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[VASPER]

No you'll pretty much know that the meaning of life is sex and sexy time and things that lead to sex and cuddling. Or like how time literally stops when you meet someone and you know you're into each other and then you just go for it. Thousands of years of evolution leading up to this moment. Suddenly everything clicks and life will make sense. The first time your partner matches your rhythym to grinding hips and you both lose control, you will finally know what your ancestors where thinking when they made your mokey ass, reaching into the past for transcendental understanding. You will abandon your thousand dollar RC plane collection, you will begin collecting car parts instead. Or furniture, or tools and make your own furniture, or guns.

This is some shit right here tell you what.

 

[cdyhybrid]

Sex is not a big deal. It will happen. I lost my virginity at 28, and it wasn't a complicated thing. When the time is right, It'll work out.

Fisticuffs
Fuck you Flacco!
(Today, 04:01 PM)

 

[bidguy]

if you cant get laid no matter what you try
your standards are too high

 

[-Plasma Reus-]

i think those go hand in hand dude

Not necessarily. You can pay to have sex with someone.
But watching your missus iron your shirt after she makes you breakfast and gives you another round of sweet kisses, you can't buy that shit.

 

[Azzurri]

Time for an escort.

 

[pillowtalk]

I worked hard to not become a wizard. Paid off at 21. Was it worth it? Well, I'm not a wizard, so...

 

[NukeLaser]

Hand, vagina, what's the difference?

No one?

 

[VE3TRO]

Hand, vagina, what's the difference?

One holds money one drains it.

 

[CornBurrito]

I don't get why paying for sex is a solution. The main problem with virginity that I can see is that people will deem you socially maladjusted. Does that stigma really go away if you had to pay for sex? Like you go from "socially maladjusted virgin" to "normal person" because you shelled out a couple hundred bucks?

 

[Eidan]

This is a fascinating thread. To the virgins in here, tell me what you think of Anita Sarkeesian.

 

[Crayons]

This is a fascinating thread. To the virgins in here, tell me what you think of Anita Sarkeesian.

Oh, you had sex? You must be a really cool dude!

 

[Kinsei]

Hiya, I'm one.

 

[Einhander]

Sex isn't all life has to offer. Don't put it on a pedestal. Enjoy the many other aspects of life.

 

[Azulsky]

Sex is not a big deal. It will happen. I lost my virginity at 28, and it wasn't a complicated thing. When the time is right, It'll work out.

2 years from apotheosis and you threw in the towel...

 

[Eidan]

Oh, you had sex? You must be a really cool dude!

I'm not cool, but I am a fan of Feminist Frequency.

 

[HUELEN10]

I've tried for years to understand, and I still don't to this day. Why is there such an obsession with having sex for the first time by a certain age? Is it a lack of self-confidence, something to prove to peers, or something else entirely? My ex-roomie was desperate, so desperate to get laid since I met him. Eventually, he got laid at 26, and didn't get laid since, yet he now felt sure about himself, whatever that means.

Didn't understand it in high school, didn't understand it in college, don't understand now. Is this "the thirst" that some GAF threads talk about?

 

[terrisus]

Hand, vagina, what's the difference?

Plugged, unplugged, what's the difference?

 

[Freaky Fred]

Plugged, unplugged, what's the difference?

I prefer Clapton unplugged

i think those go hand in hand dude

I must be doing it wrong

Also, happy birthday OP. Is that even what this thread is about anymore?

 

[Eidan]

I've tried for years to understand, and I still don't to this day. Why is there such an obsession with having sex for the first time by a certain age? Is it a lack of self-confidence, something to prove to peers, or something else entirely? My ex-roomie was desperate, so desperate to get laid since I met him. Eventually, he got laid at 26, and didn't get laid since, yet he now felt sure about himself, whatever that means.

Didn't understand it in high school, didn't understand it in college, don't understand now. Is this "the thirst" that some GAF threads talk about?

Intense societal pressures that stigmatize male celibacy.

 

[John Kowalski]

think of all the hot wizards you will be able to sleep with in anor londo op

 

[I'm an expert]

I've tried for years to understand, and I still don't to this day. Why is there such an obsession with having sex for the first time by a certain age? Is it a lack of self-confidence, something to prove to peers, or something else entirely? My ex-roomie was desperate, so desperate to get laid since I met him. Eventually, he got laid at 26, and didn't get laid since, yet he now felt sure about himself, whatever that means.

Didn't understand it in high school, didn't understand it in college, don't understand now. Is this "the thirst" that some GAF threads talk about?

Sex is just fun. It is enjoyable. People should have as much sex as they can with as many partners as they can because every situation with every person is totally different. If you start young, you get to experience more of those situations.

Getting with the popular boy/girl, having sex in crazy places, hiding from parents. Same in college. The dorm relationship, the orgy, the one night stand.

You really are young only one time in your life. Your first time can be at 30 and nothing will be "wrong" with you, it's just missed opportunities that you can't reclaim.

But yes, in the grand scheme, there's also the societal expectations.

 

[Crayons]

Intense societal pressures that stigmatize male celibacy.

You mean like

This is a fascinating thread. To the virgins in here, tell me what you think of Anita Sarkeesian.

?

 

[bidguy]

who is this anite sarkisan

 

[Eidan]

You mean like




?

You think I'm stigmatizing virginity? My question was trying to seeing if there were any connections between virginity and views on feminism.

I'd tell virgins here to not sweat it. Fucking really isn't a big deal. It'll happen when it happens.

 

[Rayis]

same as me OP, actually in gay circles, that's actually considered death.

 

[John Kowalski]

This is a fascinating thread. To the virgins in here, tell me what you think of Anita Sarkeesian.

wait err, what

 

[bud]

dude, trust me: there's still hope. don't give up.

i lost my virginity at the age of 29.

i'm 26 now.

 

[rpmurphy]

You think I'm stigmatizing virginity? My question was trying to seeing if there were any connections between virginity and views on feminism.

Women can be virgins.

 

[Eidan]

Women can be virgins.

What do you think their opinion of Tropes vs. Women is?

 

[sgjackson]

if you seriously got magic powers from being a virgin till 30 i'd still be a virgin

 

[Lord of Castamere]

This is a fascinating thread. To the virgins in here, tell me what you think of Anita Sarkeesian.

Indifference.

 

[Bisnic]

dude, trust me: there's still hope. don't give up.

i lost my virginity at the age of 29.

i'm 26 now.

Are you sure you haven't reach wizard status?

 

[Freaky Fred]

I lost mine when I was 18.

I leave a bowl of milk on my front step every night hoping it will come back

 

[CornBurrito]

You think I'm stigmatizing virginity? My question was trying to seeing if there were any connections between virginity and views on feminism.

I'd tell virgins here to not sweat it. Fucking really isn't a big deal. It'll happen when it happens.

The expectation that male virgins are anti-feminist is also a problem. The fact that people expect a connection is pretty telling.

Of course maybe there is a statistical connection, but you aren't going to find out from an informal gaf "study."

Sex is just fun. It is enjoyable. People should have as much sex as they can with as many partners as they can because every situation with every person is totally different. If you start young, you get to experience more of those situations.

Getting with the popular boy/girl, having sex in crazy places, hiding from parents. Same in college. The dorm relationship, the orgy, the one night stand.

You really are young only one time in your life. Your first time can be at 30 and nothing will be "wrong" with you, it's just missed opportunities that you can't reclaim.

But yes, in the grand scheme, there's also the societal expectations.

I honestly don't think this view is the only correct one. It is a fine view, but I'm sure more religious/conservative people would argue you miss out on something by not saving yourself for your life partner. And you can't exactly prove them wrong, just like they can't prove you wrong.

 

[SugarDave]

I've tried for years to understand, and I still don't to this day. Why is there such an obsession with having sex for the first time by a certain age? Is it a lack of self-confidence, something to prove to peers, or something else entirely? My ex-roomie was desperate, so desperate to get laid since I met him. Eventually, he got laid at 26, and didn't get laid since, yet he now felt sure about himself, whatever that means.

Didn't understand it in high school, didn't understand it in college, don't understand now. Is this "the thirst" that some GAF threads talk about?

I'm guessing it's social pressure more than anything. As much as a lot of people like to insist their behaviour or thoughts aren't influenced by outside sources, if you hear something enough then eventually you'll probably start to believe it, or at least have it in the back of your mind. And with the amount of media produced where sex is pretty much highlighted as the most important thing in the world, or even small things like some people in GAF threads being surprised when they hear about a virgin in their mid-twenties, it's not really surprising that many people view it as being an essential step in growing as a person.

I think the case for the majority of virgins, myself included, is that they simply don't try. Sure, the ones who drive others away with their desperation exist, but I don't think that's what happens in most instances. This could just be my own experience colouring my perception of things but I really think it's a lack of effort more than anything. The big difference in that though is between the people who know and accept it's all down to themselves and those who shield themselves by placing the blame on everyone else as though sex is something they're owed.

 

[sixteen-bit]

happy birthday OP

 

[unholyrevenger72]

Only two years left for me, but then again it's been real easy not getting laid as I'm fairly certain that i am the least attractive person in existence today. I've never once been complimented by a woman/girl that was not a blood relation and being polite (Have you ever told your sibling his/her child is ugly?), and in turn a girl/woman has never felt the desire to ask me out. Most of the time, i'm met with Hostility or disgust when i ask a girl out ( i rarely get a polite "No").

 

[FelixOrion]

The expectation that male virgins are anti-feminist is also a problem. The fact that people expect a connection is pretty telling.

Of course maybe there is a statistical connection, but you aren't going to find out from an informal gaf "study."

Exactly. And also, it surmises that one can't be critical/dislike FF/Sarkeesian/TvW and still be pro-Feminism.

 

[terrisus]

I lost mine when I was 18.

I leave a bowl of milk on my front step every night hoping it will come back

 

[Laconic]

Indifference.

So pretty much the same as us non-virgins, then?

 

[terrisus]

I've tried for years to understand, and I still don't to this day. Why is there such an obsession with having sex for the first time by a certain age? Is it a lack of self-confidence, something to prove to peers, or something else entirely? My ex-roomie was desperate, so desperate to get laid since I met him. Eventually, he got laid at 26, and didn't get laid since, yet he now felt sure about himself, whatever that means.

Didn't understand it in high school, didn't understand it in college, don't understand now. Is this "the thirst" that some GAF threads talk about?

Sex is just fun. It is enjoyable. People should have as much sex as they can with as many partners as they can because every situation with every person is totally different. If you start young, you get to experience more of those situations.

Getting with the popular boy/girl, having sex in crazy places, hiding from parents. Same in college. The dorm relationship, the orgy, the one night stand.

You really are young only one time in your life. Your first time can be at 30 and nothing will be "wrong" with you, it's just missed opportunities that you can't reclaim.

But yes, in the grand scheme, there's also the societal expectations.

To you, in your opinion.

That doesn't really do anything to answer Huelen's question though.

 

[shadyspace]

Is this the thread to brag about when we lost our virginity in?

 

[Laconic]

I've tried for years to understand, and I still don't to this day. Why is there such an obsession with having sex for the first time by a certain age? Is it a lack of self-confidence, something to prove to peers, or something else entirely? My ex-roomie was desperate, so desperate to get laid since I met him. Eventually, he got laid at 26, and didn't get laid since, yet he now felt sure about himself, whatever that means.

Didn't understand it in high school, didn't understand it in college, don't understand now. Is this "the thirst" that some GAF threads talk about?

It is not just sex. In this society (America), pretty much everything is expected to follow a particular scripted chained of events, point for point, like life is just a flipping flowchart.

 

[maomaoIYP]

I'll be a level 4 wizard in 4 months time.

 

[terrisus]

It is not just sex. In this society (America), pretty much everything is expected to follow a particular scripted chained of events, point for point, like life is just a flipping flowchart.

And this is pretty much the answer.

The trick is to just not care, and do what you want.

I'll be a level 4 wizard in 4 months time.

You'll be 120 years old?

 

[Eidan]

The expectation that male virgins are anti-feminist is also a problem. The fact that people expect a connection is pretty telling.

Of course maybe there is a statistical connection, but you aren't going to find out from an informal gaf "study."

Of course one wouldn't find a statistical connection. Still, it's something I've been thinking about. Obviously not every male virgin becomes a card carrying member of an MRA group, but how many people who prescribe to the MRA worldview have ever had anything approaching a substantive relationship with a woman? I can't imagine many. Which then makes me wonder how many can be described as "virgins gone bad"? But that's an entirely different subject.

Back on topic, happy birthday OP.

 

[I'm an expert]

I honestly don't think this view is the only correct one. It is a fine view, but I'm sure more religious/conservative people would argue you miss out on something by not saving yourself for your life partner. And you can't exactly prove them wrong, just like they can't prove you wrong.

Well, that's most things in life. I gave him an example.

 

[Baron von Loathsome]

edit: There is the original one.

I'm only a few months from the Point of Know Return.

 

[Tatsumaki Senpuukyaku!]

this is an odd thing to think about on your birthday

 

[FelixOrion]

I've tried for years to understand, and I still don't to this day. Why is there such an obsession with having sex for the first time by a certain age? Is it a lack of self-confidence, something to prove to peers, or something else entirely? My ex-roomie was desperate, so desperate to get laid since I met him. Eventually, he got laid at 26, and didn't get laid since, yet he now felt sure about himself, whatever that means.

Didn't understand it in high school, didn't understand it in college, don't understand now. Is this "the thirst" that some GAF threads talk about?

There's kinda a pressure, sometimes external but also sometimes internalized by some men, that there's must be something wrong with you if you fail to have sex by a certain age, so the sooner the better, or that you have some sort of sexual expiration date, so to speak. Sort of the '40 Year Old Virgin' stigma, I guess.

'Thirst' actually is a way of saying 'desperate lust,' the way I understand it.