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Living with my crush/best friend for the next 2 weeks

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vypek

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KarneeKarnay said:
OP I'm not saying men and women can't live together. What I'm saying is that in nearly every situation like this that I've heard of, the two either end up fucking or one person gets rejected and this ends badly.

The third doesn't exist. At some point one of you is going to feel rejected. It doesn't have to end a friendship, but a relationship like this, ehhhh. It should have been at the make or break point a whilllllllllllllllllllllle ago.
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It was. Years ago. He's already posted about this woman
 
QuantumZebra

QuantumZebra

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Monkeyball said:
You showed them anime?

They probably have an emergency family meeting about you. "Why is the man you brought into our house watching these weird cartoons?!"



YIKES. I think he actually invented the "Nice guy". It almost hurt psychically to read that thread.

This quote...

"That background was basically last semester but this semester I went in with a mindset that she's not technically mine"

A friend is not TECHNICALLY yours? Ugh.
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Jesus this is fucking horrible

OP you're like a living meme, end this now, save yourself, stop watching anime, bang a hooker, god do something
 
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bionic77

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Seirith said:
I told my now husband I liked anime before we started dating. We've been together since we were 15 and 18, now married 11 years and together 19. It's not like anime is something to be ashamed of.
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I didn't say anime was something bad or something to be ashamed of.

But I find it to be a weird way to get closer to strangers and a girl the OP is obviously interested in. I would have said the same thing if he started showing them action movies from the 80s (something I love).
 
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donkey show

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Trojita said:
Is this the same girl OP?



For fucks sake.
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Gunblade47

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FullMetalx117 said:
UPDATE: So I finally had the guts to tell her and we basically talked about it last night for 2 hours straight. She mentioned how when school started she was actually legitimately considering it, like she mentioned how we were basically a perfect match, had the same interests, humor, chemistry, etc. But she also said that she just didn't have that initial attraction, which to her is pretty important. She is also very adamant about not wanting a relationship right now. She kind of said that if I waited but then cut it off by saying that she could never ask me to wait for her. Like she doesn't want to disappoint me and make me wait for nothing. We basically acknowledged how we're each others best friends and don't want things to change or be weird at all. I don't know, after having this conversation I think that no matter things will change... So I guess should really just try to move on now? I think I do like her enough that I would be willing to wait for her though...
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This was almost 3 years ago. GAF has basically been here with him every step of the way.
 
eso76

eso76

Member
I had only heard about code geass but thread made me curious and YT more than satisfied my curiosity..


Ok, showing that stuff to your crush and her family is the quickest, most efficient way to get out of the friendzone.


And enter the acquaintance-zone.


Seriously, as soon as you step out of the house, mom and daughter will look at each other and say "well...that was awkward".
 
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FullMetalx117

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Sorry for the lack of updates guys (been busy with work and don't get much chance at home) but the replies so far have been funny so keep them coming haha. Yes I know I've probably played myself for 4 years now and yes it's the same girl. And also she's not new to anime!! Anime is not as unpopular as you all think. She's watched FMA, Naruto, Fairy Tale, etc. in the past with her brother so I recommended this one to them. So far they seem to be enjoying it. Her mom is not actually keeping up with the show, she's just in and out. And I feel like after 4 years I have legit moved on (at least as of this moment) and am just trying to take full advantage of the friendship because it's been really great so far. We will probably go watch a movie/eat at a nice restaurant this weekend.
 
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Gravy Boat

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If you'd moved on you wouldn't be calling her your crush and this thread wouldn't exist. Your whole attitude is weird, you don't treat her like a friend. Who thinks 'Ah, this would be a good opportunity to be come better friends with someone I've been calling my best friend for the last 4 years'? That's not the thought process of someone who just wants to hang out with a friend, nevermind their 'best friend'.

When I'm hanging out with my best friends it's such a casual affair that stuff like that would never come into my head, and I assume that's the same for most people. Like 'I'm trying to take full advantage of the friendship' is such an alien thing to me. We just hang out, we don't think about the meta of our friendship, which is the only way I can describe your behaviour.

I also think you're trying too hard with Gaf. Your whole 'Oh hey guys, sorry I haven't had time to reply, I've been too busy having an AWESOME time with this super successfully and totally platonic friendship. You guys are such jokers, nice replies bros. Let me tell you about just how AWESOME things are going right now' spiel. I don't think anyone is buying it, but I'm still undecided if this is a troll 4 years in the making or if you're hiding the reality of the situation because you don't want to admit that everyone who told you this was a terrible idea is right. It's one of the two though for sure.
 
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bionic77

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If the OP was actually able to move on from someone he was attracted to earlier, who rejected him, and was able to get over that rejection and form a real friendship with her then he is a better person than 99.9% of us.

It is however way more likely that he is lying to himself and all of us and he is just wasting his life waiting for someone who is not interested in him, but likes to keep him around for her own selfish reasons.
 
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Llyranor

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bionic77 said:
If the OP was actually able to move on from someone he was attracted to earlier, who rejected him, and was able to get over that rejection and form a real friendship with her then he is a better person than 99.9% of us.

It is however way more likely that he is lying to himself and all of us and he is just wasting his life waiting for someone who is not interested in him, but likes to keep him around for her own selfish reasons.
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OP:
toxic relationship of lots of fights, drunk texts/snaps of wanting each other, cycles of ignoring then nonstop talking, etc etc etc. The beginning of this summer we did take a break from communication for about a month but now we're in nonstop talking mode again. At this point we just consider each other best friends because, lets face it, she likes the attention I give her and I like the attention she gives me.
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So yeah, he is lying to himself. He also likes the attention GAF is giving him.

And why is she the selfish one? She's not the one propping up a 'friendship' on false terms for over 4 years. She outright rejected him. He just won't take no for an answer. It's all on him and kind of creepy.
 
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FullMetalx117

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Gravy Boat said:
If you'd moved on you wouldn't be calling her your crush and this thread wouldn't exist. Your whole attitude is weird, you don't treat her like a friend. Who thinks 'Ah, this would be a good opportunity to be come better friends with someone I've been calling my best friend for the last 4 years'? That's not the thought process of someone who just wants to hang out with a friend, nevermind their 'best friend'.

When I'm hanging out with my best friends it's such a casual affair that stuff like that would never come into my head, and I assume that's the same for most people. Like 'I'm trying to take full advantage of the friendship' is such an alien thing to me. We just hang out, we don't thing about the meta of our friendship, which is the only way I can describe your behaviour.
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I'll admit, before actually moving into her house I was feeling a bit uneasy about the situation, which is why I asked gaf for advice on how to make my time living with her easier. But after almost a week everything turned out fine so my worries earlier were unnecessary.
 
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Gravy Boat

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FullMetalx117 said:
I'll admit, before actually moving into her house I was feeling a bit uneasy about the situation, which is why I asked gaf for advice on how to make my time living with her easier. But after almost a week everything turned out fine so my worries earlier were unnecessary.
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Doesn't address a single thing in my post.
 
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Llyranor

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OP is actually really clear on his long-term goal.

2015:
She asked me advice on the matter and I basically said that if she starts hanging out with [OP] more maybe she will fall for [OP] and break that "not wanting to be in a relationship [with OP]" curse (I was trying a new apporach [that hasn't worked for 4 yrs]).
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He's hoping the seeds pay off years down the line.
 
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WhateverItTakes

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FullMetalx117 said:
Sorry for the lack of updates guys (been busy with work and don't get much chance at home) but the replies so far have been funny so keep them coming haha.
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I've never seen a situation where the OP going 'Oh GAF, you're so funny!' wasn't completely delusional.

I think you've gotta think about how you're living, and what you're doing to yourself, and realise there's a better way to go about things than how you've handled this whole mess.
 
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Mendrox

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FullMetalx117 said:
Sorry for the lack of updates guys (been busy with work and don't get much chance at home) but the replies so far have been funny so keep them coming haha. Yes I know I've probably played myself for 4 years now and yes it's the same girl. And also she's not new to anime!! Anime is not as unpopular as you all think. She's watched FMA, Naruto, Fairy Tale, etc. in the past with her brother so I recommended this one to them. So far they seem to be enjoying it. Her mom is not actually keeping up with the show, she's just in and out. And I feel like after 4 years I have legit moved on (at least as of this moment) and am just trying to take full advantage of the friendship because it's been really great so far. We will probably go watch a movie/eat at a nice restaurant this weekend.
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Pathetic and weird. Sorry dude, but please reread all your posts and think about it.
 
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Count Dookkake

Member
FullMetalx117 said:
Sorry for the lack of updates guys (been busy with work and don't get much chance at home) but the replies so far have been funny so keep them coming haha. Yes I know I've probably played myself for 4 years now and yes it's the same girl. And also she's not new to anime!! Anime is not as unpopular as you all think. She's watched FMA, Naruto, Fairy Tale, etc. in the past with her brother so I recommended this one to them. So far they seem to be enjoying it. Her mom is not actually keeping up with the show, she's just in and out. And I feel like after 4 years I have legit moved on (at least as of this moment) and am just trying to take full advantage of the friendship because it's been really great so far. We will probably go watch a movie/eat at a nice restaurant this weekend.
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You should just try dating some other girls. This one has been through enough.
 
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The Jackdog

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FullMetalx117 said:
Sorry for the lack of updates guys (been busy with work and don't get much chance at home) but the replies so far have been funny so keep them coming haha. Yes I know I've probably played myself for 4 years now and yes it's the same girl. And also she's not new to anime!! Anime is not as unpopular as you all think. She's watched FMA, Naruto, Fairy Tale, etc. in the past with her brother so I recommended this one to them. So far they seem to be enjoying it. Her mom is not actually keeping up with the show, she's just in and out. And I feel like after 4 years I have legit moved on (at least as of this moment) and am just trying to take full advantage of the friendship because it's been really great so far. We will probably go watch a movie/eat at a nice restaurant this weekend.
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you made a thread called "living with my crush for the next 2 weeks"

youre in deep and cant even see it bro
 
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daveo42

Banned
FullMetalx117 said:
Sorry for the lack of updates guys (been busy with work and don't get much chance at home) but the replies so far have been funny so keep them coming haha. Yes I know I've probably played myself for 4 years now and yes it's the same girl. And also she's not new to anime!! Anime is not as unpopular as you all think. She's watched FMA, Naruto, Fairy Tale, etc. in the past with her brother so I recommended this one to them. So far they seem to be enjoying it. Her mom is not actually keeping up with the show, she's just in and out. And I feel like after 4 years I have legit moved on (at least as of this moment) and am just trying to take full advantage of the friendship because it's been really great so far. We will probably go watch a movie/eat at a nice restaurant this weekend.
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You use the word "crush" in the OP and then say you've moved on. Nah...not buying it. Also, take full advantage is such an odd phrase in this context dude.
 
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The Jackdog

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badboy78660 said:
In my personal experience, this is definitely not the way to take it beyond merely a friendship. You gotta cut the girl loose, and then, if she does have any actual feelings for you, she'll come seeking.
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its also fucking dishonest, although it doubt its seen that way.

youre misrepresenting why youre spending time with someone. they think its because of friendship (she ABSOLUTELY thinks its only to be friends) but in reality hes trying to get it in.

to me its the same as pretending to be friends with someone to get like a leg up in a career, or similar. it doesnt feel right. like would it be right if she KNEW he wanted more than friendship but she took advantage of his kindness to get some free dinners? nope.

its dishonest and in my experience, a ticking time bomb
 
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What did he mean by this?

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In the first post OP claims they are not together for religious reasons

But then on Trojitas dug up 2015 post that doesnt stop her from talking to other guys

Were those guys the same religion as her or is someone lying
 
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Babyshams

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The Jackdog said:
its also fucking dishonest, although it doubt its seen that way.

youre misrepresenting why youre spending time with someone. they think its because of friendship (she ABSOLUTELY thinks its only to be friends) but in reality hes trying to get it in.

to me its the same as pretending to be friends with someone to get like a leg up in a career, or similar. it doesnt feel right. like would it be right if she KNEW he wanted more than friendship but she took advantage of his kindness to get some free dinners? nope.

its dishonest and in my experience, a ticking time bomb
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This guy hit it on the nose
 
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RoninChaos

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Jesus christ, have some RESPECT for yourself OP. You're cutting yourself off from other potential people because you're obsessed with this broad, one who seems to like the attention and you like it too. You are the back up plan of a back up plan for her. Cut your loses and move the fuck on.
 
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Slaythe

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FullMetalx117 said:
Sorry for the lack of updates guys (been busy with work and don't get much chance at home) but the replies so far have been funny so keep them coming haha. Yes I know I've probably played myself for 4 years now and yes it's the same girl. And also she's not new to anime!! Anime is not as unpopular as you all think. She's watched FMA, Naruto, Fairy Tale, etc. in the past with her brother so I recommended this one to them. So far they seem to be enjoying it. Her mom is not actually keeping up with the show, she's just in and out. And I feel like after 4 years I have legit moved on (at least as of this moment) and am just trying to take full advantage of the friendship because it's been really great so far. We will probably go watch a movie/eat at a nice restaurant this weekend.
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Sora the Cat

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What's so bad about watching anime with her or her mother? I've watched anime with girls I dated, nothing wrong with that. Is this maybe seen as something bad in the usa?

QuantumZebra said:
Edit: Jesus titty fucking Christ are people recommending you watch anime with her? I mean it'll guarantee you don't have sex with her so there's that aspect
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What does his chances at sex have to do with watching Anime?
 
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DiipuSurotu

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TheJollyCorner

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Sora the Cat said:
What's so bad about watching anime with her or her mother? I've watched anime with girls I dated, nothing wrong with that. Is this maybe seen as something bad in the usa?
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In America we only watch the DIY network, play country music in the background at all times, and clap every time we stand up to go to the bathroom.
These colors don't run and we didn't go win dubya dubya two just to watch them weird big titty propaganda cartoons from the Empire of the Sun!
 
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BajiBoxer

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What did he mean by this? said:
In the first post OP claims they are not together for religious reasons

But then on Trojitas dug up 2015 post that doesnt stop her from talking to other guys

Were those guys the same religion as her or is someone lying
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Good catch. Looking at that post, why would someone not with the OP for religious reasons be drunkenly making out with dudes at a party?

Also in that old post he sounded someone emotionally abusive. Thinking she's not "technically" his, giving her the cold shoulder to the point where she would feel guilty for being an independent single woman, worming his way into some sort of quasi relationship where nobody is happy...

It's fucked up.
 
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