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[IdreamofHIME]

Not until they find a cure.

 

[acrid]

lol fuck no!! drop her like a bad habit.

eh, didn't realize this was a necrobump. still, though i've been with my wife for 20 years now, no way i'd ever have dated someone with an std. don't give a shit how 'amazing' her personality is.

 

[woolley]

Herpes are forever, relationships aren't. I would have to move on.

 

[wenis]

Chances are you already have it. So I dunno. Sex! Amirite?!

 

[Zombine]

I would. I don't feel like anyone should be isolated from love or sexual contact for their entire life because of something like that. Safety and communication is key, and as long as everyone is on the same page it can be amazing and a confidence booster for the person who has it. I wouldn't throw that kind of connection away for what? Some other random chick who might not be as upfront as that person and actually give you the virus? I'd rather be with someone who is honest.

 

[shoreu]

I said to use protection. I'm pretty sure condoms would be sufficient to avoid the contagion. But if no, that's something to reconsider of course.

Condoms do not protect you from that.

What's up with all the necros.

 

[entremet]

Love conquers all.

 

[Kenstar]

Condoms do not protect you from that.

What's up with all the necros.

Necros are only the 1st post to bump it, after the necro post the topic is active again and can't be necro'd until it dies once more.

 

[Subpar Spatula]

No. Even if it's manageable I don't think I would.

 

[norm9]

It's a yes for me but only if its a long term relationship and my last sexual partner and if I finally decide on not having offspring.

 

[BokehKing]

Herpes is scary, you can have sex with a girl today and get your first outbreak 5 years from now.


I got to agree with the whole "having thoughts of having this conversation with potential love interests in the future" is the sure sign not to do it.


If you ever had a cold sore in your life, then you have Herpes. Try only sleeping with someone you care about.

 

[Shpeshal Nick]

Depends on how attractive she is.

Someone that looks like Yanet Garcia?

Fuck yes. Id walk a kilometre barefoot over broken glass to smell one of her farts. So yeah id have sex with her if she had herpes.

 

[ant_]

Practice safe sex and do it. A lot of people in this thread don't seem to know much about herpes.

 

[norm9]

Practice safe sex and do it. A lot of people in this thread don't seem to know much about herpes.

Lots of no big deals. Kinda crazy.

 

[Trojita]

Herpes genitalis (or genital herpes) is a genital infection caused by the herpes simplex virus (HSV). A 1998 study indicated it was the most common sexually transmitted infection by the number of cases. Most individuals carrying herpes are unaware they have been infected and many will never suffer an outbreak, which involves blisters similar to cold sores. While there is no cure for herpes, over time symptoms are increasingly mild and outbreaks are decreasingly frequent. HSV has been classified into two distinct categories, HSV-1 and HSV-2. Although genital herpes was previously caused primarily by HSV-2, genital HSV-1 infections are increasing and now cause up to 80% of infections.

When symptomatic, the typical manifestation of a primary HSV-1 or HSV-2 genital infection is clusters of genital sores consisting of inflamed papules and vesicles on the outer surface of the genitals, resembling cold sores. These usually appear 4–7 days after sexual exposure to HSV for the first time. Genital HSV-1 infection recurs at rate of about one sixth of that of genital HSV-2.

After approximately 80% of first episodes of herpes genitalis caused by HSV-2, there will be at least one recurrence, while the recurrence rate for herpes genitalis caused by HSV-1 is approximately 50%. Herpes genitalis caused by HSV-2 recurs on average four to six times per year, while that of HSV-1 infection occurs only about once per year. People with recurrent genital herpes may be treated with suppressive therapy, which consists of daily antiviral treatment using acyclovir, valacyclovir or famciclovir. Suppressive therapy may be useful in those who have at least four recurrences per year but the quality of the evidence is poor. People with lower rates of recurrence will probably also have fewer recurrences with suppressive therapy. Suppressive therapy should be discontinued after a maximum of one year to reassess recurrence frequency.

About 16 percent of Americans between the ages of 14 and 49 are infected with genital herpes, making it one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases. More than 80% of those infected are unaware of their infection. Annually, 776,000 people in the United States get new herpes infections.

Tests for herpes are not routinely included among STD screenings. Performers in the pornography industry are screened for HIV, chlamydia, and gonorrhea with an optional panel of tests for hepatitis B, hepatitis C and syphilis, but not herpes. Testing for herpes is controversial since the results are not always accurate or helpful. Most sex workers and performers will contract herpes at some point in their careers whether they use protection or not.

Early 20th century public health legislation in the United Kingdom required compulsory treatment for sexually transmitted diseases but did not include herpes because it was not serious enough. As late as 1975, nursing textbooks did not include herpes as it was considered no worse than a common cold. After the development of acyclovir in the 1970s, the drug company Burroughs Wellcome launched an extensive marketing campaign that publicized the illness, including creating victim's support groups.

It amuses me that the people saying hell no to having sex with a girl that has herpes have a high chance of having herpes themselves and not knowing it,

Spoiler

unless they are virgins.

 

[GhostWriter24]

Idk. It's hard to discount maybe a fourth or fifth of the population but if I visually saw something like that and I wasn't told...party's over

 

[The Sarcastic Dude]

Hell to the no.

 

[sir_kevith]

It amuses me that the people saying hell no to having sex with a girl that has herpes has a high chance of having herpes themselves and not knowing it,

Spoiler

unless they are virgins.

If 1 in 4 adult women have it imagine how bad it is if you sample a small to medium sized university where everyone's boning each other.

Anyone who's sexually active and had multiple partners has probably encountered it. One girl owns up to it and is responsible and everyones disgusted by it?

 

[Two Words]

Fuck no. If she got an STD, she likely got it from sleeping around. Don't ruin your life and put one girl on a pedestal, the fact you are already thinking about your next partners says it all.

Yes, OP. Don't worry that she has an STD. Worry that she has been......SLEEPING AROUND! After all, who on earth would want to have sex with a woman who has a vibrant sex life? Shouldn't she have been considering your views on sex this whole time because of the off-chance she builds a relationship with you?!?!

 

[Darksol]

Not a chance.

 

[Dreams-Visions]

Sorry for the bump, but I just had this very situation come up with me.

We have been dating for about a month, and she disclosed to me that her ex gave her HSV-2 after cheating on her with one of his ex's. She gave me a Planned Parenthood booklet on herpes. She was so scared and embarrassed telling me. She said that her parents don't even know about her STD. I give her huge respect points for telling me this before we start becoming sexually active with each other. She said she completely understood if I wanted to breakup right then, and would rather it end now than get too attached and have the breakup hurt even more later.

I'm honestly shocked by the amount of fear in this topic. Yea, STDs are no fun, but the statistics and medical recommendations don't make HSV sound too terrible. I get the impression that this is a situation where the realty isn't as bad has the public perception. People in the field know the facts and aren't overly concerned, but people not in the know are irrationally scared.

I'm reading up on the virus and seeking opinions, but I don't see this being a deal breaker. I think I will suggest that we go see a doctor together to discuss our options and maybe both get screened. She will be my 4th sexual partner, and as far as I know, I do not have herpes, but like others have said, I may very well have it too but I'm just unaware of it.

you've only been dating her a month. why is this even a question? if you'd been with her a year or more, you'd have a tougher call to make.

to accept what she's presenting, you should be looking at it from the perspective of how likely she is to be your last sexual partner, or at least a very long term one. If you don't see her being the one you marry, just move on now. you're not going to want to potentially contract her STD and have to make the same proposition she had to make to you to the next woman.

be smart. think with your head and make a sound decision. if she had enough potential to seriously consider it, just go without sex for the next several months and see how you really feel about her potential as a long-term mate. that should be the goal if you're considering her.

 

[turtle553]

Nope. I got a wart from a chick once and had to freeze that sucker off. One scare is enough.

Congratulations, you have HPV and can now pass it on even if no warts are present. I hope you are telling all future partners before having sex.

 

[blummer102]

Frankly, many people out there do not get STI tested as much as they should, and once someone's slept with more than one person, it's actually quite rare for them to achieve this "100% clean" status that so many GAFers claim to have. With the case of something like Herpes, you can have a single outbreak and then nothing for years. Considering that people with strong immune systems can quickly develop a resistance to the disease, AND the fact that a non-serious outbreak can look like a simple rash or ingrown hair, many don't know they have what essentially amounts to an annoying skin condition at the end of the day.

The reality is that sex is never as clean and mess-free as people think it is, and sexually transmitted infections are far more common than you'd believe. It's understandable if people don't want to pursue relationships with partners who have STIs; that's their prerogative, after all - but please do not spread doom and gloom ignorance or say things like "shake her hand with a glove and then burn it". Everyone sleeping around has the chance of one day unexpectedly contracting something themselves.