This is partially what confuses me, too. It's also why the Genderbread picture is kind of odd to me. I believe pretty much everything we are is on a scale, much like the picture, and can be very fluid. But it feels weird to me that it still describes things in a binary nature. What exactly is "woman-ness" or "man-ness" when talking about gender? Like, I really just don't understand what it is if it isn't talking about just gender roles. And if that's the case then that should be pointed out, and even talking about things in terms of traditional gender roles seems reductive to me. Perhaps there just isn't a way to do that graphic without going that route. I dunno.
To me, though, you're just you, and whatever that means to you, and I'm just me. I don't feel especially "male" in any way. I guess I fall into a good amount of traditional male gender roles, but I still identify more as just "me" rather than "male."