what is up with some people considering a personal decision that harms no one as not having children as a "selfish choice"? What?
Where?Edit: lol... the number of salty comments from people with kids in here.
What the other guy meant he feels sad for you is shit like this.
You won't have someone there for you when you get to that stage.
So a perfectly acceptable reason to have kids is so they will have to put their lives on hold to take care of me? And child-free people are the selfish ones?
This post only works if the poster you're quoting said both those things.
Well its one of those weird things where you are doing selfless things but for selfish reasons. Like working at a homeless shelter because it makes you feel good and fulfilled to help people.Most people making that choice would admit it's a selfish choice. There's nothing wrong with that.
There are only 400,000 kids in the foster care system in the US and the current rate of 4 million births is barely enough to sustain the population. .
So how exactly do you think "You won't have someone there for you when you get to that stage" should be interpreted when we're discussing the declining health and mobility of my in-laws?
Surprise, people are different. I don't think these people want your pity.
I have to laugh at people who compare having children to having a pet cat or dog.
Exactly. It's the opposite: I pity those who have them. I see what it gains you. Sure, I have no doubt there are times when you beam at little Timmy as he takes his first tentative steps across from the ottoman to the couch.
However, I more often than not see how much you wish you had your free time back, how little Timmy's hijinks and/or shenanigans have cost you endless amounts of money and free time, and I have to conclude that I made the right decision.
I do not, in any way shape or form, regret not foisting another mouth to feed upon this world.
Exactly. It's the opposite: I pity those who have them. I see what it gains you. Sure, I have no doubt there are times when you beam at little Timmy as he takes his first tentative steps across from the ottoman to the couch.
However, I more often than not see how much you wish you had your free time back, how little Timmy's hijinks and/or shenanigans have cost you endless amounts of money and free time, and I have to conclude that I made the right decision.
I do not, in any way shape or form, regret not foisting another mouth to feed upon this world.
No, nobody ever knows. What these people do is incredibly callous, and in my experience, it is said in a genuinely condescending way. It's a complete disregard for someone's life choices that only seems to be socially acceptable when it comes to this particular choice. Intentions do not matter here, your experiences do not matter. People push gay conversion therapy because they legitimately believe heterosexuality is superior because of their experience.
There are plenty of people out there who shouldn't have kids. Just flat out, no way, bad idea. They might know it, or they might not. These are otherwise well-adjusted, financially stable, loving, mature adult couples. Maybe for some people it's the sparkly magic pixie dust that ties their life together and gives them true purpose, and maybe for others it's the catalyst that sends things off the track and ruins the lives of both the parents and the child.
My takeaway point is that parenthood should absolutely be respected and admired for those who choose it. It should not however, be deified, pushed as a fix-it button for life, or a subject which anyone, anywhere is ever patronized for.
Edit: For the record the hostility here is not directed at you, just the idea being seen as ok. It can do actual damage.
The workforce problem can be (& should be) solved with immigration.
And no, developing nations do far less to destroy the planet than us westerners. The average European causes much more harm to the planet with their living habits (eating tons of meat, driving cars, consuming electronics like they are candy etc.) than a vast majority of people in developing nations who live relatively modest lives. A lot of the pollution in developing countries is caused by them trying to satisfy our needs (producing electronics, clothes, environmentally harmful foods etc.). We basically outsource our shit to developing countries.
I have to laugh at people who compare having children to having a pet cat or dog.
I do not, in any way shape or form, regret not foisting another mouth to feed upon this world.
http://www.cnn.com/2016/08/11/health/us-lowest-fertility-rate/index.html- 400,000 is a LOT of kids; how is that an "only" number? Not to mention the rest of the world.
- What you said about sustaining the population just isn't true. There are roughly 11,000 more births than deaths every single day in the US, let alone the fact our immigration rate is higher than our emigration rate.
I do agree with your general point; but your stats are way off and/or strange.
https://www.census.gov/newsroom/stories/2017/may/cb17-sfs41-population-clock.html
What the hell, it hurts when your parents say you are a stupid dog and are going to end like your worthless uncle or lonely for just saying im not sure if its the right moment.Couple things to this line of thinking. What the fuck are you even working for really?
Second, of course your parents want grandkids.. too bad their kid loathes them for doing what they did.
Oh dear 🙁I don't begrudge those who say they don't want kids (my vindictive lizard brain wants to say 'good I don't want you in the world my son will inherit'
I'm not saying that the population is decreasing in the U
Never new I wanted one until I actually had one. She is just too precious. Life without her would not be as fun.
I don't begrudge those who say they don't want kids (my vindictive lizard brain wants to say 'good I don't want you in the world my son will inherit', but I rise above that and say whatever makes you happy).
Had the same thought when I read that. Seems like such a mean thing to say, especially since we'll probably still be around when the kid's born...Oh dear 🙁
I don't begrudge those who say they don't want kids (my vindictive lizard brain wants to say 'good I don't want you in the world my son will inherit', but I rise above that and say whatever makes you happy).