There is something
almost amusing about how a discussion around an article about rape by a woman who has actually written book and started a blog explicitly about getting women to let go of sexual shame, embrace sexual desire, debunking myths about male sexual aggressiveness, and whose only caveat on all this is that she is advocating a concept called enthusiastic consent is being turned into a "grrr evil feminists want to make sex all complicated and all sex will be rape
(" discussion.
It really bears no resemblance to laws as they exist, and no one is even advocating that these laws be changed; what is being advocated is that our understanding of the model for a rapist who does this is not some good kid who just makes a mistake but a predator who plans and repeatedly rapes and that the law should investigate the accusation seriously rather than repeatedly assuming that there is an innocent explanation for it.
... They are? Or at least, the ones I am familiar with are. And we are talking more narrowly about the United States in this topic; you'll need to make a different topic if you want to talk about another country.
I think it's true that in some forms of rape it is more difficult to make a case. At the same time, I think it is important that we encourage those women
to report nonetheless:
McWhorter used a Sexual Experiences Survey tool that has been in use for more than 20 years. Of her 1146 participants, 144, or 13%, admitted an attempted or completed rape substantially higher than Lisak & Miller. But in another respect, her work very much matched theirs: 71% of the men who admitted an attempted or completed rape admitted more than one, very close to Lisak & Miller's 63%. The 96 men who admitted multiple attempted of completed rapes in McWhorter's survey averaged 6.36 assaults each. This is not far from Lisak & Miller's average of 5.8 assaults per recidivist. Looked at another way, of the 865 total attempted or completed rapes these men admitted to, a staggering 95% were committed by 96 men, or just 8.4% of the sample.
The men who rape by alcohol tend to do so repeatedly - on average having six victims. By your sixth victim, you don't get to keep claiming that it was a misunderstanding, that it was just a mistake, or that it won't happen again.
Perhaps boring - sorry - but not a rapist.