Interesting to see these kind of statements throughout this thread.
I had a very abusive childhood myself to the point where I haven't spoken to my parents in years and don't plan to ever as they will never own up to what they did(my mom is borderline these people are fucking crazy).
There's parts of myself which I've had to face which I seem to have learned from my parents but I will not let them control me anymore. I will be a better parent than they were(not that hard really) and the cycle will be broken with me.
And that's good for you, but not everyone is able to deal with their problems in a positive light.
I have anger control issues for... some reason (too many reasons), and I would never even risk bringing a child in the world where I could flip out and yell at them.
Of course therapy is an option, but at this moment with my current psyche, how can I know I'll be able to handle such a stress point 24/7? In addition I watched my little brother a lot when I was 16-17 and I was pretty shitty to him (I mean I was a teenager and my mom died but still). What if I end up treating my kid the same way?
If I really, truly wanted a child I would work on these issues with a professional of course (obvs. even if I don't want kids I need to work on it but you get the point), but it's always something in the back of my mind that worries me, being an unfit mother.
Also, if you don't have children you can be that mysterious relative your family doesn't dare speak about at the Christmas table.
I got that honor at 19, lack of kids not required
This helps no one, but for perspective, I should mention it. If you do not reproduce, you will be the very first failure to replicate in your direct genetic line in over 2 billion years. That is 2,000,000,000 years of everyone before you getting down and squeezing out offspring. Sure, there's probably not a God and it doesn't really matter, but it's worth thinking about. Failure. Whoever's relatives see the end of the world wins.
Hey my brothers had kids, my line will live on without me