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Am I in the forever friend zone?

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BlueTsunami

there is joy in sucking dick
Strangelove77 said:
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Emotional support groups need to be started for these social media abused guy friends. Oh wait, thats MRA's.
 
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uncelestial

Member
I doubt the veracity of many of these, and the discussion around friendzones is fraught with dangers and considerations, but these are funny as hell.

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Mammoth Jones

Member
BlueTsunami said:
Emotional support groups need to be started for these social media abused guy friends. Oh wait, thats MRA's.
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Well I mean if they'd stop simping and stop chasing girls that show no interest in a romantic relationship at worst at least their self-respect would be in tact.

My thing is if she made her point clear that she's not interested and you tell her you're cool with that then BE COOL WITH THAT. Don't act like "this is killing me inside wanting to be so close to you but only being able to smell your hair when you fall asleep watching movies at my place :(" Either be an ACTUAL friend (a friend doesn't lie and say they're ok being friends then trying to manipulate some pussy out of the situation) or let her know point blank: "Thanks but I've got enough friends I'm definitely interested in more but it's fine that you're not I'm gonna move on".

Shit, my last "let's be friends" girl was years ago before I met my now wife. She was drunk and while I felt like it was right to get shit started and she gave PLENTY of signs she wanted some D right then and there I wasn't trying to do shit with her drunk. Next week it's "Lets be friends" I was like "ok, np" and kept it moving. I was fine with being friends. And so was she....until I met my now wife and she straight up deaded me acting like I'm the one that got away....whatever Carla.

My point is be genuine. The worst thing about the "nice guy" is they're fucking liars. They're NOT just interested in being friends.
 
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Cimarron

Member
😂 you done goofed son. Take heart though. You are in an excellent position to get with any of her friends. If she isn't the jealous type.
 
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120v

Member
caps like this affirm my decision to stay off fb and instagram. if i saw a platonic friend pulling that bs dear god
 
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lightskintwin

Banned
excelsiorlef said:
And that's why both the term and mentality is fucking toxic
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I'd consider my friend the exception. One of the few dudes I've ever seen a woman outright reject him, the girl then flirts with one of us in front of him, and 3 months later they're somehow dating. He's been able to do this multiple times. One of the only people I've seen persistence working.

You're right that It's definitely something that shouldn't be encouraged, because there are a lot of lame moments in between that I've seen him subject himself to. I still remember her texting him to come to the club she was partying at, and him making me leave with him despite me having a great time making luv in the club with somebody, and going over there only to see her making luv in the club with somebody else and him just standing idly by right next to her. LOL Man, it was so lame, I couldn't help but feel embarrassed for him. Like at least move somewhere else, or dance with somebody so you look like you got some dignity.
 
Pagusas

Pagusas

Elden Member
lightskintwin said:
I'd consider my friend the exception. One of the few dudes I've ever seen a woman outright reject him, the girl then flirts with one of us in front of him, and 3 months later they're somehow dating. He's been able to do this multiple times. One of the only people I've seen persistence working.

You're right that It's definitely something that shouldn't be encouraged, because there are a lot of lame moments in between that I've seen him subject himself to. I still remember her texting him to come to the club she was partying at, and him making me leave with him despite me having a great time making luv in the club with somebody, and going over there only to see her making luv in the club with somebody else and him just standing idly by right next to her. LOL Man, it was so lame, I couldn't help but feel embarrassed for him. Like at least move somewhere else, or dance with somebody so you look like you got some dignity.
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I am very curious what "Making Luv" means to you.
 
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excelsiorlef

Member
lightskintwin said:
I'd consider my friend the exception. One of the few dudes I've ever seen a woman outright reject him, the girl then flirts with one of us in front of him, and 3 months later they're somehow dating. He's been able to do this multiple times. One of the only people I've seen persistence working.

You're right that It's definitely something that shouldn't be encouraged, because there are a lot of lame moments in between that I've seen him subject himself to. I still remember her texting him to come to the club she was partying at, and him making me leave with him despite me having a great time making luv in the club with somebody, and going over there only to see her making luv in the club with somebody else and him just standing idly by right next to her. LOL Man, it was so lame, I couldn't help but feel embarrassed for him. Like at least move somewhere else, or dance with somebody so you look like you got some dignity.
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I don't give a shit if it "worked" acting like being friends with a woman is like some horrible place that you must escape is toxic.
 
Go_Ly_Dow

Go_Ly_Dow

Member
i was in the friendzone, but then got out of it cos she fell in love with me after I cooked her fucking some damn fine noodles.

i used ginger, soy, sesame oil and chilli to make a dressing.

then prepped some rice noodles/vermicelli.

fried some shrimp in garlic and chilli in a wok.

then you put the noodles in the wok and pour in the dressing.

finally you garnish that shit with green onion and extra chilli.

within 12-32 hours, you'll be on a bed or sofa watching some netflix and she'll grab you and start kissing you.
 
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zerokoolpsx

Member
Some of these friend zone pics are so brutal lol.

WaterAstro said:
LOL What the hell is this still doing on first page.

Alright, here's the update. I listened to the GOOD advice about asking her again. I had the chance to as we went out for dinner after working with her most of the afternoon. I brought up the time I asked her out and asked if her feelings changed.

She said yes. She never thought about relationships seriously until she felt my dedication towards helping her with her life. She got to know me a lot better since she turned me down, and she wants me to be in a relationship, however, she doesn't feel confident in herself when it comes to a relationship where we would live with each other if she isn't making good income.

I told her that her money doesn't matter me, and that I'm going to help her no matter what kind of relationship we're in. She's still not comfortable being unable to share in the expenses, but she really likes our time together because it's giving her a lot of confidence and morale to work hard, so I told her that we can stay the course and keep doing what we're doing.

I guess I shouldn't say I'm not interested in a relationship with her, rather I should just say I stopped thinking about it in order to focus on helping her. Seems like our relationship built anyway, and I'm pretty happy with how things are right now. I don't think asking really made any difference, but it was nice to know.

Anyway, you funny gaffers with some good advice and mostly bad advice, you all made an interesting thread out of this situation. Keep it up.
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Huh, what? From rejection of 3 months to suddenly moving in together? lol, what is going on here?

WaterAstro said:
lol holy shit, you guys are way into this feminism thing and trolling that there's really nothing to be gained here anymore. I've got some good advice from like two gaffers and followed through, but the rest of you are just trolling. Enjoy this thread cuz I'm out.



We've been dating, or getting to know each other, for quite some time. I see in relationship gaf talking about 3-5 dates while we're over 50 dates already.
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Does she know she's been on 50 dates??
 
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AlexMogil

Member
M_Night said:
i was in the friendzone, but then got out of it cos she fell in love with me after I cooked her fucking some damn fine noodles.

i used ginger, soy, sesame oil and chilli to make a dressing.

then prepped some rice noodles/vermicelli.

fried some shrimp in garlic and chilli in a wok.

then you put the noodles in the wok and pour in the dressing.

finally you garnish that shit with green onion and extra chilli.

within 12-32 hours, you'll be on a bed or sofa watching some netflix and she'll grab you and start kissing you.
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Yo drugged your girlfriend.... with NOODLES.
 
///PATRIOT

///PATRIOT

Banned
Incendiary said:
Follow this handy-dandy checklist:

1. Do you want to bang her?
If yes, ask her out on a date - go to 2.
If no, congratulations she's your friend.

2. Did she say yes to a date?
If yes, congratulations you're going on a date.
If no, congratulations she's your friend - go to 3.

3. Can you be friends with her knowing you will never bang her?
If yes, congratulations she's your friend.
If no, stop pining after her or stop being her friend.

The end.
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This is a good algorithm.

Friend's event horizon escape velocity = speed of light.
 
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Principate

Saint Titanfall
WaterAstro said:
lol like I said, I'm not a dick who leaves a woman to fend for herself if she doesn't open her legs for me.
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What on earth are you on about? You can get a girlfriend and start dating without also leaving this women high and dry. Why on Earth do you think the two are mutually exclusive?
 
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lightskintwin

Banned
Pagusas said:
I am very curious what "Making Luv" means to you.
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Incredibly touchy, feely, sensual dry humping dancing that can include making out. On the outside looking in, you would assume the two people we're either dating or in a relationship.

excelsiorlef said:
I don't give a shit if it "worked" acting like being friends with a woman is like some horrible place that you must escape is toxic.
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The problem is you're creating two extremes with no nuance in between to discuss, when the human social experience is more complicated than that. I wouldn't necessarily call it an act, as she knew he wanted more from the jump when she rejected his advances in the beginning, but he bided his time in a term you hate "the friend zone" and somehow later she gave him a chance to go beyond friends.
 
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Hylian7

Member
I wondered why this thread was still going, then I saw the pictures...lmao. I really hope some of those are fake/jokes. I'm willing to bet most are real though.

Incendiary said:
Follow this handy-dandy checklist:

1. Do you want to bang her?
If yes, ask her out on a date - go to 2.
If no, congratulations she's your friend.

2. Did she say yes to a date?
If yes, congratulations you're going on a date.
If no, congratulations she's your friend - go to 3.

3. Can you be friends with her knowing you will never bang her?
If yes, congratulations she's your friend.
If no, stop pining after her or stop being her friend.

The end.
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This is correct.
 
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riotous

Banned
From this..

WaterAstro said:
I like to dwell on the possibility that she wants to be with me when we get her career going, but I needed to see what others think.
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WaterAstro said:
I guess I shouldn't say I'm not interested in a relationship with her, rather I should just say I stopped thinking about it in order to focus on helping her.
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lol.. you dwell... but stopped thinking about it?

I would never give the "bring it up and have a chat about it" advise that was given here; and sounds like WaterAstro is completely clueless (unless he's trolling.)

WaterAstro said:
She never thought about relationships seriously until she felt my dedication towards helping her with her life. She got to know me a lot better since she turned me down, and she wants me to be in a relationship
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LOL.. so she basically said "you showed me that relationships might be good"... "I want you to be in a relationship".. this is like the personification of those friend zone memes.

These forced "let's have a chat about something that should naturally progress" things just kind of kill me. Learn to read people, learn when to make a move.. being "friends" for months on end and then every once in a while checking in to see if they are "ready" for a relationship is just some cringey shit. If a girl wants more from you they will at LEAST hint if not outright make it plain as day. If they haven't done that, chances are they don't want anything more than friendship from you.
 
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excelsiorlef

Member
lightskintwin said:
The problem is you're creating two extremes with no nuance in between to discuss, when the human social experience is more complicated than that. I wouldn't necessarily call it an act, as she knew he wanted more from the jump when she rejected his advances in the beginning, but he bided his time in a term you hate "the friend zone" and somehow later she gave him a chance to go beyond friends.
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That's just called being friends and then hooking up.

Or should be. If he treated being friends with her as something he had to endure or survive or crawl out of or escape in the name of hooking up... that's still toxic regardless if it worked out.

Friendship with a woman should never be something you survive in the hopes of a sex reward.
 
Mediking

Mediking

Member
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Okay now this image DOES hurt. I've been here before. A woman you like asks your opinion about something, and you respond trying to show that you want her, then she deflects that she wants another dude. It's maddening as hell. Lol
 
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HabeeNo

Member
Incendiary said:
Follow this handy-dandy checklist:

1. Do you want to bang her?
If yes, ask her out on a date - go to 2.
If no, congratulations she's your friend.

2. Did she say yes to a date?
If yes, congratulations you're going on a date.
If no, congratulations she's your friend - go to 3.

3. Can you be friends with her knowing you will never bang her?
If yes, congratulations she's your friend.
If no, stop pining after her or stop being her friend.

The end.
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That makes too much sense, wow
 
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lightskintwin

Banned
ryutaro's mama said:
I love how the title they almost always give them is Best Friend. The ultimate Honorable Mention of Not A Boyfriend contender.
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Bruh, the worst is when it happens in real life. They're been so many times when a guy I knew brought a woman to a party or social gathering that he's supposedly "dating" but as soon as you talk to her, she let's it be known they're just friends. It's so sad, especially when you see her give her number out to some other guy she met at the same party or social gathering.

excelsiorlef said:
That's just called being friends and then hooking up.

Or should be. If he treated being friends with her as something he had to endure or survive or crawl out of or escape in the name of hooking up... that's still toxic regardless if it worked out.

Friendship with a woman should never be something you survive in the hopes of a sex reward.
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Maybe it shouldn't be like that, but for some people it is, especially if there's a certain type of person they want. For instance in this specific example, The woman looks much better than my friend and most people are shocked it's his girlfriend. However it does come with it's issues for him, such as her being suspect around more attractive men. So it's something I wouldn't recommend.
 
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zerokoolpsx

Member
Incendiary said:
Follow this handy-dandy checklist:

1. Do you want to bang her?
If yes, ask her out on a date - go to 2.
If no, congratulations she's your friend.

2. Did she say yes to a date?
If yes, congratulations you're going on a date.
If no, congratulations she's your friend - go to 3.

3. Can you be friends with her knowing you will never bang her?
If yes, congratulations she's your friend.
If no, stop pining after her or stop being her friend.

The end.
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This checklist is solid.
 
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OpinionatedCyborg

Member
Mediking said:
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Okay now this image DOES hurt. I've been here before. A woman you like asks your opinion about something, and you respond trying to show that you want her, then she deflects that she wants another dude. It's maddening as hell. Lol
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It's good, though... it helps establishes boundaries and makes it clear where you stand. If someone is crushign on you, it's better to burst that bubble early than help inflate it (inflating it is fun and rewarding in the short term, but your chance of being friends with that person in the long term are basically nill if you do it).
 
Mediking

Mediking

Member
Leeness said:
Haha you guys. He's very aware that I don't date, and he's currently dating someone (who he may be ~falling fooooor~) and tells me all about his dating adventures. :D
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Well, uh.... want a SINGLE guy's opinion of stuff...?

...

Couldn't resist.

No regrets!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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ryutaro's mama

Member
lightskintwin said:
Bruh, the worst is when it happens in real life. They're been so many times when a guy I knew brought a woman to a party or social gathering that he's supposedly "dating" but as soon as you talk to her, she let's it be known they're just friends. It's so sad, especially when you see her give her number out to some other guy she met at the same party or social gathering.
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Just goes to show how bad a lot of people about picking up on relationship (or lack thereof) cues.
 
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