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This isn't a relationship right.
- Thread starter TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared
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Mammoth Jones
Member
Can GAF help me understand how people think shit like this is normal or OK? You gonna go physically bother someone because they not returning calls and you don't even know them? What's going on in a person's head to think this dumb shit?
Seriously. Grow a spine if you don't want to be bothered. I've told friends flat out: don't just show up at my crib. Call first and see if I feel like being bothered.
Pick better friends then. The problem is you not doing so.
Seriously. Grow a spine if you don't want to be bothered. I've told friends flat out: don't just show up at my crib. Call first and see if I feel like being bothered.
Pick better friends then. The problem is you not doing so.
Had a friend like this myself. You really need to just distance yourself and back away. They are emotional vampires and only care that they feel good. Other people's thoughts do not play into the equation, and thats assuming they are even capable of realizing that other people have thoughts.
You need to be Michael Scott here:
You need to be Michael Scott here:
sixteen-bit
Member
what episode of the it crowd is this?
Earthbound64
Banned
In Offaly? How awful. Hopefully this doesn't end with any spilt offals.
Assuming you're not joking, it's from This is 40.
whatsinaname
Member
I was going to make some "nice guy" joke but fuck that. This is call-the-cops territory.
Astral Dog
Member
Im intrigued by this Gay stuff.
So you think he is closeted Gay but basically harrassing a woman?
So you think he is closeted Gay but basically harrassing a woman?
ArgyleReptile
Banned
The people on Reddit and Youtube said to do it.
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared
Member
I do, but he wouldn't admit it. I've never known anyone to talk about gay people or gay sex so often, describe gay sexual acts in lurid detail, and then say he was only messing or say 'THATS WHAT THE QUEERS LIKE NOT ME' like him. As to how this relates to his harassing this woman, I don't know.
Fulminator
Member
That boy ain't right
Undiagnosed mental illness.
I had a room mate that was like this. He would stalk a girl's social media. And when they didn't return his call and or messages, he would show up to the places where these girls said they were going to be at in social media. He got more than one restraining order. But that didn't stop him, he would move on to his next target. The other roommates and me eventually talked to his parents, and they admitted he was diagnosed with something early on, they didn't want to say what, and they never told him because they wanted him to grow up normal. Well, after that conversation we kicked him out as fast as we could.
To the OP, I wouldn't antagonize a person like that. You don't want to make yourself a target. And I would slowly distance myself. But the important part is to always maintain that what he's doing is not right. Never agree to work with him, or agree that any small part of what he's doing is ok. He will latch on to any minor detail and will bring you up as agreeing with him, as his justification for doing things.
Dude, girl responded twice. You're basically fucking already!
Honestly, the fact he is stalking the girl, you need to give a heads up to the girl, parents, or cops. The boy needs help
lmaooooo exactly
umop_3pisdn
Member
Frustration and poor emotional intelligence.
LostCaress
Member
That sounds like something that should be handled by the police.
RadioJoNES64
Banned
Going to pay devil's advocate here and suggest that he is completely unaware of how creepy he is. Let him know.
Horse Detective
Why the long case?
God, the shit women have to deal with
Fourmyle of Ceres
Member
Yo that edit
hipbabboom
Huh? What did I say? Did I screw up again? :(
Im going to venture to say that almost everyone, on and off GAF, knows at least one delusional person.
innervision961
Member
I think you already know the answer to this.
RoseBell69
Member
Right?
dripdripsplash
Member
no man it's not a god damn relationship.
please cut this man off. having toxic people around you is not good for your mental health.
please cut this man off. having toxic people around you is not good for your mental health.
butzopower
proud of his butz
I feel like a guy who travels for 3 hours across the country on the 0.01% of getting laid is probably just down to have any sort of sex.
OmegaTreeFish
Banned
GAF makes me feel so incredibly sane on a daily basis.
serious WTF lol
serious WTF lol
OminoMichelin
Member
Yes, and they generally are made by similarly deranged and potentially dangerous people.
OP now that the issue with your "friend" is being handled by his parents I'm rather more concerned about you.
What you wrote is very worrying. You're using language of a demoralized abuse victim here and I fear it might take a huge toll on your life. Please, if there is someone you could talk to I encourage you to talk about it and seek a proper way out of your situation.
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared
Member
I think he's just a dangerous weirdo. I'm glad I called his parents though, cos that woman didn't deserve having to interact with him.
I mean I blocked him? He has just drained all my physical and emotional energy, and does so on a daily basis, and over the 8 years I've never convinced him that any of his mad ideas are wrong, and he's just like that.
Spiritual_Chaos
Banned
24 years old. Looking at youtube videos to get conformation that your 150 text messages without a response means she's into you.
I'm dying lol
Yes, I know that but as you said this isn't the first time you've done that
Did he basically just abuse himself back into your life?
And when you say that he has drained all your physical and emotional energy, simply blocking him on social media isn't going to cut it. As you've said before, he can just come knocking on your door. You need to have him really cut out of your life, in a way you don't need to be constantly on your toes.
To be blunt I really fear you are a victim of psychological abuse, it is nothing to be ashamed of, it can happen to anyone. I urge you to seek help.
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared
Member
I don't know how to do that? Short of a restraining order or whatever the equivalent is here.
You'll never prove to him that he's wrong. If he's the type to latch onto any little thing to justify his behavior.
Really sorry to hear it's been going on for so long. Put your emotional well being first please.
Astral Dog
Member
Unfortunately not only soman have to deal with this guy, op and Gay dudes have been attcked, probably lots lf Black guys too
I see, thanks for responding. He sounds really bad.
This is an opportunity, tell him head on its over and you will grow. He doesn't get any minute more of your time.if he keeps insisting try any authority that could help sto and remember he doesn't have to be your friend. You gave him a fair (many) chances
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared
Member
Well he's made a facebook group about me before because I was having some serious self harm problems and made the error of telling him, hopefully his parents will let him know its not ok to do that sort of thing to this girl especially.
I understand.
Ireland, right? Maybe you could start by contacting crime victims helpline. Tell them about your situation and the things you've told about here, maybe they could be able to help you find solutions. You don't need to tell who you are, you don't need to report a crime, but you could ask what to do.
https://crimevictimshelpline.ie/
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