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So I just went on my girlfriends ipad....

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OCD Guy

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So it's my day off today and rather than use the laptop I decided to grab my girlfriends ipad to browse from.

Now I know her passcode (which she knows) but as I enter her passcode and the ipad unlocks it takes me into WhatsApp and I see a picture of a dick and some conversation that is not so innocent.

I'm a little bit thrown back to be honest, with feelings of disgust, anger and confusion.

I'm not sure what to do now, message this guy (or call him), call her, wait until she get's back, say nothing, pack my stuff and leave. To be honest it's done for me now, but still deciding whether it's worth the stress of the arguing and anger.

Obviously I'm writing about it on Neogaf (what could go wrong) but this is completely out of the blue. In the past when I've had shit like this it's normally been accompanied with a change in behaviour, taking all phones etc with them at all times.
 
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Pai Pai Master

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I'd wait for her before bringing it up. Definitely don't call the guy.

I mean, you didn't go snooping around looking for dirt on her. I would make it clear to her that the app and conversation were open when you unlocked it and she needs to explain herself.
 
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The Elite

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Sounds like it's gonna be over if it looks like what it looks like. Give her a chance to explain but I think we know where this is going.

Don't bother with the guy. You don't even know if he knows she is in a relationship.
 
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Jokergrin

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need more details about the convo

having random flirty online chats with dick pics flying around are not that big of a deal. most girls do that
 
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RyougaSaotome

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Be honest and be clear that when you went to use the iPad like you always do, that was what popped up.

Wouldn't want to muddy the conversation with accusations of you snooping around (I'm taking your story at face value).

Sorry, OP. This is a poopy situation.
 
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Cindres

Vied for a tag related to cocks, so here it is.
Pai Pai Master said:
I'd wait for her before bringing it up. Definitely don't call the guy.

I mean, you didn't go snooping around looking for dirt on her. I would make it clear to her that the app and conversation were open when you unlocked it and she needs to explain herself.
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I agree don't talk to the guy, but don't wait for her to bring it up, she might never.

I say you need to confront as soon as she comes home, you weren't snooping, you literally opened the ipad and there it was.
 
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OCD Guy

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Pai Pai Master said:
I mean, you didn't go snooping around looking for dirt on her. I would make it clear to her that the app and conversation were open when you unlocked it and she needs to explain herself.
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Oh yeah I want to make it clear that I wasn't snooping. I use her ipad infront of her all time. There's only one ipad in the house and it's often quicker than firing up the laptop.

As I said there's been no change at all, and we've been getting on fine. In the past I've had reasons to believe things have been going on (in previous relationships I mean)

I'm actually sitting here typing this on the laptop with the ipad next to me, and just looking at the pictures and I'm fucking getting more and more pissed off. But I know if I call I'll shout and she'll hang up which will piss me off more. She'll then likely keep diverting me when I keep calling back
 
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MrHoot

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Yeah, just tell her you found out and move on, "rip the band aid" method, especially if your mind is made. I'd almost say you could just leave and leave a note on the ipad. Don't even bother with the dude.
 
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weekev

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Is there a chance someone else could have had access to her ipad? Friend? Roommate?

Also....was his bigger than yours?
 
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PrivateWHudson

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I'd probably say just pack your shit and leave. Depending on the content of the conversation. From what GAF has taught me, it doesn't take much for a guy to send an unwanted dick pic. I would just be sure that she solicited the attention before bailing.
 
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nortonff

Hi, I'm nortonff. I spend my life going into threads to say that I don't care about the topic of the thread. It's a really good use of my time.
Wait for her to get back and ask her.
Its what I would do.
 
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Pai Pai Master

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Cindres said:
I agree don't talk to the guy, but don't wait for her to bring it up, she might never.

I say you need to confront as soon as she comes home, you weren't snooping, you literally opened the ipad and there it was.
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Nah bad wording, just meant wait for her to get back.


Also OP stop looking at the pics. Unless it's a really nice dick that's just gonna make you feel worse.
 
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fatigues_gasolini

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I caught my ex the same way. All her messages synced from her phone to ipad, so I saw every detail including when she was sexting her furry sidepiece while riding with me to my dads for Thanksgiving.
 
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Silent_Ocarina

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Sorry you had to experience this, brother. I'm probably out of my depth here, but I would wait until she gets back and talk to her about it. I'd probably be livid to be frank, and my desire to fully understand the whats, hows, and whys would not allow me to pack up and leave without confrontation.
 
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TheOMan

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Why should you be the on to leave OP? Is it her place?

fatigues_gasolini said:
I caught my ex the same way. All her messages synced from her phone to ipad, so I saw every detail including when she was sexting her furry sidepiece while riding with me to my dads for Thanksgiving.
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Oh wow - I mean, I guess you found out when you got to your Dad's? That must have been awkward.
 
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RyougaSaotome

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OCD Guy said:
But I know if I call I'll shout and she'll hang up which will piss me off more. She'll then likely keep diverting me when I keep calling back
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Don't call. Take some time right now to bring yourself down a little bit and then talk to her when she's actually there.
 
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Barzul

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If packing and leaving really is an option I'd get ready to do that (assuming it's not a co-leased apartment or something). And wait till she gets back, have one more difficult conversation and end things and then move on.
 
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Machina

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I refuse to believe she could be so flippant about keeping her cheating under wraps. I sense she wanted you to find it.
 
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darkace

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Dude if she's gone further than just randomly receiving dick pics to actually actively flirting with the guy while receiving them then it's over. She's either cheating or planning on doing so.
 
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BFIB

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I would bring it up for sure. But be honest about it, and tell her the app was loaded when you unlocked the iPad. I know it sounds difficult, but try to remain as calm as possible and hear her out. My cousin just went through this as well, and his wife told him basically she did it "for fun", and never intended to actually meet anyone, etc. She compared it to him watching porn.

They did break up, because like I told him, him watching porn isn't having an actual conversation with the people involved, whereas was she is doing is emotional cheating for sure.

Good luck OP.
 
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Puddington

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If you've already made the decision to leave, not talking to her about it would be the meanest thing to do in this situation since it'd rob her of closure. So I'd do that.
 
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New002

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Try and remain calm and collected. Have a chat with her when she gets back and figure out what happened. What's going on and why did it come to this? Then peace out.
 
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Fury451

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Pai Pai Master said:
I'd wait for her before bringing it up. Definitely don't call the guy.

I mean, you didn't go snooping around looking for dirt on her. I would make it clear to her that the app and conversation were open when you unlocked it and she needs to explain herself.
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Good advice all around, do this.

Don't bring him into it- you don't know enough to know his role and it's irrelevant anyway.
 
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dragonbane

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Yeah dont contact the guy. Wait for her, tell her the truth and ask her what it is about (in person). I suppose there is a tiny chance she can explain it somehow. If she can't or stumbles you can pack your things
 
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