I think virgin shaming really only applies to people who don't want to be virgins but are
like if you choose to be a virgin because of some sort of conviction or are asexual, i dont think many people would really virgin shame you, since you arent going to feel inadequate for a choice you made consciously/genetic predisposition
on the flipside, if you clearly wanted to have sex with someone, were able bodied, and still werent able to as an adult, virgin shaming would probably actually be "appropriate", because that person is probably really ashamed already that they cant have sex and want to
the way to make the sting of virgin shaming go away would be to have sex then if you actually want that, since i doubt people in sexually tolerant countries are going to give up the genie of morally unattached sex
like if you choose to be a virgin because of some sort of conviction or are asexual, i dont think many people would really virgin shame you, since you arent going to feel inadequate for a choice you made consciously/genetic predisposition
on the flipside, if you clearly wanted to have sex with someone, were able bodied, and still werent able to as an adult, virgin shaming would probably actually be "appropriate", because that person is probably really ashamed already that they cant have sex and want to
the way to make the sting of virgin shaming go away would be to have sex then if you actually want that, since i doubt people in sexually tolerant countries are going to give up the genie of morally unattached sex