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This isn't a relationship right.

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TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared

Member
I've blocked him on social media as of now.

What is this, "he won't leave me alone" stuff? Have you told him to fuck off?
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Yes, I've blocked him before. He's made multiple other FB accounts to slag me off in various groups, spread rumours about me, insult my weight, etc.

I told him to stop! He's 24! What am I supposed to do?
 
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SDBurton

World's #1 Cosmonaut Enthusiast
That is super fucking creepy, you should've told him to snap the fuck out of it and leave her alone.

Piston Hyundai said:
why do people on GAF insist on asking questions they already know the answer to
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I honestly don't know, and quite frankly I wish people would stop.
 
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Lightning_Roller

Banned
Morrigan Stark said:
Your "friend" is a stalker, a creep, and an asshole. Tell him to leave that girl alone, that if he sent over 150 messages and she's barely responding SHE'S CLEARLY NOT INTERESTED FOR FUCK'S SAKE


....No, you aren't misreading him, you are reading him exactly as what he is: an irredeemable piece of shit you need to cut out of your life.

What the fuck?! You stay friends with someone because he... harasses you?

Grow a spine and cut him out of your life NOW. Christ.
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This. All of this. This asshole is a leech and is going to end up screwing you over in the long run if you don't cut him out of your life now. That asshole has all the makings of a fucking psycho and you are still trying to be friends with this guy. GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM HIM AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. STOP BEING A WUSS, PUT YOUR FUCKING FOOT DOWN AND TELL HIM TO FUCK OFF. PERIOD!!
 
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Creamium

shut uuuuuuuuuuuuuuup
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
So my friend (person I know, its bizarre homophobic person I have mentioned on gaf before) met this girl in Co Offaly at the end of August when he was on holiday with his family. He chatted with this girl once or twice, she gave him her phone number. Since then, he's sent her over 150 messages and she's responded twice, and hasn't text him in 3 weeks. He somehow found her snapchat and messaged her there too.

He thinks there's a problem with her phone and thats why she hasn't messaged back, and thinks she wouldn't have given him a number at all if she didn't like him, according to the youtube videos he's watched she was 'giving me all the signs she was into me' and how he thinks they're gonna be together and how they'd make a long distance relationship work etc (he doesn't drive, and Offaly is about a 3 hour drive from us) and my pointing out this was all a bit tenuous was met with 'well you're probably gay so you don't know'

Anyway, he's messaged me yesterday saying do I want to go with him to Offaly and I said no, he messaged me today saying he was in Offaly and he was going to find her by waiting at her work.

This isn't a relationship right? Or anything? I was gonna tell him again but I can't be bothered at this point, hopefully she sends him away or calls the police.
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He thinks there's a problem with her phone and thats why she hasn't messaged back
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Man that's rich. What a creep. He's going to wait at her work? Even better.
 
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kmax

Member
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huh

Yeah, I'm not sure I'd be calling him a friend at this point. Perhaps it's time for a phone call to police before he ends up hurting someone.
 
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mike6467

Member
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
I was gonna call his parents? They must know more than me about this girl, all I have is a first name.
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If you have access to his parents, then yeah. Let them know ALL of this. Including the shit he's pulled with you. If anyone is in a position to help him or at least slap him around a little, it's probably them.
 
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The Real Abed

Perma-Junior
This guy is definitely not in a relationship with this girl and he is definitely not in a friendship with you. He’s a creep and extremely socially awkward. Couple that with the homophobia and I say stay the duck away from him and hope this poor girl doesn’t get hurt by him.

I’m not fixing that autocorrection either.
 
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Shadow Puppetry

Member
"and thinks she wouldn't have given him a number at all if she didn't like him, according to the youtube videos he's watched she was 'giving me all the signs she was into me' "

O-Oh. Anyway, yep he sounds like a stalker.
 
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Kevtones

Member
The fuck is wrong with that guy? She's not into him and he's clearly not reading it right.

He's a literal stalker and creepy af.
 
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Usobuko

Banned
You friends sounds dangerous, like the kind to shoot people up because of their failed love life. Reminds me of Elliot Rodgers.

It's one thing to be a deluded stalker, it's another to have radical views at the same time.
 
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hitme

Member
Inform the girl in advance.

If you want to be a total bro, tell him that you've been going out with her instead.
 
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AbsolutBro

Member
Your "friend" is a piece of shit that personifies why many women are afraid to meet people.

You need to cut him from your life entirely. If he shows up, tell him to fuck off, you're done with him. Believe me, it's better to cut that sort of toxicity out of your life.
 
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Kevtones

Member
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
I've blocked him on social media as of now.



Yes, I've blocked him before. He's made multiple other FB accounts to slag me off in various groups, spread rumours about me, insult my weight, etc.

I told him to stop! He's 24! What am I supposed to do?
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Wtf take control of your life dude. Tell him you're done or don't respond to him. He's. Not. Your. Friend.
 
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GK86

Homeland Security Fail
I'm curious as to what the OP's definition of a relationship is.



Or a friendship for that matter.
 
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8byte

Banned
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
So my friend (person I know, its bizarre homophobic person I have mentioned on gaf before) met this girl in Co Offaly at the end of August when he was on holiday with his family. He chatted with this girl once or twice, she gave him her phone number. Since then, he's sent her over 150 messages and she's responded twice, and hasn't text him in 3 weeks. He somehow found her snapchat and messaged her there too.

He thinks there's a problem with her phone and thats why she hasn't messaged back, and thinks she wouldn't have given him a number at all if she didn't like him, according to the youtube videos he's watched she was 'giving me all the signs she was into me' and how he thinks they're gonna be together and how they'd make a long distance relationship work etc (he doesn't drive, and Offaly is about a 3 hour drive from us) and my pointing out this was all a bit tenuous was met with 'well you're probably gay so you don't know'

Anyway, he's messaged me yesterday saying do I want to go with him to Offaly and I said no, he messaged me today saying he was in Offaly and he was going to find her by waiting at her work.

This isn't a relationship right? Or anything? I was gonna tell him again but I can't be bothered at this point, hopefully she sends him away or calls the police.
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This is how episodes of Law & Order unravel.

Tell him to stop, and if you can find out who this girl is, warn her or something? This sounds very unstable and unsafe (for her).
 
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zeemumu

Member
Dude you gotta get out of that "friendship." He's basically harassing you into continuing to hang out with him because he knows that you'd rather give in than deal with the drama. And from you description of his dating life, this isn't specific to you. Do Facebook's privacy settings allow you to not receive messages from non-friends so you can avoid the dummy accounts. You said he's spreading rumors in groups too, but if he's consistent in the way that he acts I doubt anyone would believe them over you.
 
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Chmpocalypse

Blizzard
Say something to relevant parties, before your next thread is about how this stalker creep killed the woman who clearly wants nothing to do with him.
 
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Travo

Member
zeemumu said:
Dude you gotta get out of that "friendship." He's basically harassing you into continuing to hang out with him because he knows that you'd rather give in than deal with the drama. And from you description of his dating life, this isn't specific to you. Do Facebook's privacy settings allow you to not receive messages from non-friends so you can avoid the dummy accounts. You said he's spreading rumors in groups too, but if he's consistent in the way that he acts I doubt anyone would believe them over you.
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He definitely doesn’t fear you, OP.
 
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TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared

Member
Alright, his parents have rung the relevant casino this poor girl works at, she isn't working tonight anyway apparently. They've also rung him and are going to go and pick him up.

I don't know what else I can do? I still don't know which casino it is so I have no way to contact her.

Why would you leave that out? He is is harassing you and her.
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Because she's the one went to to all the ludicrous effort to find.
 
Mohonky

Mohonky

Member
Not sure whats worse, the fact your friend is full blown stalker / delusional nut case or the fact you even had to ask if that was a relationship.

Like, what sort of socialisation did you some of you have growing up?

If the next Jeffrey Dahmer turns out to be a gaffer, I wont be the least but surprised.
 
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Hopfrog

Member
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
Alright, his parents have rung the relevant casino this poor girl works at, she isn't working tonight anyway apparently. They've also rung him and are going to go and pick him up.

I don't know what else I can do? I still don't know which casino it is so I have no way to contact her.



Because she's the one went to to all the ludicrous effort to find.
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But he is still harassing you. It is good that you contacted them and hopefully this girl will be able to avoid having to deal with this guy but you are still locked into a terrible situation with him.
 
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Usobuko

Banned
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
Well I'm kinda tired dealing with his bullshit about women, muslims, abortions, national service to get homeless people off the street because he doesn't like to look at them, etc, that I thought I might be misreading him a tad.
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This is exactly the kind that will go crazy once they sees a trigger.

Can you imagine his reaction if he were to stalk the girl at her work place only to found out that she has a dark-skinned male friend chatting with her or something?

He's likely going to be the lone wolf shooter you see in the papers tmr.
 
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Sho_Nuff82

Member
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
Well I'm kinda tired dealing with his bullshit about women, muslims, abortions, national service to get homeless people off the street because he doesn't like to look at them, etc, that I thought I might be misreading him a tad.
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I think every GAF thread about friends like these always has people ask OP why they're friends with these people, and the answer is always something silly like "well he's a good cook and plays healer class in Overwatch."
 
entremet

entremet

Member
Take it easy on the OP, guys.

He's posted stuff about his traumatic childhood before, which could explain his friendship and curiosity on how real boundaries work. Show some gentleness.
 
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Mesoian

Member
Since then, he's sent her over 150 messages and she's responded twice, and hasn't text him in 3 weeks. He somehow found her snapchat and messaged her there too.
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Pfft.

Tell him to stop calling her. It's not going to happen.
 
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TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared

Member
I'm hoping I can get his parents to warn her now? Or pass it on through the workplace?


And if you want the truth I don't give a shit what he does to me at this point as I'm too tired to give a fuck but I'm pretty sure this girl whoever she is wouldn't have deserved him turning up at her workplace on a Sunday evening because he doesn't get what no contact means. Even though I did tell him, multiple times.
 
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Muffin1611

Banned
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
Because she's the one went to to all the ludicrous effort to find.
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Not leaving you alone and creating multiple accounts on FB to harrass you is something I also would put under "ludicrous effort".

Seriously, if that person is literally harrassing you and you don't want any contact with them, tell that to his parents too and if that doesn't work it might be time to visit the authorities.
 
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