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[-Minsc-]

Lust can be sexual but not restricted to. There can be the intense desire for anything. Sex, food, video games, comfort, etc. My journey started as quitting pornography but as time has gone on I see it runs deeper than that. There is a rooted unhealthy method of thinking developed from a young age. I'm sharing to help myself. If another is helped, then that is great too.

I read the entry for June 22 in the book "The Real Connection ". A sentence resonates. "Besides lustful images and fantasy, the noise in my head early recovery used to include songs, advertising jingles, jokes and imagined arguments with others."

Among what's listed in that sentence and more is in my thoughts. Letting go is a process. May all the noise within ourselves be quieted.

 

[WhamBamThankYouMaam]

M'lady.

 

[winjer]

 

[DKehoe]

Have you considered looking at the Sydney Sweeney thread?

 

[deriks]

But you're addicted to porn, sex or something?

I kinda did that too past year, and it was basically at june or july. I was in a mental place that if I hang out, I needed to have a woman. If I didn't, I would be pissed and\or depressed. I realized that I should be not involved in some events "sex focused", deleted Tinder, and tried to ease my mind

It somewhat worked. For my luck, a girl from the past showed up and we have our summer love for a couple months, and like any season, it was predictable to stop. Few months passes and I was invited to a [house swing] party, and I was fine just talking with my friends, but some girls appeared and I did them. The thing is after that I'm not like really wanting the next girl, and I'm just focusing on my work, family, games... Maybe is the age thing. I guess that everything that happens to me now is just profit

 

[Uberman77]

Among what's listed in that sentence and more is in my thoughts. Letting go is a process. May all the noise within ourselves be quieted.

What's the end goal or what are you trying to achieve? Is this a type of Zen approach where you want to be fully present in the moment? Have you studied or do you practice meditation?

 

[sono]

rooted unhealthy method of thinking

what did you find unhealthy in your case

 

[John Bilbo]

Addiction is a slippery snake that can take many forms.

 

[Hideous Snake]

What is unhelathy apart from pornography? Glad you quit that shit man

 

[Pejo]

Feels like the older I get, the saying "Everything in Moderation" is the real truth to life.

 

[Zacfoldor]

A funny phrase that may be true but people should not say.

"The older I get the more I lust for everything."

That said, I'm smitten with AI.

It's really far beyond that.

What is unhelathy apart from pornography? Glad you quit that shit man

Everything, without moderation. Just because we understand these truths doesn't mean we abide by them.

 

[mopspear]

The modern world really sucks OP. We're not built to handle what the world offers anymore.

You've got gooners, drug users, and people who spend all day on Twitter all day acting like any of that is normal. Zoom out a little bit. The normal human behaviors of the past 10-20 years are not normal and I could probably push that back a number of decades too! At least a forum is much less abusive to your brain. Well...

"May you win the war you tell no one about."

 

[Nocty]

I was addicted to sex and porn in my 20's and it got me into a lot of trouble. I went cold turkey from casual sex which in turn intensified the addiction to porn. I then went the other way and caught an STI which made me realise my shit needed to change before I got something worse or ruined my life entirely by getting someone pregnant etc

Would highly recommend it, felt like my brain got a full reset. I guess the youngsters call it 'nofap' these days