Let me put it this way:
Bottom line, I will not use violence except in defense of myself or of others. I adhere to this pretty strictly.
But if I'm being a dick and saying some pretty nasty shit to someone and get decked, I'm not gonna whine like I didn't deserve it. Then again I don't tend to verbally abuse people like some kind of manchild.
If two of my friends get into a fistfight over some harsh words, they're both morons as far as I'm concerned. But it's likely there was a lot of alcohol involved anyway and no grudge is held.