something disgusting several years ago -- and was identifies -- is punishing the community for disgusting decisions that the owner of the website made.
Evilore, the Off Topic forum did not make you make the wrong decision or do the wrong thing 2 years ago or 5 years ago. The Off Topic forum did not make Amir0x download child pornography. Yes, the Off Topic forum exposes risk for your business (these three issues are examples of that risk), but the reason your business is a business is largely because the site has both a gaming discussion area (which I think is the initial draw for most members) and then an off topic area (which most members also chat in). I think most people here became members to chat about videogames, but then naturally, you chat about other things you're interested in -- sports, movies, music, or the really specific topics like the Black Culture threads, developer/programming threads, or the communities like WrassleGaf or NFLGaf. Punishing those communities because you or your former staff are exposing your business to risk with poor choices is not the right way to handle this.
There have been a number of high profile sexual assaults in the news lately, and while most folks are talking about Harvey Weinstein, Liberty Mutual -- the investment firm -- has also recently fired two employees for sexual misconduct at the workplace. It wouldn't be right for Liberty Mutual to say, "We're not having the company Christmas Party, because Christmas parties is what got us into this mess in the first place," or "We're not going to participate in social out reach because social out reach has made us look like hypocrites with these sexual assaults." No, because it's not The Christmas Party or the Social outreach program that's causing the problem: It's bad, hurtful, or illegal decisions made by you or by some former staff members.
You've always had a reputation for making brash decisions, and most of these have not faired well for you. Poorly thought out statements about Amir0x that bent the truth, came too late, and just weren't handled correctly; decisions to ban certain topics from being discussed; decisions to ban certain members or former staff, and scores of others. This, though, is clearly the worst decision and it shows in inability to accept fault. This decisions seems to simply be another projection: "I've made bad decisions in my life and business, and so the business must be punished." That doesn't make any sense, it's selfish and delusional.
You have an opportunity to make the right decision. Obviously you feel like this site is your baby and "it's your's," but this business exists in spite of you, not because of you. It can be hard for a CEO or business owner to give up something that they think is theirs, many CEOs resist this and are befuddled when their board ousts them for a business that they themselves launched. The right thing for you to do would have been to announce that you're taking an indefinite leave of absence from NeoGaf. Revenue from the site would be put into an escrow account to cover expenses and hire staff who would manage it in your absence. A board of staff (moderators, admins) would be formed to hire staff who would manage the site and support the community. Those would be base level decisions which would ensure, at least, some integrity with the site which would keep at least some members around. The site would persist and could possibly bounce back, ultimately you wouldn't be punishing your customers or your business for your own bad decision. Instead, you made the wrong decision with how this was handled and then continually made the wrong decision with how you're going to move forward with this, instead of holding yourself accountable, you're punishing the community that has made your business successful.
It shows an utter lack of self-awareness which then also undermines any integrity that you're trying to preserve against allegations like the ones you're facing.
This is a delicate situation that should not be used to fuel mob anger.
The bad rep Neogaf had / has is due to people being outright banned if their views were different from the ones of the ruling party. Sympathise to TB? Banned. Stood neutral during gamergame? Banned! Don't think that diversity for the sake of diversity is good for video games? BANNED!
By all accounts it seems like EvilLore was wrongfully accused, but him getting a taste of his own poison is like poetry. Neogaf should be about video games, not about sensitive people behind the ruling scene.
This mob justice behaviour is embarrassing. It's 4chan levels of embarrassing. An allegation has been made, no proof has been delivered and people are losing their minds. It is truly sad.
Isn't Evilore saying the described situation didn't even happen in the first place?
In which case, again, why not do anything about that until now? That doesn't answer the question at all. He could have taken care of that at any time. But didn't. Or even given any indication that he thought it it as a problem that needed to be solved at all. So why nothing, not even a murmur, until now? Doesn't add up.I think he's implied that a lot of people were kinda afraid to moderate the OT board once it started getting out of control, for fear of being called any number of names or being piled on. Ironically the labeling of everybody as a trump voter or a nazi sympathizer was rampant there if you disagreed with something.
The bad rep Neogaf had / has is due to people being outright banned if their views were different from the ones of the ruling party. Sympathise to TB? Banned. Stood neutral during gamergame? Banned! Don't think that diversity for the sake of diversity is good for video games? BANNED!
By all accounts it seems like EvilLore was wrongfully accused, but him getting a taste of his own poison is like poetry. Neogaf should be about video games, not about sensitive people behind the ruling scene.
Sexual assault allegations are almost inherently unreliable--not to say that they're presumptively false.
Some of y'all just continuing to act like nothing happened are just as bad as Malka to be honest.
"BUT THE GAEMS!!!1"
Modbot was a mistake from the beginning.
You must shun him
The mob anger is in full course against one side of the whole thing already though. Bringing up stuff like the post you quoted isn't fuel for mob anger, it's the opposite.
Don't think that diversity for the sake of diversity is good for video games? BANNED! .
Probably the most even-handed assessment of the whole thread.
The irony of this forum's "shoot first, ask questions later" modus operandi coming back to bite the owner's ass himself was not lost on me either.
Soooo... less transparency in moderation? That doesn't sound like it'll help at all.
Apparently it's a big enough deal for him to delete half of his site over, despite giving absolutely no indication that he was ever considering such a thing at any point beforehand. It's weird to see people saying people are making a big deal over nothing, when Tyler seems to have had the largest reaction out of anyone.It's hilarious seeing people go ape shit over a total non-story. He misread the situation and made a move. The horror.
Fuck Evilore, and fuck the pussy he came out of. Your mom's should've swallowed your punk ass.