Prophaniti
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This thread feels super weird.
So many of you look at children as some sort of negative aspect to one's life.
I respect your opinions but it makes me feel really sad for you.
We call that being condescending.
This thread feels super weird.
So many of you look at children as some sort of negative aspect to one's life.
I respect your opinions but it makes me feel really sad for you.
This thread feels super weird.
So many of you look at children as some sort of negative aspect to one's life.
I respect your opinions but it makes me feel really sad for you.
This thread feels super weird.
So many of you look at children as some sort of negative aspect to one's life.
I respect your opinions but it makes me feel really sad for you.
This thread feels super weird.
So many of you look at children as some sort of negative aspect to one's life.
I respect your opinions but it makes me feel really sad for you.
This thread feels super weird.
So many of you look at children as some sort of negative aspect to one's life.
I respect your opinions but it makes me feel really sad for you.
This thread feels super weird.
So many of you look at children as some sort of negative aspect to one's life.
I respect your opinions but it makes me feel really sad for you.
No, nobody ever knows. What these people do is incredibly callous, and in my experience, it is said in a genuinely condescending way. It's a complete disregard for someone's life choices that only seems to be socially acceptable when it comes to this particular choice. Intentions do not matter here, your experiences do not matter. People push gay conversion therapy because they legitimately believe heterosexuality is superior because of their experience.
There are plenty of people out there who shouldn't have kids. Just flat out, no way, bad idea. They might know it, or they might not. These are otherwise well-adjusted, financially stable, loving, mature adult couples. Maybe for some people it's the sparkly magic pixie dust that ties their life together and gives them true purpose, and maybe for others it's the catalyst that sends things off the track and ruins the lives of both the parents and the child.
My takeaway point is that parenthood should absolutely be respected and admired for those who choose it. It should not however, be deified, pushed as a fix-it button for life, or a subject which anyone, anywhere is ever patronized for.
I love my nephews and I'm really good with them, but I don't think I'm going to have my own kids because I'm not a very stable person.
I guess I can see that. I have friends that have been trying to get pregnant for a while. Even on them I can tell the pressure from others is enormousFrustration over societal pressure? First it's when are you getting a girlfriend/boyfriend, then when are you getting married, when are you having a kid, oh you have to have siblings, etc etc.
Absolutely, my partner feels the same - she would rather be dead than pregnant. We're very much cat people.
I don't have kids and plan on never having them for similar reasons as you OP.
I try to remedy that by giving people some hopefully good ideas about raising their kids.
Contradiction here. Respect != pityThis thread feels super weird.
So many of you look at children as some sort of negative aspect to one's life.
I respect your opinions but it makes me feel really sad for you.
My brother said this, but they just had another one. lol
Don't always work.
I guess I can see that. I have friends that have been trying to get pregnant for a while. Even on them I can tell the pressure from others is enormous
Imagine yourself in a restaurant or movie theater where the kid is crying endlessly, or the way some kids throw tantrums for not getting what they want. Stunts like that makes me applaud establishments that have the No Kids Allowed rule.
I will win at the game of life by fulfilling my duty of procreation!
A stretch of successes roughly 4 billion years long and you wish to bring it to a close... almost tragic, to be honest.
My brother said this, but they just had another one. lol
Don't always work.
Don't you get the usual "you don't have kids so you wouldn't understand "?
I've heard about the childfree subreddit. However, I don't understand the point. I mean, you dont want children and that's perfectly fine. What do they have to talk about?
This thread feels super weird.
So many of you look at children as some sort of negative aspect to one's life.
I respect your opinions but it makes me feel really sad for you.
My wife and I are both 35 and agreed before we were married (6 years now, though we've been together for nearly 10 and known each other for nearly 20) we wanted to be childfree.
Not only do we like our current lifestyle, but her parents are both in poor health and we're spending an increasing amount of time taking care of them (driving them around, running errands, etc.); if we had kids we'd be sandwiched between them.
We have friends who have kids and we enjoy spending time with them (and yes, "them" includes the kid), but we just don't want that kind of lifestyle for us personally. We're fine being the cool uncle / aunt or godparents for a while and then sending them off with mom and dad.
We have two wonderful, well-behaved cats, however.
This thread feels super weird.
So many of you look at children as some sort of negative aspect to one's life.
I respect your opinions but it makes me feel really sad for you.