John Kowalski
Banned
my yuri fantasies are coming true!
I go out of my way to avoid violent and degrading and cruel sexual content. And I've seen far more than I would like of it.What kinda porn are you watching...?
I'm being sincere in all my posts. But I think it's usually better to be confrontational in the form of gentle questioning on behalf of a contrary position. And I was aware that some of what I've said in here may seem inconsistent.Nobody ever has to play Devil's Advocate. Just say sincere things.
And the BDSM community normalizes maledom and femsub and shames femdom and malesub. I think that's horrifying. All of the worst gender roles in the world are reflected in BDSM.
It's legit almost copy and paste from that thread.
A lot of kids had an insta Polaroid cameras when I was in high school and yet I don't remember anything about girls sharing photos with boys they wanted to like them. Sure technology makes it much easier now but it wasn't impossible then.Well, if cellphones were invented in the 50's, we would have seen that trend spark up a lot sooner.
This is the way the world ends
This is the way the world ends
This is the way the world ends
Not with a bang but a BangBus.
I'm being sincere in all my posts. But I think it's usually better to be confrontational in the form of gentle questioning on behalf of a contrary position. And I was aware that some of what I've said in here may seem inconsistent.
I think the porn industry is fucked up, not necessarily all pornography itself.Wait, you think that ALL porn is super fucked up, or just certain porn?
I think the porn industry is fucked up, not necessarily all pornography itself.
Sex shaming. One of the great contributions of organized religion.
Trust is a part of BDSM. And most of it is consensual.
But that doesn't mean it's the only part. And that there aren't bad parts.
Why would you want to call someone sexual or racial slurs in the bedroom if you love them?
Is roleplaying with your black girlfriend as a slave on a plantation really just harmless and doesn't mean anything more? And doesn't reflect internalized misogyny and racism?
How do they shame it? The dominatrix is kind of iconic for BDSM.And the BDSM community normalizes maledom and femsub and shames femdom and malesub. I think that's horrifying. All of the worst gender roles in the world are reflected in BDSM.
Not necessarily it doesn't. The character of consumption of the one is probably different than the other.
I guarantee there are more than 60 million people who have purchased (or viewed ads on) male-oriented porn films in the time since Fifty Shades released.
"cock sock"
cruel, hardcore, violent porn
While I know that some people mean violence in a playful way. Like playing Smash Bros. or something like that. Or that friends enjoy "banter" together. And that BDSM is often consensual. It really disturbs me.
I feel like BDSM fantasies don't come from a vacuum. And send harmful gender messages.
Like, the majority of pornography is maledom. And I love anime because it's often cute and happy and heartwarming. Cuteness and kindness of two of my three favourite things in love. So that's why I love anime.
But I stay far away from eroge and most visual novels because sexualizing violence is the opposite of cute and kind and happy. It normalizes violent feelings and fantasies that don't come from empathy. And it promotes the idea that women's sexuality is subservient and that women are supposed to be "pure" or not as sexual or sexually assertive as men.
And the BDSM community normalizes maledom and femsub and shames femdom and malesub. I think that's horrifying. All of the worst gender roles in the world are reflected in BDSM.
I'm a kink critical radical feminist, because I think that things like this are awful.
I think all of this is painful to think about. And I wish I didn't know about it. I want to live in an innocent world without the horrors of rape. In a world that women aren't expected to be submissive. In a world where cruelty and violence aren't sexualized. Where most people want to express their sexuality in an empathetic way.
Ah, ok. I can see where you're coming from on that one then.I think the porn industry is fucked up, not necessarily all pornography itself.
I've seen more things that I would like to admit. And more things than I would like to have seen. I guess it makes me less cute in the eyes of many... and makes me a more "lewd" person. Especially since in many cultures, sadly, femininity and cute femininity... in particular.. it seems.. is associated with "purity".Have you watched femdom porn?
A lot of research suggests women are more drawn to literature and written depictions of erotica, while men respond a lot more to visual cues. Bisexuals seem to show a greater tendency to enjoy both. I get that you're trying to isolate 50 Shades as a standout success and looking at it from afar it is. Currently it seems to be the one mainstream sanctioned porn for women. That said, the romance genre on Amazon has experienced an enormous boom and is generating a lot of revenue as well. Maybe not comparable to the mainstream porn industry but it is significant.
It's interesting that in the black twitter/reddit thread some people were at least willing to examine the role of racial stereotypes in humour but when it comes to porn nobody gives a fuck beyond "but they consented!!"
But maledom is the norm in pornography. Most "vanilla" pornography is actually maledom. And femdom is very niche in comparison. And many of the things that men do in "vanilla" pornography, are considered degrading, emasculiting femdom when women do it to men. Over %90 of pornography I've had the unfortunate experience of seeing, has been maledom. While it seems like you really have to search for femdom, and it makes less than %1.
This really is insightful, especially the bolded. Too bad it will be dismissed out of hand.
Author need to see better porn than whatever shit he's watching
But there are rapists who are into BDSM. I can't say always because of that.The fact that you used "often" when regarding consent in a BDSM relationship just shuts down any and all credibility you probably didn't even have.
I'm sure it is. But can't you have trust in sex without trying someone up, having them say no, and calling them misogynistic and racist slurs?The single most important thing in a BDSM relationship is the trust.
So... kink critical radical feminism.. isn't feminism?By the way, you cannot claim to be a feminist if those are genuinely your views.
YupWhile most of this isn't really worth addressing, there is a long history of social commentary/criticism exploring the modern sexualization of consumer goods and conspicuous consumption--nothing new there, and not particularly controversial.
A lot of porn is "violent". I...sort of agree with at least the perspective the author is trying to articulate, but every specific point is completely off the railsWhat is this person watching?
But there are rapists who are into BDSM. I can't say always because of that.
I know that most people in BDSM do practice safewords and consent and that trust is very important. But it wouldn't be true if I didn't say there weren't rapists or very sexually exploitative people into BDSM.
I'm sure that's true. I just wonder, and it concerns me why people would want to be degraded like that with someone they love.My boyfriend loves me to death and I know when he calls me his slut, his whore, his "cock sock", he actually doesn't mean those things and furthermore I practically beg him to call me those things under my will. He treats me with great respect, and if I don't feel comfortable with him calling me that during sex, he'll apologize and treat me more lovingly instead.
Really? I feel like everyone on the planet has internalized some sexism and racism and homophobia and transphobia, even if we don't realize it.Do I hold any internalized misogyny, not really.
But maledom is the norm in pornography. Most "vanilla" pornography is actually maledom. And femdom is very niche in comparison. And many of the things that men do in "vanilla" pornography, are considered degrading, emasculiting femdom when women do it to men. Over %90 of pornography I've had the unfortunate experience of seeing, has been maledom. While it seems like you really have to search for femdom, and it makes less than %1.
I love Gale Dines. She perfectly encapsulates how I feel about commercialized pornography.
Pro-porn people are the same as gamergaters. Too afraid of change, equality, and getting their games/porn "taken away" to see the real issues with what they love.
I should clarify that when I say porn I'm talking about the commercialized misogyny that permeates the internet. Not amateur stuff people make in their bedrooms.
I'm sure that's true. I just wonder, and it concerns me why people would want to be degraded like that with someone they love.
Just hearing those words in making me cringe and feel very uncomfortable because of the sexist history with them. Because they're just not nice words. I don't know why anyone would want to be called that, for sexual or non-sexual reasons.
I love Gale Dines. She perfectly encapsulates how I feel about commercialized pornography.
Pro-porn people are the same as gamergaters. Too afraid of change, equality, and getting their games/porn "taken away" to see the real issues with what they love.
I should clarify that when I say porn I'm talking about the commercialized misogyny that permeates the internet. Not amateur stuff people make in their bedrooms.
But there are rapists who are into BDSM. I can't say always because of that.
So where does my horror at misogynistic words like these come from, and other people sexual pleasure from them come from?What I'm getting for this is that you don't understand something.
I'm not saying that femdom is invalidated. I'm saying it's treated as niche and not normalized like maledom is. Femdom and malesub fantasies are suppressed.I also don't get your point that the greater popularity of maledom completely invalidates femdom.
back to hentai i guess.