I've been skimming this thread and it really is disappointing how some are reacting to this. I think this video will educate those who are trying to put everything in a box.
This gets repeated a lot. And it's not helpful, or justifiable, at all. No one should be asked, nay, forced to *segregate* themselves, and that is basically what you are asking her to do here. Separate but equal is NOT equal.No one is telling the child to use the boy's restroom. The child can use the neutral nurse's bathroom. Many people seem like they're missing this important piece of information.
I've been skimming this thread and it really is disappointing how some are reacting to this. I think this video will educate those who are trying to put everything in a box.
You know for a moment, i was expecting the music video for "Dick in a box".
You say it's complicated but you talk as if you have it figured out based on absolutely nothing.sounds like child abuse. someone said "it isn't like the kid is using the girls change room;showering with other girls". well what do you think is next?
I hold the opinion that kids this young are too young to know. I was very effeminate as a child, but that does not mean my parents should have pushed me to dress like a girl. let the kid be a kid. stop perpetuating differences between genders. it divides people, when in reality, there is no such division.
the issue is very complicated.
Bathrooms accommodate the equipment not the psyche.
You say it's complicated but you talk as if you have it figured out based on absolutely nothing.
You say it's complicated but you talk as if you have it figured out based on absolutely nothing.
CHEEZMO;48476354 said:He's the guy who had a meltdown and was banned in the last Trans-kid thread.
Slippery slope, much? She has a *legal* identity, marked on all of her documentation and paperwork. She *is* a girl. She's entitled to any and all access that other girls her age are entitled. No one is saying that anyone else be allowed to do anything else that they are not *legally* entitled to. The root of the matter is that Colorado state specifically has laws that prevent discrimination against gender identity. This is *against* the law there. And it's asinine to come up with make believe scenarios that aren't even happening right now to take away rights from this little girl.sounds like child abuse. someone said "it isn't like the kid is using the girls change room;showering with other girls". well what do you think is next?
Your opinion, would be wrong, and not backed by science, or current understanding.I hold the opinion that kids this young are too young to know. I was very effeminate as a child, but that does not mean my parents should have pushed me to dress like a girl. let the kid be a kid. stop perpetuating differences between genders. it divides people, when in reality, there is no such division.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity said:Basic gender identity is usually formed by age three and is extremely difficult to change after that. [5][6][7]
http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/917990-overview#aw2aab6b3 said:Clearly though, as gender development progresses in children, an acceptance and personal expression of a gender identity occurs. Traditionally, this has been called the core gender identity. Evidence suggests that this expression usually takes place by age 2-3 years. The gender role may not necessarily be well defined until age 5 years, although, in some cases, it is evident earlier. Although this concept and these reference-age ranges have been accepted for several decades, the full plasticity of gender identity has not yet been fully elucidated.
You are not a transgender person, and I am assuming your work does not involve studying and understanding them. Your life experience is irrelevant.I based it on my own life experience.
I based it on my own life experience.
CHEEZMO;48476354 said:He's the guy who had a meltdown and was banned in the last Trans-kid thread.
You'll probably find that, in general, if you base your opinions of things that are vastly outside your life experience on your life experience, you will run into problems.
yeah, after i was accused of having aspergers. very tolerant bunch, you are. i do not form opinions lightly. the ones i have, i hold strongly. if you were able to persuade me using science and logic, i could be a great ally for your cause. instead, you attack and alienate me, which only furthers my convictions.
and what is it that you are claiming to know about my life?
How many 6 year olds who identify as the opposite gender change their minds though? I can imagine that the rate might be not so low.There's such a statistically low number of transsexual individuals who decided they were wrong. As has been said in this thread, gender is one of the core backbones of the human psyche and identity. O e dies nit ponder gender identity and expression lightly. Most trans people who stop transitioning do so because of societal pressure which makes it a problem to do so.
This gets repeated a lot. And it's not helpful, or justifiable, at all. No one should be asked, nay, forced to *segregate* themselves, and that is basically what you are asking her to do here. Separate but equal is NOT equal.
She wants to use the girl's bathroom because she *is* a girl. Presuming any of the other girls are uncomfortable with her using the girl's bathroom, how would they (or you) take a suggestion that *they* instead be forced to use the nurse's bathroom instead? None of them would agree to that. Why? Because it's unfair and unjust to do that to them, or to Coy, or to anyone else.
You seem to waive all evidence provide away by the simple statement of "My life experiences contradict what you are saying, and your experiences, and the evidence you provide". Please do correct me if I'm wrong in that regard. And, if I am wrong, why doesn't my life experience, or any of the other trans* people in this thread, have any weight with you? Why aren't our experiences any more or less valid as your experiences?i do not form opinions lightly. the ones i have, i hold strongly. if you were able to persuade me using science and logic, i could be a great ally for your cause.
and what is it that you are claiming to know about my life?
That you don't have much life experience with transgendered people.
Is that wrong?
You seem to waive all evidence provide away by the simple statement of "My life experiences contradict what you are saying, and your experiences, and the evidence you provide". Please do correct me if I'm wrong in that regard. And, if I am wrong, why doesn't my life experience, or any of the other trans* people in this thread, have any weight with you? Why aren't our experiences any more or less valid as your experiences?
yes, it is wrong. last night at temple i sat with my trans friend, and they told me about their upcoming show. not that i should have to prove anything to you. I might as well leave the topic, because i have never before tried to have a discussion on an issue and been met with such hostility. no contrasting opinions allowed. got it.
yeah, after i was accused of having aspergers. very tolerant bunch, you are. i do not form opinions lightly. the ones i have, i hold strongly. if you were able to persuade me using science and logic, i could be a great ally for your cause. instead, you attack and alienate me, which only furthers my convictions.
How many 6 year olds who identify as the opposite gender change their minds though? I can imagine that the rate might be not so low.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/9094828/Gender-Identity-Disorder-in-children-an-experts-view.html said:Existing research indicates that children with GIDC grow out of gender dysphoria, do not grow up to be transgender, and most of them grow up to be homosexual. Again, no one knows why.
No, it's a poor compromise, and as-it-is, a violation of Colorado's discrimination laws.Given the given situation I think it is an excellent compromise.
Grade school logic right here. "Because you were mean to me, I won't support you anymore!" This shit is stuff I heard from the playground.
If I recall correctly, people did try and help you out with your odd question, but you kept saying what they said wasn't true and instead kept going back to what you defined the term as, at the same time beginning to insult others that were actually trying to help you out. It eventually ended with you having a meltdown off of something that you yourself started.
It's quite clear by your interest in these topics and the side you always jump on in said topics, as well as your ability to dodge and deflect answers given to you if they don't conform with your factually illogical thinking, you have no desire to actually learn more about transgendered people.
Do you mean sexuality? Because sex and gender are inexorably linked, you can't have gender dysphoria without a physical gender to be dysphoric about.It's unfortunate that it's so difficult for many people to separate sex from gender. Removing this ignorance is going to be (not that it hasn't been) a long and painful struggle that I look forward to participating in.
But sometimes I just feel that abolishing the concept of gender entirely would be quicker and less painful.
you can stop responding to me now. i never said i won't support you anymore...i never supported you in the first place.
also, no one answered my question. i was told that gender is not what genitals you have. i then asked what gender is, if not your sex. i was then told "it is the gender you identify with". i then said that gender as we know it is then based on stereotypes. i then asked to define gender without using the word gender, and no one could.
please stop responding, because i will not leave challenges unmet.
yes, it is wrong. last night at temple i sat with my trans friend, and they told me about their upcoming show. not that i should have to prove anything to you. I might as well leave the topic, because i have never before tried to have a discussion on an issue and been met with such hostility. no contrasting opinions allowed. got it.
Well, I think it is a simple and easy solution!
Genderqueer, trans, etc. people sometimes prefer gender neutral pronouns, and they/their/them is common due to there not being a solid singular solution.your 1 trans friend has THEIR upcoming show ?
besides the problematic plural, the part show (with your answers in this and the other thread) makes me think that your TRANS FRIEND is a drag queen
Genderqueer, trans, etc. people sometimes prefer gender neutral pronouns, and they/their/them is common due to there not being a solid singular solution.
Do you mean sexuality? Because sex and gender are inexorably linked, you can't have gender dysphoria without a physical gender to be dysphoric about.
i use 'they' and' their' to avoid getting attacked for using 'him' or 'her' in a way that some would see as inappropriate, and detract from what i am actually saying. i don't know what my friend would say. just trying to stay gender neutral.
i use 'they' and' their' to avoid getting attacked for using 'him' or 'her' in a way that some would see as inappropriate, and detract from what i am actually saying. i don't know what my friend would say. just trying to stay gender neutral.
I'm not sure that it would eliminate gender dysphoria. Gender roles and gender presentation can be distinct from gender. It's how and why there butch women or femme guys out there. Gender presentation, rigid gender norms, and the binary gender expectation are social constructs, and sure they could be dismantled, but that doesn't affect *gender* itself. But I guess I don't really know. It's an interesting (thought?) experiment for sure.That's kind of the point though. Eliminating gender roles would (hypothetically) eliminate gender dysphoria.
I mean, I've always seen gender and sexuality as gradients that were independent of each other and from what I've read most modern scientific analyses match my beliefs. Eliminating the binary divisions we have, such as gay/straight or male/female, would do a lot to free aversions to the subject.
Of course, it is nonetheless a radical initiative.
You don't even know the pronoum a friend prefers ?
We are talking about the most simple and binary case of transgender girl : the girliest of then all.
Hormones, surgery, probably heterosexual
There is NO question if this girl should use or not the girl bathroom.
Doctors and specialists said that.... even if I think that the biggest specialist on this question is herself, you cis people only believe if a DOCTOR tells it .. so .. a DOCTOR told it
Child abuse? How ridiculous. Did you even watch the video about her? She likes pink and yellow because they're bright and pretty, not because they're girly.sounds like child abuse. someone said "it isn't like the kid is using the girls change room;showering with other girls". well what do you think is next?
I hold the opinion that kids this young are too young to know. I was very effeminate as a child, but that does not mean my parents should have pushed me to dress like a girl. let the kid be a kid. stop perpetuating differences between genders. it divides people, when in reality, there is no such division.
the issue is very complicated.
Let's not try to divide Cis people and Trans people when you have Cis people on your side.
Child abuse? How ridiculous. Did you even watch the video about her? She likes pink and yellow because they're bright and pretty, not because they're girly.
I was a complete tomboy as a girl. Couldn't stand being called cute, hated princesses, loved sports, computers and playing in the dirt. Dressed in pretty neutral clothing, too. But I never once considered myself a boy. And my parents didn't try to push me into being one, either.
The thing is, science is coming to the conclusion that girls' and boys' brains are actually pretty different, and pretending that everyone starts as a blank slate is actually pretty damaging.
"However, I'm certain you can appreciate that as Coy grows older and his male genitals develop along with the rest of his body, at least some parents and students are likely to become uncomfortable with his continued use of the girls' restroom."
Everyone who is confused about trans kids should watch all the clips at this link.Some good information here, as well: http://www.katiecouric.com/on-the-s...d-in-the-wrong-body-growing-up-transgender-2/
I'm not sure that it would eliminate gender dysphoria. Gender roles and gender presentation can be distinct from gender. It's how and why there butch women or femme guys out there. Gender presentation, rigid gender norms, and the binary gender expectation are social constructs, and sure they could be dismantled, but that doesn't affect *gender* itself. But I guess I don't really know. It's an interesting (thought?) experiment for sure.
While I understand why you're enraged, you're really lashing out here. You really need to reread what he wrote and reconsider what he meant.A doctor telling myself that I need his opinion so that I know that I am trans is not on my side ... he is in the side that tells me that I am literaly SICK because I need a doctor and literaly CRAZY (transsexuality is listed as a mental disorder, gender variant people are listed as fetishism) because I can't decide for myself.
That cis doctor never needed anyone telling him that he was alowed to have puberty ...
They are not on my side ... they were a barrier that I had to go trough to get what everyone else get for garanted
well .. there are LOTS of cis girls who have genital surgery because they don't like the look of their genitals ...and they make plastic genital surgery.
Do you know how many psyquiatrists they need to convince that they need to have this surgery ?
NONE
Yeah I guess I phrased it incorrectly. Eliminating gender would be akin to eliminating personality. What I meant to say (as I tried to clarify in my last post) was eliminating gender roles specifically should, based on my limited understanding, eliminate gender dysphoria. With that said, I think we agree with each other for the most part.
While I understand why you're enraged, you're really lashing out here. You really need to reread what he wrote and reconsider what he meant.
Sorry Trojita ... Corgis who are trans allys are the best corgis =x