Even if it means that you'll be labeled as a baby killer? Not an accusation on my part, but an observation. I'm glad that you pointed this out because someone from my own family has already begun trying to weasel her way out of owning up to her own culpability in this mess. I'm not having any of it. I won't let them off the hook, and I explained why in almost all of your words.
I'm an Asian American and even though I'm considered a part of the "model minority" demographic, I grew up as one of only a handful of Asian students in my school during the 80's and was teased regularly from my fellow students because of my ethnicity. So while my experiences may not be on the level of urgency that a black or muslim adult or child goes through now, I can certainly empathize with feeling like I'm being stepped on and feeling like there's no one who has their back. And yes, even I as an adult have recently been at the receiving end of ignorant assholes who feel empowered by what's been going on during this election cycle. Maybe not on the level of wanting me shipped out of the country, but very petty, alpha like behavior you see in a high school locker room or football stadium. "Hey Ming!" in this mock Asian accent as I'm riding on my bike past a small group of twenty something year olds. And why? I never even met these people before. What did I ever do to them to warrant such animus?
I'm also adopted as well, and was brought up in a caucasian household, so I do have a binary experience in that regard, but don't believe that all white people are racist, even in my family. Most of them are with me on Trump. They see him for what he is: a snake oil salesman, and voted for Hillary, even though most of them had initially thrown their support behind Bernie Sanders. For the ones that did, I cannot and will not in good conscience forgive them. Ever. There's no excuse. Not when all of this mad man's bullshit has been on display for the world to see. And not just these past 18 months, but really these past few decades. My cousin may not have voted for Trump because of his racism or misogyny, but she was willing to tolerate his racism and misogyny nonetheless. Why? I don't know. Because she's not this dumb, racist inbred. She's a very successful woman in real estate who makes a six figure salary. She's beautiful, she's smart, and up until recently, we were as close to each other as we could be, given how stand offish to people I normally am. But growing up, she always made me feel like I was worth something, even though I knew even back then that she was blowing smoke up my ass in order to make me feel better about myself. But it was always the thought that mattered to me, and for that I was always grateful,
I like the point you brought up with being prochoice. You've probably been called a baby killer before. As have I. And as have many other people here on this forum in their own personal live. But you accept it, for better or for worse, because at the end of the day what good is taking up that stance in the first place if you're not even willing to back it up in deed or rhetoric? So I really resent this call to "come together" from those that stirred this shit in the first place, and that includes my cousin. And that sucks too, because I loved her. I thought I knew her up until a year ago. And I would have taken a bullet for her, as well as her 3 young daughters if any random asshole ever tried to violate or intimidate any of them because they somehow felt that as men that they were entitled to.
Edit: I've very strung up and exhausted right now, so I this post seems all over the place, that is the reason why. My thoughts are cogent, but not really well executed, and for that I apologize.