This is one of the best simpsons gif but the context here made me bust out laughing.
There's the bullshit again about women purposely using nice dudes because it's advantageous to them.
What a weird relationship the OP has with this woman. I don't know why he has such a vested interest in helping her, further her career. It sounds like she just wants to be a career woman, and think it will be very doubtful that she will want a romantic relationship once she starts her vocation.
the only people that spout the term friendzone are usually frustrated or mentally think kindness coins are a valid currency and should get you laid
it's seriously not even that fucking hard
you know how if you're hetero, and you have hetero people you meet? you decide if they're a friend, foe, meh, etc? yeah the opposite sex is literally the same way. they're normal goddamn people. if you're a dude and a woman doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship with you, respect their goddamn word and move on to looking for a relationship with someone else.
thinking you can "eventually convince" someone or win them over is some not-acknowledging-the-other-person-as-a-person shit
when you say "friendzone" you can read it as "i am a fucking idiot and it's all this other person's fault" See how fucking stupid it sounds?
the only people that spout the term friendzone are usually frustrated or mentally think kindness coins are a valid currency and should get you laid
it's seriously not even that fucking hard
you know how if you're hetero, and you have hetero people you meet? you decide if they're a friend, foe, meh, etc? yeah the opposite sex is literally the same way. they're normal goddamn people. if you're a dude and a woman doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship with you, respect their goddamn word and move on to looking for a relationship with someone else.
thinking you can "eventually convince" someone or win them over is some not-acknowledging-the-other-person-as-a-person shit
when you say "friendzone" you can read it as "i am a fucking idiot and it's all this other person's fault" See how fucking stupid it sounds?
Please don't be this guy
In general I agree. However I do think a metaphorical friend zone exists and have seen guys make it out of it and eventually date the girl. I realize it's not the majority of experiences, but in the minority, but it does happen.
life changes over time and someone may want someone different, which turns out to be a friend. yes some friends do end up together romantically. But so will complete strangers or people that went to school together for first grade and somehow meet up 30 years later. thinking you just put enough kindness coins eventually you'll get a full relationship is dehumanizing the other person.
It helps to have a spine and actually reject people of the gender you are attracted to as potential partners. friendzoners built up this ideal perfect vision of the person they pine after, ignoring all the red flags and signs of why they're better off as a friend than a partner. And often you just torch a perfectly awesome long term friendship over wanting to get some.
Loving a girl and wanting to be more than friends when she just wants to be friends is the worst
I can't believe people are actually using the term friend zone in here. Lol
We've all been there. OP should just be rational for a moment and be honest with this girl, he should ascertain if they want the same thing or not.
Once again I completely agree. I've met plenty of dudes like that, and in almost all those situations it was a matter of the girl being out of the guy's league but the guy still convincing himself he still has a chance by being good friends with her.
However I would be remiss if I didn't admit that I've seen guys overcome this and stayed persistent and ever vigilant to their goal and ended up achieving it. It's something I would never recommend and IMO is humiliating to endure, not to mention embarrassing to see your boy put himself through that, but it does happen, despite how rare it occurs.
I want to crawl in a hole and die and I don't even know these people.Please don't be this guy
When did friend zone get redefined? Back in my day it was a fairly obvious stage of a relationship. Hanging out with friends and you hook up with one of them, but don't close the deal for one reason or another, you lost the shot and are now in the "friend zone". You've relinquished all possible chances of hooking up again. Your still friends, but not romantically and you ask for her help as a wingman. It wasn't some weird long period, it was more of a benchmark that signaled a point of no return.
In general I agree. However I do think a metaphorical friend zone exists and have seen guys make it out of it and eventually date the girl. I realize it's not the majority of experiences, but in the minority, but it does happen.
In general I agree. However I do think a metaphorical friend zone exists and have seen guys make it out of it and eventually date the girl. I realize it's not the majority of experiences, but in the minority, but it does happen.
the only people that spout the term friendzone are usually frustrated or mentally think kindness coins are a valid currency and should get you laid
it's seriously not even that fucking hard
you know how if you're hetero, and you have hetero people you meet? you decide if they're a friend, foe, meh, etc? yeah the opposite sex is literally the same way. they're normal goddamn people. if you're a dude and a woman doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship with you, respect their goddamn word and move on to looking for a relationship with someone else.
thinking you can "eventually convince" someone or win them over is some not-acknowledging-the-other-person-as-a-person shit
when you say "friendzone" you can read it as "i am a fucking idiot and it's all this other person's fault" See how fucking stupid it sounds?
You are definitely in the friend zone. Ultimately, she will let you go once she finds someone she's really interested in. She likely genuinely enjoys time with you, but she's holding out for someone other than you to fill her time romantically. For her, it's better to have something than nothing. I do think you can get out of the friend zone and into a relationship but it takes a bit of trickery. I've seen it work multiple times though. It's not too dastardly, but if you prescribe to 'all is fair in love and war'; then given what you've already done in your relationship, you may be in the perfect position.
Otherwise, just back out of this and spare yourself the eventual heartbreak and anguish.
I'm assuming OP is done providing updates to this thread now?
This thread.
Where's OP? I think you guys made him cry.
I want to crawl in a hole and die and I don't even know these people.
I'm assuming the OP created a new GAF account.
Bottom right pic is amazingPlease don't be this guy
so in reality the other person more or less settled after a while. have fun being Plan L
it's still not something to encourage.
I know you mean well but understand the impact of this phrasing. There is nothing to "make it out of". Phrasing it this way implies the man finally got the girl and convinced her to date him.
Listen to how you're talking.
Make it our of it as if friendship with a woman is some horrible pit a man has to try and escape.
Douchechills sent through my body like the holy ghost
It's insulting to the intelligence of the girl here to think she wont see through his "trick".
Douchechills sent through my body like the holy ghost
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I think OP is never coming back...