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isoquant · Jul 10, 2014

So I met this girl. She's 10/10, really fun and smart. A few dates in - before we had sex - she tells me she has genital herpes.

With her taking suppressive medication and me using protection the risk of transmission is very small. But I'm in my early 20s, and the thought of having this same awkward conversation with my future sexual partners makes me uncomfortable.

Would you risk it?

NYR · Jul 10, 2014

Fuck no. If she got an STD, she likely got it from sleeping around. Don't ruin your life and put one girl on a pedestal, the fact you are already thinking about your next partners says it all.

Grakl · Jul 10, 2014

if she's 10/10 she's 10/10 OP, but damn is that scary, better commit your life

NYR said:
Fuck no. If she got an STD, she likely got it from sleeping around. Don't ruin your life and put one girl on a pedestal.

lol that's not how it works, you serious

davepoobond · Jul 10, 2014

if i was going to marry her, i guess i'd be getting some herpes

but i wouldnt put my penis anywhere near someone with herpes unless i already had it. wtf is the point of getting an std knowingly

Gordon Shumway · Jul 10, 2014

NYR · Jul 10, 2014

Grakl said:
if she's 10/10 she's 10/10 OP, but damn is that scary

lol that's not how it works

Yeah, I bet she let one slip through the goalie on the first shot. Pffht.

Grakl · Jul 10, 2014

NYR said:
Yeah, I bet she let one slip through the goalie on the first shot. Pffht.

da fuck

Ganzlinger · Jul 10, 2014

If she is a great person and a 10/10 I wouldn't resist. Just use protection and enjoy life.

ReturnOfTheRAT · Jul 10, 2014

Ganzlinger said:
If she is a great person and a 10/10 I wouldn't resist. Just use protection and enjoy life.

Until you contract a disease.

Foghorn Leghorn · Jul 10, 2014

Nope.

speculawyer · Jul 10, 2014

Personally . . . no. But I'm a habitual blood donor and not really looking for a mate. So I'm in a different situation.

Wazzy · Jul 10, 2014

NYR said:
Fuck no. If she got an STD, she likely got it from sleeping around. Don't ruin your life and put one girl on a pedestal, the fact you are already thinking about your next partners says it all.

Uh no?

STD does not mean they've been sleeping around.

Devolution · Jul 10, 2014

NYR said:
Fuck no. If she got an STD, she likely got it from sleeping around. Don't ruin your life and put one girl on a pedestal, the fact you are already thinking about your next partners says it all.

Yeah, you basically build up Herpometer and then after that 7th dude...

white dynamite · Jul 10, 2014

Maybe you should just be friends. There are plenty of 10/10's out there who won't risk giving you a disease that will last a LIFETIME.

It may be tough in this situation, but use your brain, not your wiener.

Barack Lesnar · Jul 10, 2014

NYR said:
Fuck no. If she got an STD, she likely got it from sleeping around.

Even I know that's not how it works, come on.

NYR said:
Yeah, I bet she let one slip through the goalie on the first shot. Pffht.

Same could be said about getting a girl pregnant by some random guy. Doesn't mean she sleeps around, it could happen after one night. Same with herpes.

akira28 · Jul 10, 2014

maybe, but damn.

Ventara · Jul 10, 2014

I wouldn't risk it unless I was going to marry her. If you can put the sex on hold, I'd just date her, and if it leads to marriage, go for it.

Shaanyboi · Jul 10, 2014

noooooope, I'd rather not have to deal with that, thanks.

NYR said:
Fuck no. If she got an STD, she likely got it from sleeping around. Don't ruin your life and put one girl on a pedestal, the fact you are already thinking about your next partners says it all.

Is this post for real?

WorldStar · Jul 10, 2014

every 10/10 becomes a 5/10 given enough time

then you'll just be stuck with some broad with an STD

GQman2121 · Jul 10, 2014

Your math is all kinds of fucked.

If she's a 10 that's great. However, you have to subtract the zero cure STD points which makes her a negative 72. What the fuck is wrong with you son?

BladeoftheImmortal · Jul 10, 2014

Need photo first. 10/10 for you could be 5/10 for me.

SneakyStephan · Jul 10, 2014

No way

Maybe if it's someone I already knew for a long long time and they were my 'one and only' or something

but no

Plenty of fish in the sea no need to make (dating) life incredibly hard for yourself by risking to get it yourself

Tesseract · Jul 10, 2014

no muff diving under the sheets, breh i dunno.

SiteSeer · Jul 10, 2014

i dunno. you can't even get a bj without a hat on. i'd say fuck that.

Loofy · Jul 10, 2014

I wouldnt even date a girl with cold sores.

akira28 · Jul 10, 2014

Pretty good odds we all have dated someone with an STD, and never knew, and just didn't contract anything.

SapientWolf · Jul 10, 2014

Ganzlinger said:
If she is a great person and a 10/10 I wouldn't resist. Just use protection and enjoy life.

Condoms don't protect against genital herpes.

Genital herpes are just a few bumps on your junk, right? Seems like more of annoyance than a deal breaker. The panic over it seems manufactured.

terribletwo · Jul 10, 2014

sure who cares

Ganzlinger · Jul 10, 2014

ReturnOfTheRAT said:
Until you contract a disease.

I said to use protection. I'm pretty sure condoms would be sufficient to avoid the contagion. But if no, that's something to reconsider of course.

Ermac · Jul 10, 2014

bail_out.webm

-Deadpool- · Jul 10, 2014

Definitely not.
Much better option out there, yanno, like a girl without an STD.

WorldStar · Jul 10, 2014

akira28 said:
Pretty good odds we all have dated someone with an STD, and never knew, and just didn't contract anything.

not me

my dog is trained to ID that shit ASAP

Pop On Arrival · Jul 10, 2014

LMAO, never. Once even bailed on a girl (fingered her instead) when I asked her if she had STDS IE herpes and she was like "whats that?"

LOL!

BadAss2961 · Jul 10, 2014

She doesn't seem too bad since she was honest with you... However, you're young and already thinking about your future partners. Odds are this girl won't be that important to you later on.

Pass.

akira28 · Jul 10, 2014

SapientWolf said:
Condoms don't protect against genital herpes.

Genital herpes are just a few bumps on your junk, right? Seems like more of annoyance than a deal breaker. The panic over it seems manufactured.

no. and don't google pics either. think weepy and painful lesions on your dick and adjacent areas, since it can spread by touch. the lesions go away and come back whenever you feel stressed or sick.

it if was just a couple of bumps, people wouldn't be so worried about it.

hokahey · Jul 10, 2014

My best friend dated a girl with herpes for years. Never contracted it. He always made it sound like it's pretty damn tough to get if you're careful and plan sex accordingly.

MIMIC · Jul 10, 2014

GQman2121 said:
Your math is all kinds of fucked.

If she's a 10 that's great. However, you have to subtract the zero cure STD points which makes her a negative 72. What the fuck is wrong with you son?

lol

As for the OP: no.

Ganzlinger · Jul 10, 2014

SapientWolf said:
Condoms don't protect against genital herpes.

I didn't know about that! Thanks, that's really important information!

BuggyDClown · Jul 10, 2014

Yeah man, that sucks. I wouldn't no.

Its just not worth the risk.

Panzon · Jul 10, 2014

Wazzy said:
Uh no?

STD does not mean they've been sleeping around.

This.

Maybe she had one partner and unfortunately caught it?

I honestly think it was very nice of her for telling you OP. Use your mind, not your head

GrotesqueBeauty · Jul 10, 2014

She told you before you hit it? Sounds like a keeper. I'm actually not being facetious btw. Sorry to blow everyone's image of the world, but a lot of the adult population has herpes. Whether you accept the inherent risk in hooking up is on you OP, but I have a thousand times more respect for the girl because she was responsible enough to drop her pride and be upfront. If she's not relationship material she's definitely friend material.

hydragonwarrior · Jul 10, 2014

WorldStar said:
every 10/10 becomes a 5/10 given enough time

then you'll just be stuck with some broad with an STD

Another way to look at it lol - but if you guys click well enough, even the decrease in looks isn't a big ass deal (evidence: no girl in a relationship looks sexy 24/7)

Be grateful she mentioned it though, but it's still a risk in catching it even with protection. If it's really on your mind, go to a private session with a sexual testing clinic for a professional opinion (in Canada these are free).

For myself? I don't think I would.

BuggyDClown · Jul 10, 2014

hokahey said:
My best friend dated a girl with herpes for years. Never contracted it. He always made it sound like it's pretty damn tough to get if you're careful and plan sex accordingly.

http://www.vox.com/2014/4/23/5628696/you-probably-have-herpes - Here's a snippet.

Bad news: you probably have herpes and don't know it

..Most people infected with herpes don't ever have symptoms. And most routine STI testing doesn't look for herpes, either. What? Yes. So that's why most people don't know that they have it. (The graph above is for HSV-2.)..

caesar · Jul 10, 2014

10/10?

i call bullshit

also

dnt do it op

PhoenixDark · Jul 10, 2014

Bail out

Tesseract · Jul 10, 2014

op you der breh? dun let ur penis win

GQman2121 · Jul 10, 2014

SapientWolf said:
Condoms don't protect against genital herpes.

Genital herpes are just a few bumps on your junk, right? Seems like more of annoyance than a deal breaker. The panic over it seems manufactured.

When you get into high school you'll take a class for one semester explaining all about herps, and cauliflower dick, and all that fun stuff. You'll see what's manufactured...

Pop On Arrival · Jul 10, 2014

SapientWolf said:
Condoms don't protect against genital herpes.

Genital herpes are just a few bumps on your junk, right? Seems like more of annoyance than a deal breaker. The panic over it seems manufactured.

it's still ridiculously embarrassing to have to admit to it, though. The girl the OP was about to bang is a real good egg, imo. Must have been tough. Or maybe she's just used to banging random guys has gotten used to the faces people make when she tells them she has herpes

What do I know.

SJRB · Jul 10, 2014

If she has fucking genital herpes she is NOT a 10/10 bro, what the fuck.

GamerJM · Jul 10, 2014

I wouldn't care.

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