*sigh* This is why I don't tell people I'm a virgin. Comes with all these gross assumptions about who I am as a person. Its cool that you think all virgins are "nice guys" who only date "8s and up" , but the reality is personality plays a larger role in my interest in someone than physical appearance ever will, and I'm not putting anyone on a pedestal.
If virginity only counted penetrative sex then a LOT of members of the LGBT+ community would be virgins. I'd say it has to be more wide-ranging than that.
I'm sorry if you thought that was about you, as it clearly wasn't. Nowhere was I generalizing ALL virgins, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with looking for the right person. I thought I made that clear.
The fact that you think it WAS about you, and that you therefore think I'm shaming or making generalizations about you, says more about your perception of your virginity than my perception of you. THAT is the point I'm trying to make. It shouldn't matter to me why you're a virgin, nor should my perception of you matter. Any shame or insecurity you feel about it is your own construct.