I don't begrudge those who say they don't want kids (my vindictive lizard brain wants to say 'good I don't want you in the world my son will inherit', but I rise above that and say whatever makes you happy).
But it isn'tMost people making that choice would admit it's a selfish choice. There's nothing wrong with that.
I feel just the opposite. A lot of the people who don't breed are usually the ones I wish would inherit the planet, while I look at some of the scumbags and losers I know who did have kids and cringe. #idiocracyI don't begrudge those who say they don't want kids (my vindictive lizard brain wants to say 'good I don't want you in the world my son will inherit', but I rise above that and say whatever makes you happy).
But it isn't
Why would I quote a dozen people instead of 1?Why are you quoting me and not the dozens of people in this very thread who have said that they won't have kids and that it's a selfish choice?
Why are we acting like having kids is inherently selfish or selfless? Meaningless dichotomy.Why are you quoting me and not the dozens of people in this very thread who have said that they won't have kids and that it's a selfish choice?
Why would I quote a dozen people instead of 1?
Why would I quote a dozen people instead of 1?
The only people who say it's "selfish" are people who believe everyone has some moral imperative to propagate.
Why are we acting like having kids is inherently selfish or selfless? Meaningless dichotomy.
Yeah it's really selfless to shoot jizz into a woman when you're seeking pleasure. What a selfless hero you'd have to be to get someone pregnant. Everyone who shits out a kid is a real hero.
The argument that it's selfish to not have kids is nonsensical as a baseline. It's not an argument, it's a thing people say to reaffirm their life decisions.Why would you dispute a person who made a decision over a person who understand their reason for making that decision?
I dunno, you wanted the easy way out? Being selfish is a totally valid reason to not have a kid that has nothing to do with 'some moral imperative to propogate'
I have kids. Why are you arguing with me over the people in this thread who have said they don't want kids and have admitted that it's due to selfish reasons?
The argument that it's selfish to not have kids is nonsensical as a baseline. It's not an argument, it's a thing people say to reaffirm their life decisions.
Most people making that choice would admit it's a selfish choice. There's nothing wrong with that.
Because I don't care about these people. They're wrong.Again, why are you quoting me and not the people who have literally said 'I'm not having kids for selfish reasons'?
Because I don't care about these people. They're wrong.
I've never understood the "selfish" argument. Even if it was, so what? I know plenty of people who have had kids for selfish reasons too.
I've got two kids, I couldn't imagine my life without them, but if people don't want kids, why would I possibly care?
The only "child free" people who annoy me are the ones who seem to think that they shouldn't every have to see or hear kids in public, and completely forget what kids are like.
Of course, I also can't count how many times I've wanted to yell at other parents for their shitty parenting.
Yes.Their opinion is wrong. Ok.
I'm not arguing with you about that. It's just a meaningless semantic debate.I have kids. Why are you arguing with me over the people in this thread who have said they don't want kids and have admitted that it's due to selfish reasons?.
It's objectively selfish to have children, not the other way around.
It lets you judge people while simultaneously patting yourself on the back.I'm not arguing with you about that. It's just a meaningless semantic debate.
I just happened to be the first reply, them's the breaks.
I'm a mild mannered individual. Nothing generally gets to me. Like for real, I think most people generally overreact about everything (and then make threads about it on GAF).
But it takes 5 seconds for a screaming kid in a grocery store to make me internally wish death upon everyone involved. (Kid for existing, parent for bringing the child to the store and allowing it to make that infernal noise.)
So just extrapolating and following the chain of events to a not improbable conclusion. I wouldn't like prison.
It lets you judge people while simultaneously patting yourself on the back.
If your opinion is agreeing that it's selfish to not have kids you're just wrong. There's no reason to even say it other than being judgmental.Without re reading the thread I can think of 2 posters who have come across as judgemental to those who choose to not have kids, and both were rightly called out by people on both sides.
I haven't done that, yet you choose to call me out for agreeing with people who chose not to have kids on their reasons for not having kids. Look at the post above this one for similar nonsense. Probably posted by a 20 year old.
You're also ignoring the people who have literally said they're proud to not have kids, and that they pity those who do have kids.
Come on now.
I'm 26 and my gf is 22, we've been together for 4 years now and we've both agreed on having children once we done some more traveling. We've both only traveled around Europe so we want to spend a few years working and traveling around the world before we have children.
I don't see the point in jumping into parenthood so early on in life, it just makes me feel like I've got years of my life just wasted away and I'm glad she thinks completely the same too. Hell, the only reason we even want kids in the future is because we both don't have any other family members to carry down our names for future generations, but I'm sure as we mature more and we've done some travelling we'll be happy enough to make a family, but until then we're just cool being carefree adults doing what ever we want.
If your opinion is agreeing that it's selfish to not have kids you're just wrong. There's no reason to even say it other than being judgmental.
It's objectively selfish to have children, not the other way around.
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yes it's selfish but even if you have kids that ain't gonna change you to be less selfish. You are who you are.
I have no idea what you are talking about at this point.How can a Persons decision to not have kids be wrong? Get over yourself.
I have no idea what you are talking about at this point.
Reproduction is not really an objective purpose. It's something we humans often do, like eat, and sleep, and love, and shit, but it's not a "purpose".The only objective purpose humans have is to pass on their genes. Also you put tremendously more resources into rearing your children than you will probably ever get out of them. Not a terribly good investment for self-centered individuals.
I hate kids, and I like money and free time. I'd get a vasectomy if I wasn't such a wuss.
At this point whatever point you are trying to make is straight up incoherent. Stop talking to me.Where did I say that selfishness was the only reason to not have kids? Because if I said that and somehow forgot, all your posts would have a point. Otherwise they don't.