I have a question also, and I hope I don't offend anyone even by the question itself (I seriously mean no offense).
But I was just wondering why some people feel so acutely intent on "becoming" a certain gender?
I guess I don't feel very strongly about my own gender. I've never once though to myself "Yeah! I'm a real man's man!" or anything along those lines. I feel like even if I were a woman I'd be the same person. For me personally, I don't feel any strong gender "identity".
I feel I'd enjoy the same things, have the same job, dress the same way, have the same friends, and be attracted to the same people whether I was male or female.
Again, I don't mean to offend. I just don't understand what I'm missing.
Try thinking of it this way: You'd enjoy the same things, have the same job, dress the same way, have the same friends, and be attracted to the same people.
But a woman who did all the same things you do, had the same job, dressed the same way, had the same friends, and was attracted to the same people might be considered far more unusual.
Doing the exact same things you do now, but as a woman instead, might be harder than you think.
Let's say you love wrestling - participating, not watching, and you go to wrestling practice regularly, and enter competitions.
If you were a woman instead then you might find it harder to pursue that hobby, or to pursue it to the same level, and you wouldn't be allowed to participate in the same competitions (or if you did you would be judged differently).
Some jobs are unisex, but not all.
You might not get hired for a construction crew because they think you'll upset the team dynamics. Or because they think you're not up for the job physically. You might find yourself earning less if you work in management for a big corporation. You might find it harder to get taken seriously if you tell people you really want to be an auto-mechanic. You might find yourself getting chased out of work due to stalking or harassment from faceless nobodies if you work in videogames. And so on.
You think you'd dress the same way?
Dress codes and societal norms would likely get in the way of that, as would your figure.
When I grew up it was still common for schools for forbid girls to wear trousers. Imagine wanting to wear the same clothes as all the other guys because those are the clothes you like, but not being allowed because you're a girl.
(It's actually easier to see it would be odd if you use the opposite example though. Pretend instead that you're a woman who thinks she'd that, if she were a man, she would still be the same person, like the same things, and wear the same clothes.
Take an average woman and they probably own a dress or a skirt of a pair of heels. Even if they hate all those things they might own a low cut top. Obviously you'd actually be rather unlikely to go with those clothing choices if you were a man EVEN IF the only reason for that is because of the shit you'd get from other people, so saying you'd dress the same would be a lie)
Then once you get to being attracted to the same people, yes that's entirely possible, but it would now be classified differenty.
After all, if you're a man attracted to a woman you're heterosexual.
If, as a woman, you were attracted to that same woman then you would be a lesbian (or bisexual, if you're also attracted to men).
That means that
even if nothing else changed you would go from being part of a heterosexual majority as a man, to being part of the LGBT minority grouping if you were a woman.
Yes, a lot of that shit is tied up in cultural norms, but if you identify strongly with a number of things that would make you an oddity among the sex you were born as but would be normal otherwise can you see why someone might instead want to identify with the gender that would consider all those things normal?
Sometimes, as I understand it, people just flat out feel their bodies are wrong too.
You might
think you'd be the same as a man or a woman, but right now you're a man.
Now imagine you're that woman you assume would be the same as you, and you're growing up and looking in the mirror and nothing is quite right.
Imagine that instead of feeling okay or the same, you feel like something's missing. You can't build muscle the same way, or you can't engage in sexual encounters the way you feel like you should, because you feel like you should have a penis.
Even worse you have breasts and they get in the fucking way, and when you look at yourself in the mirror you can't shake the feeling that
they shouldn't be there because
your brain thinks you should look more masculine.
It would be fucking confusing.