I sort of feel like I'm in a weird situation. I love my girlfriend: she's stuck by me through thick and thin this year as I struggled in my career, she supported my risk taking, has managed to make me smile during the toughest of times, and has helped me grow into a better man. We have tons of stuff in common and always have a blast together. Most importantly, she understands me completely and I really could tell her anything.
But there's a really sad and unfortunate reality that I'm facing: we are financially on opposite sides of the spectrum. Although I'm not going to give exact figures, there's a giant disparity in terms of income levels (i.e. I earn about 6 times her salary).
Moreover, she's in tremendous debt from student loans (6 figures) with no concrete plan of action to pay it off. She has no desire to go back to school to enhance her job prospects and I feel like she isn't really "going" anywhere.
Today, I told her about these feelings and explained that as much as I love her, I don't feel like it would be possible to take the next step with her to start a family together due to these financial problems. Understandably upset, she asked that we stay together while she figures things out and I agreed to help her look for job opportunities.
But part of me feels like, she's not really going to change. She is who she is.... you know? She doesn't have that drive to be a breadwinner in her own right and that's always something I've considered to be important in a mate. Anyway, seeing her cry today during our talk about this totally broke my heart.
Am I shallow to contemplate ending the relationship over finances and her not having a concrete plan for her future?
But there's a really sad and unfortunate reality that I'm facing: we are financially on opposite sides of the spectrum. Although I'm not going to give exact figures, there's a giant disparity in terms of income levels (i.e. I earn about 6 times her salary).
Moreover, she's in tremendous debt from student loans (6 figures) with no concrete plan of action to pay it off. She has no desire to go back to school to enhance her job prospects and I feel like she isn't really "going" anywhere.
Today, I told her about these feelings and explained that as much as I love her, I don't feel like it would be possible to take the next step with her to start a family together due to these financial problems. Understandably upset, she asked that we stay together while she figures things out and I agreed to help her look for job opportunities.
But part of me feels like, she's not really going to change. She is who she is.... you know? She doesn't have that drive to be a breadwinner in her own right and that's always something I've considered to be important in a mate. Anyway, seeing her cry today during our talk about this totally broke my heart.
Am I shallow to contemplate ending the relationship over finances and her not having a concrete plan for her future?