This.http://www.vox.com/2014/4/23/5628696/you-probably-have-herpes - Here's a snippet.
every 10/10 becomes a 5/10 given enough time
then you'll just be stuck with some broad with an STD
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I would suggest this as well.Maybe you should just be friends. There are plenty of 10/10's out there who won't risk giving you a disease that will last a LIFETIME.
It may be tough in this situation, but use your brain, not your wiener.
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Good point.
The extreme level of aversion, though, is comical at best. The majority of people with genital herpes are unaware they have it, and a pretty significant chunk of the population does. Chances are that regardless of how safe you are, you'll eventually be intimate with at least one person who has an STD (especially if we count oral herpes), and so there is an inherent disconnect in all the "fuck no" responses. Even if you manage to avoid it, I highly doubt most GAFfers practice abstinence, or look down on, say, picking up someone at a bar and other such scenarios - safe sex does not fully protect against STDs, so again, there is a disconnect somewhere.
So the aversion does not fit the reality in that sense. It also does not fit reality in terms of how bad genital herpes actually is. No one wants it, and caution is good. It's not some revolting, crippling thing though (at least for the majority of people who have it). It's relatively trivial overall, evidenced by how many people live their lives unaware they have it. Combined with the fact that most anyone is vulnerable to getting it in their day to day lives (again, how many people here practice abstinence?), advancing an exaggerated stigma, when that stigma is probably the worst part of genital herpes, strikes me as pretty shortsighted.
There is also the whole "are you really incapable of looking past something like genital herpes and simply dating someone for who they are?" thing, along with the whole "do people with genital herpes really deserve to be treated like they're revolting?" thing. Again, caution is a good thing. In general, though, people' attitudes on the subject could use some improving.
Good point.
The extreme level of aversion, though, is comical at best. The majority of people with genital herpes are unaware they have it, and a pretty significant chunk of the population does. Chances are that regardless of how safe you are, you'll eventually be intimate with at least one person who has an STD (especially if we count oral herpes), and so there is an inherent disconnect in all the "fuck no" responses. Even if you manage to avoid it, I highly doubt most GAFfers practice abstinence, or look down on, say, picking up someone at a bar and other such scenarios - safe sex does not fully protect against STDs, so again, there is a disconnect somewhere.
So the aversion does not fit the reality in that sense. It also does not fit reality in terms of how bad genital herpes actually is. No one wants it, and caution is good. It's not some revolting, crippling thing though (at least for the majority of people who have it). It's relatively trivial overall, evidenced by how many people live their lives unaware they have it. Combined with the fact that most anyone is vulnerable to getting it in their day to day lives (again, how many people here practice abstinence?), advancing an exaggerated stigma, when that stigma is probably the worst part of genital herpes, strikes me as pretty shortsighted.
There is also the whole "are you really incapable of looking past something like genital herpes and simply dating someone for who they are?" thing, along with the whole "do people with genital herpes really deserve to be treated like they're revolting?" thing. Again, caution is a good thing. In general, though, people' attitudes on the subject could use some improving.
I didn't see this post on first page. It's actually very good, both in a medical and "social" perspective.http://www.vox.com/2014/4/23/5628696/you-probably-have-herpes - Here's a snippet.
This.
My friend unfortunately was a doormat. Always forgiving him, never cheated back etc... he lacked any respect and even tried to get w/her friends (hooked up with at least one). They got married and now have kids. Whatever, her life, her divorce.This is something that really makes me mad. Not only you are unfaithful, but you don't have the dignity to use a stupid condom to, at least, try to protect the health of the person you are cheating on (which is something you were not supposed to be doing in the first place). Seriously... It is like: 1) Seeing yourself as having more rights (right to have sex with other people) than you partner, which by itself is already a total and complete lack of respect; and: 2) Putting others in risk unnecessarily just to satisfy your own lust. I can't handle it.
Then the girl, who has been faithful and monogamous, gets a infection and ends up stigmatised as promiscuous, like the girl that is the subject of this thread. No one knows her, but there are plenty of people treating her as a slut.
Can't. Handle. It.
Kind of scary. i'm wondering generally how long it takes herpes to appear.
No, I wouldn't. You must really like this girl if this is even a question, but I don't recommend that you stay the course with this one. There are other great girls out there OP, don't risk a life of itching, burning, irritation, and informing every sex partner you'll ever have that you have some horrid, contagious disease.
Also, do you plan to have kids? What if you get this? How will that affect your interactions with your future children? It's not worth the risk.
Yeah, you basically build up Herpometer and then after that 7th dude...
How/why it would affect his relationship with his future children?
No one would care.Next week thread by OP: "Would you date a man that has herpes?"
What if he has a cut on his hand? What if he wants to kiss their cheeks? Herpes can spread in a lot of different ways.
yea I would like to know this as well.How/why it would affect his relationship with his future children?
I would challenge all those super opposed to go get tested and SPECIFICALLY ask for HSV tests, because as noted they don't generally test for it.No one would care.
The title would have to be something along these lines:
- I told the person who I like, that I have herpes
- GAF applauds person, doesn't get condemned for being a slut (mostly)
- If OP is a woman, will get accused of being a slut
while simultaneously get hit on and asked for pics- I got herpes
- GAF pities person but condemns the contagious slut
- Do you have herpes?
- GAF condemns sluts
I know a girl who got it from being raped. So you might wanna think before you speakYeah, I bet she let one slip through the goalie on the first shot. Pffht.
Kind of scary. i'm wondering generally how long it takes herpes to appear.
Kind of scary. i'm wondering generally how long it takes herpes to appear.
Thanks for all of the advice guys, especially from those people who have been in this situation before.
I've found that one frustrating part of this dilemma is that you can't quantify the risk of transmission (with a condom + medication) so you can't really make an informed decision. All I've been able to learn is that a condom cuts the risk by 50% and medication cuts the risk by 50% again.
Anyway, I'm giving myself another day or two to think about it, but I'm pretty certain I'm going to have to bail
Thanks for all of the advice guys, especially from those people who have been in this situation before.
I've found that one frustrating part of this dilemma is that you can't quantify the risk of transmission (with a condom + medication) so you can't really make an informed decision. All I've been able to learn is that a condom cuts the risk by 50% and medication cuts the risk by 50% again.
Anyway, I'm giving myself another day or two to think about it, but I'm pretty certain I'm going to have to bail
I did and married her. She contracted them from being raped. There is much more to a person than an std.
Have you had any sexual contact before?
Have you had yourself tested for herpes?
There's an 80% chance you simply won't express the symptoms if you do have it... and a pretty good chance you already do have it.
Given those odds, you're basically just reducing your potential pool of partners for no good reason.
But best let her go - there'll be other more rational minded people (on this subject matter at least) to come along if she's as hot as you say she is.
Scarlett Johansson has herpes. Are you telling you wouldn't bang ScarJo? Huh?
Liars.
Scarlett Johansson has herpes. Are you telling you wouldn't bang ScarJo? Huh?
Liars.