Okay, having read through this thread and the tweets linked, I want to try breaking down the apology. Hopefully this will help anyone who - like me - actually bought it on a first glance.
I messed up, and I owe you an explanation.
By the third word, we've got some deceptive language here. "Messed up" makes it sound like he made a mistake. This would be nitpicking if not for the fact that that that's clearly how the apology is framed.
Even if we put the severity of what he did aside, Robinson did not make a simple mistake. We know from souIspear's tweets that he was silencing women that he harassed. He knew that what he did was wrong, and that there would be consequences if they became public. Instead of changing his behaviour when he realized that, he instead tried to manipulate others so he could more safely continue his behaviour.
He did not make mistakes. He acted exactly as he intended to.
Over nine years on this website, I've used it for every aspect of my life: making friends, finding jobs, and yes, embarrassingly, flirting. This means I have, on many occasions, used Twitter to hit on people.
Here we have him referring to his harassment as flirting. Now, it's entirely possible that he's doing that to avoid legal action. But it's also being used to add to the framework that what he did was an innocent mistake rather than intentional, targeted abuse. See below.
That's embarrassing enough on its own, as it's now clear that some of these advances were unwanted or handled very poorly. But there's another significant issue: while my platform and my responsibilities grew, I failed to grow alongside them. Over the past couple years, I kept on using Twitter the same way I always have - including 'sliding into DMs,' a move that carries an entirely different weight when you're a private individual vs. when you're a public one.
Assuming he was doing the same thing before he became popular as he says, he's was still telling women, unsolicited, to send him nudes. He was still telling them to keep silent.
He briefly admonishes his actions before he was popular by saying that some of the advances were unwanted or handled poorly, but that's not the issue. This wasn't just normal flirting that some people just didn't like. This wasn't just handled poorly, as his actions make it clear it's delibrate. The advances should not have come in this form at all.
Additionally, he's focusing on Twitter, as if the issue is simply that he doesn't know how to handle himself properly through that particular medium. But we're also told that he engages in predatory behaviour in person.
The issues with power he describes are in and of themselves fair, but the issue is that they're meant to distract from the predatory nature of his behaviour and shift the issue to changing context. They might still be there if the apology was genuine, but that's not what they follow, so it serves to provide enough sincerity to make it look like the whole thing is sincere.
Not that long ago I had an extremely small following online. I never imagined I'd someday be getting messages from people about how the silly stuff I've made has pulled them out of a dark place or affected them positively. I certainly never imagined there'd be fan art with my dumb face on it.
All that to say this: I'm now, as weird as it sounds, in a position of power, but I'm ashamed to admit until the past few days, I hadn't appreciated the responsibility that brings.
Building on the image he's been creating, this is attempting to move the responsibility to the shifting context and make the apology seem genuine.
This might have been appropriate in an apology if his actions were okay in the previous context, but they aren't. This might have been appropriate in an apology if he actually didn't know what he was doing, but his actions have demonstrated that he did.
I'll admit when this conversation first stated, I was defensive and confused - I've always tried to be a thoughtful, considerate person when it comes to this stuff, and couldn't understand what was going on. But the more I thought about it, the more I understood where people are coming form.
I believe that when someone says you've hurt them or made them uncomfortable, the right thing to do is not argue, it's to listen. What I always thought of as "flirting" can quickly become something more insidious when one of the people is in a position of power. I totally failed to recognize this.
This is the really grand bit of manipulation. The obvious bad apologies fail because the guilty party is blatantly just saying things to get themselves out of blame, maybe slapping some token "I'm sorry" and "I feel bad" into it because they know they're supposed to. This doesn't look like that. I think this is the part that really fooled me and others.
The thing is, here, he makes it a point to establish that he's actually learned something. He makes it a point to acknowledge that there's a problem with what he did. The issue is that the problem he's acknowledging still isn't the real problem. He's still putting it on the context, not on his intentional predatory behaviour.
So you think he's learned, but he hasn't actually addressed what he should have learned.
I've spent the past week doing little besides reflecting on my own behavior. I'm embarrassed, obviously, but more than embarrassed, I'm sorry. I'm sorry to anyone I ever made uncomfortable with my advances, and I'm sorry for disappointing fans of mine who, rightfully, expected better from me.
I know I've let you down, and I know it falls on me to earn back your trust by changing my behavior going forward. That's exactly what I intend to do.
For those of us who thought it was a strong apology at first, I think what we expected it to be - at best - was this. Just talking about how bad he feels without actually having any reflection on his problems, never outright stating what he did and why it was wrong.
Robinson's crafty enough to be specific here and to say that he made a mistake. It's specific enough to look genuine, to look like it isn't deflecting. But, again, what he's apologizing for isn't really what he did. That's the deflection.