Wow, this thread got to 16 pages? I wonder why. I'll just take a look and...
Hooooooooly shit I'm so glad I haven't had to deal with dating in 10+ years.
Read again. This thread isnt about dating. Its about dudes expecting sex by being "nice" to women.
Read again. This thread isnt about dating. Its about dudes expecting sex by being "nice" to women.
Development with my joke.
I thought the OP was looking for a relationship, not just a hookup?
This is garbage advice and people on gaf need to stop saying shit like this. Being friends with someone you actually like is just toxic, esp in this case when he likes her a lot. He obviously is in some bizarro cringe world where the first thing he needs to do is cut her off entirely, and you tell him to do the opposite and turn the dude into a masochist for being with her everyday while still wanting to be with her.. yeah I read the "I'm totally ok to be her friend" horseshit that he spewed in the 2 posts I saw from him, but no one is believing that unless they're special in terms of naive they are.She turned you down and made it clear she's not romantically interested in you. You befriend her. Yet I bet you blame her for leading you on.
Here's a thought. How about you actually be her friend?
my absolute fav post is the one where some dude pretends to be OP and gives an update that he's gonna go live with his mom while his friend is gonna move in to his place and experiment with a temporary bf to eventually be ready for him. Fucking gold.Y'all can't read?
He's been on 50 dates with her, the fuck are y'all talking about trying to date. Dude's probably on a date with her right now.
This is garbage advice and people on gaf need to stop saying shit like this. Being friends with someone you actually like is just toxic, esp in this case when he likes her a lot. He obviously is in some bizarro cringe world where the first thing he needs to do is cut her off entirely, and you tell him to do the opposite and turn the dude into a masochist for being with her everyday while still wanting to be with her.. yeah I read the "I'm totally ok to be her friend" horseshit that he spewed in the 2 posts I saw from him, but no one is believing that unless they're special in terms of naive they are.
No, see, this guy is just an asshole. The definition of "friendzone" is not "friends."
She wants to be his friend and he is like IT'S ALL OR NOTHING.
Why can't he just say "i like you as a person so yeah, let's be friends" and just stop being so fixated on this one person. Accept it and move on. Why throw away the opportunity for a friendship?
It is beyond his capacity to see her any other way. She must love him romantically or she can fuck off (in his mind).
It's not the same as trying to be friends with your ex. And that even works out fine for some people.
my absolute fav post is the one where some dude pretends to be OP and gives an update that he's gonna go live with his mom while his friend is gonna move in to his place and experiment with a temporary bf to eventually be ready for him. Fucking gold.
Y'all can't read?
He's been on 50 dates with her, the fuck are y'all talking about trying to date. Dude's probably on a date with her right now.
Her txting him "I'm busy right now but later maybe!" does not count as a date.
i fall for the bait
why is he obligated to be friends with her?
you could argue if you know some one for a long time and break an already existing friendship that it's a bad thing to do.
but at the beginning when you meet some one and start to know each other?
lol no. it's totally fine to tell her to fuck off
i found that respond pretty nice, i would've been much harsher
I mean it's pretty rude to tell someone to fuck off because they don't want to date you/have sex with you.
Best befriend her and help her out financially holding she will change her mind since you're such a nice guy!
His use of the word friendzone comes of as a little hostile to me, but he is not in the wrong for not wanting to be friends. She doesn't want to date, he doesn't want to just be friends. And that is fine.I mean it's pretty rude to tell someone to fuck off because they don't want to date you/have sex with you.
His use of the word friendzone comes of as a little hostile to me, but he is not in the wrong for not wanting to be friends. She doesn't want to date, he doesn't want to just be friends. And that is fine.
Nope
You're wrong there dude.
"back up Valentine"You know it's going to be an entertaining day when you wake up to two more pages of this thread.
I haven't seen this one posted yet. Also /r/friendzone is pretty much niceguys_irl
Good story (really crazy btw), but posting the photos may be taking it too far IMO.The most friend zoned guy I knew, had clocked up over ten years in the zone. He was into the blonde girl, all the classic hallmarks, became "One of the family" by sucking up to the girls mother and brothers, would always drive any of the family around, invited himself to family holidays, paid for holidays for her AND her brother. Never had a girlfriend the whole time I knew him and I've since I lost contact with the girl.
In that time period I'd met the girl, had sex a few times with her and as we didn't click that way we just decided to stay friends. After that she would come to visit me to hang out and this guy would suddenly appear at my door to hang out as well! I didn't even know him, only in passing. He was only there to cockblock me, but when we were sleeping together she would not tell him anyway. The girl then got married a couple of years later and during the wedding her husband was a bit pissed off. He and I went to the bar and he hit me with "I know you've slept with her" *record scratch-time freezes* " he continued "But you're an OK mate, not like that other guy who keeps hanging around bitter he never got the chance to fuck her". Also you can guess who was the "free" wedding photographer that day.
Gets better then that though I'm 99% sure this married couple became swingers and were making subtle comments to see if I was interested. I wasn't.
Worst friend zoning I've ever witnessed. 10+ years following her around spending money on her, she gets married, he continues to hang around, they become swingers and he still can't get to have sex with her!
Good story (really crazy btw), but posting the photos may be taking it too far IMO.
Those pictures are already public, I rehosted them and they are over ten years old.
You just don't want to take that masterpiece 2nd picture down, we understand.
Am I missing something? Did you just post pictures of some dude you know to hang shit on him?The most friend zoned guy I knew, had clocked up over ten years in the zone. He was into the blonde girl, all the classic hallmarks, became "One of the family" by sucking up to the girls mother and brothers, would always drive any of the family around, invited himself to family holidays, paid for holidays for her AND her brother. Never had a girlfriend the whole time I knew him and I've since I lost contact with the girl.
In that time period I'd met the girl, had sex a few times with her and as we didn't click that way we just decided to stay friends. After that she would come to visit me to hang out and this guy would suddenly appear at my door to hang out as well! I didn't even know him, only in passing. He was only there to cockblock me, but when we were sleeping together she would not tell him anyway. The girl then got married a couple of years later and during the wedding her husband was a bit pissed off. He and I went to the bar and he hit me with "I know you've slept with her" *record scratch-time freezes* " he continued "But you're an OK mate, not like that other guy who keeps hanging around bitter he never got the chance to fuck her". Also you can guess who was the "free" wedding photographer that day.
Gets better then that though I'm 99% sure this married couple became swingers and were making subtle comments to see if I was interested. I wasn't.
Worst friend zoning I've ever witnessed. 10+ years following her around spending money on her, she gets married, he continues to hang around, they become swingers and he still can't get to have sex with her!
Y'all can't read?
He's been on 50 dates with her, the fuck are y'all talking about trying to date. Dude's probably on a date with her right now.
You know it's going to be an entertaining day when you wake up to two more pages of this thread.
I haven't seen this one posted yet. Also /r/friendzone is pretty much niceguys_irl
Well, uh.... want a SINGLE guy's opinion of stuff...?
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Couldn't resist.
No regrets!!!!!!!!!!!!
The most friend zoned guy I knew, had clocked up over ten years in the zone. He was into the blonde girl, all the classic hallmarks, became "One of the family" by sucking up to the girls mother and brothers, would always drive any of the family around, invited himself to family holidays, paid for holidays for her AND her brother. Never had a girlfriend the whole time I knew him and I've since I lost contact with the girl.
In that time period I'd met the girl, had sex a few times with her and as we didn't click that way we just decided to stay friends. After that she would come to visit me to hang out and this guy would suddenly appear at my door to hang out as well! I didn't even know him, only in passing. He was only there to cockblock me, but when we were sleeping together she would not tell him anyway. The girl then got married a couple of years later and during the wedding her husband was a bit pissed off. He and I went to the bar and he hit me with "I know you've slept with her" *record scratch-time freezes* " he continued "But you're an OK mate, not like that other guy who keeps hanging around bitter he never got the chance to fuck her". Also you can guess who was the "free" wedding photographer that day.
Gets better then that though I'm 99% sure this married couple became swingers and were making subtle comments to see if I was interested. I wasn't.
Worst friend zoning I've ever witnessed. 10+ years following her around spending money on her, she gets married, he continues to hang around, they become swingers and he still can't get to have sex with her!
The most friend zoned guy I knew, had clocked up over ten years in the zone. He was into the blonde girl, all the classic hallmarks, became "One of the family" by sucking up to the girls mother and brothers, would always drive any of the family around, invited himself to family holidays, paid for holidays for her AND her brother. Never had a girlfriend the whole time I knew him and I've since I lost contact with the girl.
In that time period I'd met the girl, had sex a few times with her and as we didn't click that way we just decided to stay friends. After that she would come to visit me to hang out and this guy would suddenly appear at my door to hang out as well! I didn't even know him, only in passing. He was only there to cockblock me, but when we were sleeping together she would not tell him anyway. The girl then got married a couple of years later and during the wedding her husband was a bit pissed off. He and I went to the bar and he hit me with "I know you've slept with her" *record scratch-time freezes* " he continued "But you're an OK mate, not like that other guy who keeps hanging around bitter he never got the chance to fuck her". Also you can guess who was the "free" wedding photographer that day.
Gets better then that though I'm 99% sure this married couple became swingers and were making subtle comments to see if I was interested. I wasn't.
Worst friend zoning I've ever witnessed. 10+ years following her around spending money on her, she gets married, he continues to hang around, they become swingers and he still can't get to have sex with her!
Did you go there seriously?
This is the kind of story that warms my fucking heart.
The most friend zoned guy I knew, had clocked up over ten years in the zone. He was into the blonde girl, all the classic hallmarks, became "One of the family" by sucking up to the girls mother and brothers, would always drive any of the family around, invited himself to family holidays, paid for holidays for her AND her brother. Never had a girlfriend the whole time I knew him and I've since I lost contact with the girl.
In that time period I'd met the girl, had sex a few times with her and as we didn't click that way we just decided to stay friends. After that she would come to visit me to hang out and this guy would suddenly appear at my door to hang out as well! I didn't even know him, only in passing. He was only there to cockblock me, but when we were sleeping together she would not tell him anyway. The girl then got married a couple of years later and during the wedding her husband was a bit pissed off. He and I went to the bar and he hit me with "I know you've slept with her" *record scratch-time freezes* " he continued "But you're an OK mate, not like that other guy who keeps hanging around bitter he never got the chance to fuck her". Also you can guess who was the "free" wedding photographer that day.
Gets better then that though I'm 99% sure this married couple became swingers and were making subtle comments to see if I was interested. I wasn't.
Worst friend zoning I've ever witnessed. 10+ years following her around spending money on her, she gets married, he continues to hang around, they become swingers and he still can't get to have sex with her!
I mean it's pretty rude to tell someone to fuck off because they don't want to date you/have sex with you.
The fuck, crazy?
I didn't say you could post my pics. Fuck sake, I thought we were bros, but now I find out you were boning the only woman I've ever wanted, the woman I printed a picture of and taped to a body pillow?
You're a dirty motherfucker, but I forgive you..now tell me everything about her.