This is a dumb comment. You think stalking a woman would make for a fun day?I would've gone on the trip with him. Probably would have been a fun day, especially the end.
This is a dumb comment. You think stalking a woman would make for a fun day?I would've gone on the trip with him. Probably would have been a fun day, especially the end.
This is a dumb comment. You think stalking a woman would make for a fun day?
UUUUUHHHHHHHHH.....So I blocked the dude, removed him from PSN friends, can't call me. His mum calls me, says 'Jim has been trying to contact you can't get through.' I said 'I don't want to talk to or see Jim anymore so tell him and tell him not to contact me no more' also blocked his mother.
There is a goddamn hurricane going on here right now and he's rang my doorbell repeatedly at least 10 times, posted a letter through my door saying am I ok, then saying he needs my help, then saying he doesn't know what he'll do if I don't answer, then saying GOODBYE, then saying he'd see me soon. It's a little scary.
Lol, man I hope the live-action adaptation captures this.Hella days later, hella advice saying call the cops, and hes still knocking on your door. Why you havent called the cops I cant understand.
Edit: theres been a hurricane everyday since youve known him?
I think he was making a funny.
So I blocked the dude, removed him from PSN friends, can't call me. His mum calls me, says 'Jim has been trying to contact you can't get through.' I said 'I don't want to talk to or see Jim anymore so tell him and tell him not to contact me no more' also blocked his mother.
There is a goddamn hurricane going on here right now and he's rang my doorbell repeatedly at least 10 times, posted a letter through my door saying am I ok, then saying he needs my help, then saying he doesn't know what he'll do if I don't answer, then saying GOODBYE, then saying he'd see me soon. It's a little scary.
It's not your responsibility but if you want what is best for everyone involved see if he is interested in learning about behavioural psychology and wants to get help.
Also, has the, uh, stalkee had any opportunity to speak about what they are or are not okay with outside of unfair or unhealthy influences? I've been a victim of stalking. I've also been catfished to make it appear as though I had an uninvited interested in someone. Try to ensure you understand both sides. See if your friend is open to learning types of behaviour that could make her an easier target for someone like that too. Victim blaming isn't fair but wanting someone to learn about human behaviour for their own sake is never a bad thing.
I don't want to associate with him or his family in any way, they can figure that out for themselves. And as I don't know the woman at all, I have no idea.
Despite all the "advice" you got from GAF: I don't think abruptly cutting ties with this guy all a sudden was such a smart and safe move.
Considering he knows where you live and he can conveniently show up at your door any given day, you may want to put him down gently....
Just phase out of his life in a span of two weeks or something without any drastic, sudden behavior. He doesn't seem to understand basic social behavior, good luck out there man!
Despite all the "advice" you got from GAF: I don't think abruptly cutting ties with this guy all a sudden was such a smart and safe move.
Considering he knows where you live and he can conveniently show up at your door any given day, you may want to put him down gently....
Just phase out of his life in a span of two weeks or something without any drastic, sudden behavior. He doesn't seem to understand basic social behavior, good luck out there man!
Despite all the "advice" you got from GAF: I don't think abruptly cutting ties with this guy all a sudden was such a smart and safe move.
Considering he knows where you live and he can conveniently show up at your door any given day, you may want to put him down gently....
Just phase out of his life in a span of two weeks or something without any drastic, sudden behavior. He doesn't seem to understand basic social behavior, good luck out there man!
Well, I sincerely wish you best of luck, I don't know what else to say. Hope you don't get harassed by him or his family in any shape or form.You'd be right, except I'm tired and just drained, and if I gave him another chance or tried to let him down gently, I'd give up on trying to get rid of him, so it has to be a clean break. Or as clean as it gets.
Agreed. It's easy for people to say "just cut ties with him" when the guy doesn't know all of their personal details including their actual address.Despite all the "advice" you got from GAF: I don't think abruptly cutting ties with this guy all a sudden was such a smart and safe move.
Considering he knows where you live and he can conveniently show up at your door any given day, you may want to put him down gently....
Just phase out of his life in a span of two weeks or something without any drastic, sudden behavior. He doesn't seem to understand basic social behavior, good luck out there man!
Your friend is a fucking creep
This guy reminds me of Denkos stalker. (´・ω・`)
Well I'm kinda tired dealing with his bullshit about women, muslims, abortions, national service to get homeless people off the street because he doesn't like to look at them, etc, that I thought I might be misreading him a tad.
So I blocked the dude, removed him from PSN friends, can't call me. His mum calls me, says 'Jim has been trying to contact you can't get through.' I said 'I don't want to talk to or see Jim anymore so tell him and tell him not to contact me no more' also blocked his mother.
There is a goddamn hurricane going on here right now and he's rang my doorbell repeatedly at least 10 times, posted a letter through my door saying am I ok, then saying he needs my help, then saying he doesn't know what he'll do if I don't answer, then saying GOODBYE, then saying he'd see me soon. It's a little scary.
So I blocked the dude, removed him from PSN friends, can't call me. His mum calls me, says 'Jim has been trying to contact you can't get through.' I said 'I don't want to talk to or see Jim anymore so tell him and tell him not to contact me no more' also blocked his mother.
There is a goddamn hurricane going on here right now and he's rang my doorbell repeatedly at least 10 times, posted a letter through my door saying am I ok, then saying he needs my help, then saying he doesn't know what he'll do if I don't answer, then saying GOODBYE, then saying he'd see me soon. It's a little scary.
Not really. I am a weak person though so I do need people to tell me to stop with things like this, otherwise I wouldnt do it.it kind of seems like you want to be patted on the back for finally dumping this atrocious person you continued to be friends with
it kind of seems like you want to be patted on the back for finally dumping this atrocious person you continued to be friends with
Terrible post.it kind of seems like you want to be patted on the back for finally dumping this atrocious person you continued to be friends with
I actually had a situation like this when I was younger. We were in the same classes and lived in the same apartment complex, so the dude somehow latched onto me. It starts off insidiously, but then there's a crisis and you end up with lots of uninvited visits to your apartment, late night calls about nothing, and just a generally dangerous view of the world that you end up trying to contain.
I can see why the OP found it difficult to cut ties: these people are scary, know stuff about you from before you realized they were crazy, and you have no idea how they'd react if you cut them out.
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Yes exactly. He wasn't always as crazy as he is now, or he didn't seem it anyway. And when I first moved here he introduced to me my first social circle. Also ruined it for me and made a facebook group with those people about what a loser I apparently am, but still.
Yes I should have broken ties before now but I can't change things.
There is actually a resolution of sorts to this!
So Jim told people he was going to Offaly to meet his 'girlfriend' Laura (not the real name) that he's been ranting about for weeks and weeks now.
Turns out that someone round here actually knows Laura and or recognised the description and where she lives and works etc, and asked her about it, and she was really unhappy about it, and the fact he'd gone down to try and find her, so through this mutual acquittance she informed Jim that she wasn't his girlfriend, she was trying to be friendly but she wasn't interested before and definitely isn't now, she was going to inform the Gardai and she was going to change her number and if he tried to contact her again her dad would kick his arse.
Jim's response has been to post several rants on facebook (I'll post the screenshots someone sent me in the morning) about how women are all liars and snakes and have all the power, and how Laura was probably a lesbian anyway and he'd 'fucking sort her out' next time he saw her and she was probably a slut anyway and angry angry ranting.
Jim's response has been to post several rants on facebook (I'll post the screenshots someone sent me in the morning) about how women are all liars and snakes and have all the power, and how Laura was probably a lesbian anyway and he'd 'fucking sort her out' next time he saw her and she was probably a slut anyway and angry angry ranting.
There is actually a resolution of sorts to this!
So Jim told people he was going to Offaly to meet his 'girlfriend' Laura (not the real name) that he's been ranting about for weeks and weeks now.
Turns out that someone round here actually knows Laura and or recognised the description and where she lives and works etc, and asked her about it, and she was really unhappy about it, and the fact he'd gone down to try and find her, so through this mutual acquittance she informed Jim that she wasn't his girlfriend, she was trying to be friendly but she wasn't interested before and definitely isn't now, she was going to inform the Gardai and she was going to change her number and if he tried to contact her again her dad would kick his arse.
Jim's response has been to post several rants on facebook (I'll post the screenshots someone sent me in the morning) about how women are all liars and snakes and have all the power, and how Laura was probably a lesbian anyway and he'd 'fucking sort her out' next time he saw her and she was probably a slut anyway and angry angry ranting.
.That doesnt sound like a resolution at all. Now shes in the crosshairs for a violent attack. Probably wont be resolved until hes behind bars.
There is actually a resolution of sorts to this!
So Jim told people he was going to Offaly to meet his 'girlfriend' Laura (not the real name) that he's been ranting about for weeks and weeks now.
Turns out that someone round here actually knows Laura and or recognised the description and where she lives and works etc, and asked her about it, and she was really unhappy about it, and the fact he'd gone down to try and find her, so through this mutual acquittance she informed Jim that she wasn't his girlfriend, she was trying to be friendly but she wasn't interested before and definitely isn't now, she was going to inform the Gardai and she was going to change her number and if he tried to contact her again her dad would kick his arse.
Jim's response has been to post several rants on facebook (I'll post the screenshots someone sent me in the morning) about how women are all liars and snakes and have all the power, and how Laura was probably a lesbian anyway and he'd 'fucking sort her out' next time he saw her and she was probably a slut anyway and angry angry ranting.