This is not really accurate. While moderators might split one way or the other on a post (one might go for a warning, one might delete posts contributing to a derail, one might go for a short ban--all three would agree the post in question is just awful), in general, most of the moderation we do, we work together on. It's not like ten years ago where the place was a bit of a wild west. We're pretty tightly knit. And in many cases, especially for longer bans or identifying long-term problem posters, we work together. It's a really good team.
I'm a softie and I'm sure the other moderators will tell you that, but by and large none of them are going to undermine me and I'm not going to undermine them specifically because it's a collaborative process and we've got channels to help each other give input on stuff.
I have no idea either, apparently some meme about a female bodybuilder or something? I understand it was a thing like, years and years before I registered. I don't really think it's on our radar at this point.