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Would you date a girl who had genital herpes?
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TheKaeptain
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This thread just had to be bumped today...
He probably means hsv2... You usually don't identify the HPV serotype since there are so many
Darth Karja
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That confused me too. They are very different things. The chances of getting HPV at some point in your life are very high. It shouldn't even be a concern. If either of you have it you will most likely not know.
Herpes on the other hand... That's some shit right there.
Assuming you're talking about HSV-2 (mouth herpes or coldsores) as HPV is something else as Briarios pointed out and should not be confused with herpes.
Either way, over 8 people out of 10 have some form of herpes whether they know about it or not. Some people are unfortunate in that they get outbreaks while others don't get one outbreak for their whole lives. Even people without outbreaks can transmit.
But yeah, the fear of herpes/HSV in this thread is pretty overblown. Some hear about it being an 'STD' and freak out... while a lot of people transmit it to babies and little kids from regular every day interactions without realizing it. On this point, genital vs 'coldsores' doesn't mean anything because you can get both in either places, mouth or groin area. It is always funny to read that some people really think that sleeping around is the reason to get it.
Again assuming you're talking about herpes and if your girlfriend gets outbreaks, then you and her can look into acyclovir and the like to help with it as those are very safe and cheap.
psychotron
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This. If this girl is special to you, you'll work around it.
the_prime_mover
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Sorry, do you mean HSV2? There is no HPV2, and HPV is actually very common - men can be carriers without any symptoms and many women will likely never know they have it as well. As for HSV2 if it is anything like HSV1 then the carrier is definitely going to know prior to a breakout, so communication and caution should ensure that it isn't passed on.
As an aside, that first post implying something negative about women who have had multiple partners is ultra classy...
The amount of fear and "hell no" responses in this thread is kinda sad. I thought so when I originally read the thread, and again now.
Obviously sleeping with someone that carries it is going to come with risks, but so long as she (referring to both the OP and the newest bump) keeps track of her symptoms and informs you when she is flaring up, the risk can be mitigated.
And as for the first post in the original part of the thread, you come across as completely ignorant on this topic. It's amazing to me that people still think STD's only happen to people that sleep around.
Obviously sleeping with someone that carries it is going to come with risks, but so long as she (referring to both the OP and the newest bump) keeps track of her symptoms and informs you when she is flaring up, the risk can be mitigated.
And as for the first post in the original part of the thread, you come across as completely ignorant on this topic. It's amazing to me that people still think STD's only happen to people that sleep around.
And this is one way of it spreading.
MiketheBSG
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My wife got it from his ex-husband who unfortunately cheated on her, but she knows when it's raging and when it's not. It's very embarrassing to her but I have supported her throughout. We've been married for 6 years now and I'm still STD free.
You can still be with her as long as she cares about you enough to know when to prevent it from spreading.
You can still be with her as long as she cares about you enough to know when to prevent it from spreading.
She had HSV-2. My error in typing.
BossLackey
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Herpes is for life dawg.
MrOogieBoogie
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Implying that he won't have sex again if he has herpes? Do you know how many people unknowingly have STDs and continue to have sex?
Damn, dude. Kudos to you for having the strength to make that work.
Thanks for sharing.
Exactly my point above, don't allow something that silly to ruin what could be a worthwhile relationship.
PhoenixDark
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Fuck no.
I think he's implying that poster will need to go through the whole spiel about having it to potential partners, will have to be extra aware of flare-ups to potential partners, and will have crossed himself off the list of a potential partner to a lot of people if he's contracted it.
And people who don't get tested are fucking things up by spreading potential diseases like herpes. People who have it without disclosing it are assholes.
Having herpes isn't the end of the world but minimizing it and potentially helping it spread is insane.
Trojita
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Man there are a lot of dumb assertions on here. Human Society has had herpes for as occasionally annoying bumbs in the genitals. It hasn't been until the last 100 years that it became tountamount to being a sexual leper. Back then they actually had to deal with fucked up shit like Syphilis.
I don't know anyone that has it and I don't have it as far as I know, but it seems like the worst part of it is the obligation to tell someone that you have it or the guilt if you don't tell someone just so you can get some without the hassle. You can't even get a normal bump on the lip without people saying dumb shit.
As a member, you should have just created another thread for this.
I don't know anyone that has it and I don't have it as far as I know, but it seems like the worst part of it is the obligation to tell someone that you have it or the guilt if you don't tell someone just so you can get some without the hassle. You can't even get a normal bump on the lip without people saying dumb shit.
As a member, you should have just created another thread for this.
chaobreaker
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You already made your opinion clear on the first page.
Asking what are expectations from this relationship and how willing he is to communicate this to future partners, calm down.
ThankYouDaletech
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Just make sure to stuff your testicles into the condom too, should be fine.
Missile Defense
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Had a friend who risked it and didn't catch anything. However, she was an utter mess of a person with tons of baggage who whipped him with her good looks and was well on her way to bleeding him dry when we all intervened and finally got through to him to drop her like bad habit.
He now has a new girl who is great and who doesn't have herpes.
In my opinion, stay far away.
rokkerkory
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negatvie
I have a very good outlook on this relationship. I'm not the type of guy that dates around a lot and I sure don't sleep around. I'm 30 and if I proceed with this new girl, then she will be my 4th "girlfriend" and 4th sexual partner. I am interested in settling down and starting a family. I have no problem disclosing a possible STD to a future partner should this one fail and result in be contracting her herpes.
metalslimer
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Unless I was really in love with the person probably not. I would hate to have the constant fear prevent me from fully being into the person while having sex. It wouldn't be fair to the other person either
Leatherface
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If it's someone you care about (not everyone who has it is a dirty skank), it's not a deal breaker by any stretch. As long as you're with someone who is informed, honest and takes care to keep it from spreading.
Quoted for truth.
family_guy
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Nope. I got a wart from a chick once and had to freeze that sucker off. One scare is enough.
um...
Gonna assume that the relationship is in it's first baby steps (first few dates) then no. I'm not willing to take that risk with someone who I would have only gone on a few dates with. It could become a meaningful and beautiful relationship if I were to go for it, but my point is that at that point (a few dates in) it's not that and I would not go through with it.
Now another situation that would make me ponder it a lot more is a scenario where I have known a girl for a substantial amount of time as a friend and have serious mutual feelings build up over time. I would have known that girl for years and actually, really know her, my feelings for her would be an order of magnitude deeper thanks to being friends with her for years. Now that would be tricky one for me. The first scenario though is a no-brainer for me.
Now another situation that would make me ponder it a lot more is a scenario where I have known a girl for a substantial amount of time as a friend and have serious mutual feelings build up over time. I would have known that girl for years and actually, really know her, my feelings for her would be an order of magnitude deeper thanks to being friends with her for years. Now that would be tricky one for me. The first scenario though is a no-brainer for me.
I really wish you people would stop spreading FUD. the risk is pretty much non existent.
John Kowalski
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Fuck man tessy really was perm'd, what a fuck.
LOL it's silly. The people I know with herpes caught it in less than 3 partners. They got it from poor sex education, not promiscuity.
JigglesBunny
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It's different for me since I'm 21 and have had three sexual partners in the past (four if we're including my current girlfriend), and would not want to risk my future partners being exposed to a condition, but yeah, not worth it.
Unless she's wife material, like, answer to all your dreams and prayers material, it isn't worth it.
Unless she's wife material, like, answer to all your dreams and prayers material, it isn't worth it.
JustHadToJoin
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Even if its not that bad as people say to live with, dealing with it at all just does not sound worth it. Think about that decision for a long time, because most people will be nowhere near as rational as the people in this thread have been. And, if this girl ends up not being the one, are you the 10/10 guy who a girl is willing to risk herpes for too? Not to be rude but chances are, you're not.
Yeah, I don't like the minimizing of having it. It ain't the end of the world, but the shrug *insert statistic of people who have it* seems so casual. And I'm no prude.
hawkshockey11
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Everyone here should get tested for herpes. I'm sure more than a few people speaking so lowly of this girl also have it.
Josh with a J
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NOPE! Thank Zues the only one I've had was one of the curable ones. Get tested often especially now that most places do blood tests instead of the swab (hurts thinking about it). Won't miss it
sir_kevith
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1 out of 4 adult women have it according to web md. Odds are anyone thats sexually active on here has encountered it already. Feel bad for all these people freaking out on here.
cj_iwakura
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My gf was up front about it two months into dating her. We stayed together for a year. She was a wonderful person to me, and I wasn't going to let that stop me from enjoying the relationship.
So in short: it didn't stop me then and it wouldn't again. If you're careful and she's communicative about outbreaks(which she was), you'll be fine.
So in short: it didn't stop me then and it wouldn't again. If you're careful and she's communicative about outbreaks(which she was), you'll be fine.
No, I would not have sex with a women that I knew had genital herpes. I can understand that attitude would make people hide that fact, or hurt their feelings. But that is where I stand.
Plus as a Nurse, I've seen horrible cases with it. Images that would make a person terrified of sex. I actually tend to keep it in my pants a lot more now than my younger days.
Plus as a Nurse, I've seen horrible cases with it. Images that would make a person terrified of sex. I actually tend to keep it in my pants a lot more now than my younger days.
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