LostDonkey
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I'm happy with my inconsequential life.
The silence is my soulmate.
The silence is my soulmate.
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Accepting your lot in life
- Thread starter Celcius
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Days like these...
Have a Blessed Day
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Hudo
Member
Grildon Tundy
Gold Member
I've always been mostly content with what's in front of me. Not doing productive things because I'm chasing an end goal but because I enjoy the process.
Sometimes the world makes me feel like I'm a loser for that reason. But I'm with the Buddhists on this one: Desire is suffering. Contentment can only be found within
Sometimes the world makes me feel like I'm a loser for that reason. But I'm with the Buddhists on this one: Desire is suffering. Contentment can only be found within
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Celcius
°Temp. member
I’ll also add that sometimes goals become unattainable not because a person lacks the drive or ambition, but maybe an athlete suffers an injury for example. Or maybe a person’s health goes downhill.
But true… being grateful for what you have and have achieved in life is important.
But true… being grateful for what you have and have achieved in life is important.
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Nydius
Member
Took me a long time to accept that things hadn't turned out the way I hoped. But eventually I came to the realization that it was pointless to regret things that were out of my control. There was no way I could have ever known that the person I married 22 years ago would develop debilitating RA that would impact both of our lives. No way I could have known 20 years ago that I'd develop inflammatory bowel disease, because it didn't run in the family so it was never even a thought.
Do I wish we could do more? Sure, but I also understand and have come to accept the limitations of why we cannot.
Do I wish we could do more? Sure, but I also understand and have come to accept the limitations of why we cannot.
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NeoIkaruGAF
Gold Member
I have carved a good lot for myself and don’t really dream about having much more. I’m just pretty scared I may lose what I have. And while I am quite satisfied with what I have, I tend to never be fully satisfied with what I am and what I achieve. I always think I could do more, I could do better, I could be better. Most of the times I’ve been truly satisfied with something I’d done and felt on top of the world, life gave me a cold shower real quick.
Edmund
Member
I quit my bank/stock broking job to be a piano teacher, film actor and musical theatre actor. Sure I don't make billions but I'm loving my job so much and I'm pretty damn good at all 3 of them.
That is worth more than anything.
I don't accept things. I change things. It started when I decided to follow my heart and do what i really want to do and then I give it my 100%.
I am an extremely caring and kind teacher who is funny asf and when it comes to acting, I'm really serious and dedicated.
That is worth more than anything.
I don't accept things. I change things. It started when I decided to follow my heart and do what i really want to do and then I give it my 100%.
I am an extremely caring and kind teacher who is funny asf and when it comes to acting, I'm really serious and dedicated.
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Ownage
Member
The key to enlightenment is to not care, but to practice mindfulness towards your surroundings.
Days like these...
Have a Blessed Day
In the same boat trying to claw my way out.
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simpatico
Member
Have you guys maxed out the things you have full control over? Physical fitness, hygiene and clothing?
Days like these...
Have a Blessed Day
Not sure what you mean. Dm if you like
Northeastmonk
Gold Member
It hit me hard when I realized that my life insurance policy means more to my family than anything I own, enjoy doing or talk about on a daily basis.
LaughingStock
Member
I don't want to be rich. I just want to have enough. And don't have any debt I can't pay.
I don' have any life goals. I just want to live an inconsequential life and die a quiet death.
I don' have any life goals. I just want to live an inconsequential life and die a quiet death.
John Marston
GAF's very own treasure goblin
I started loving myself when I let go of my dreams and ambitions.
It's the best advice I ever gave myself.
I can then focus on loving my current job of 17 years, eating well and sleeping like a baby on heroin.
I have loved, I have shared, I have compromised but my remaining years are all about ME
Just like
sedg87
I don't give a fuck with a smile 
bitbydeath
Member
Keep climbing GAF!
Unknown Soldier
Member
Maslow's hierarchy of needs - Wikipedia
22:22:22
NO PAIN TRANCE CONTINUE
I'm still in the process of accepting the cards I've been dealt. It's going better as I'm getting older.
I'm very grateful for many in a external context
In an internal way I'm grateful for one of the cards I've been dealt. The one that gives me a sense of hope that all will be well if I put in the work.
I'm very grateful for many in a external context
In an internal way I'm grateful for one of the cards I've been dealt. The one that gives me a sense of hope that all will be well if I put in the work.
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
I'm a pretty happy hamster 
IlGialloMondadori
Member
Not trying to be a dick, but how do you know you’re very talented if you’ve never been tried and tested? IMO talent is kind of a nothing word. Hard work and execution are basically all of it.
I’m someone who didn’t try at anything until I was older.
E-Cat
Member
Excelling at school without really trying? I was in the 95th+ percentile in six subjects in my matriculation exams (kinda comparable to SATs in the US). I have an IQ of 135 and am a member of Mensa. Also exceptionally talented musically, I can play anything by ear on the piano. I'm not saying I'm super brilliant or anything, but intelligent enough that I could've done whatever I wanted. Just lacked the drive at the time.
This is very true, yes -- with the exception of some very dim individuals, there's basically nothing valuable you can do if your base fluid IQ falls below a certain threshold.
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E-Cat
Member
This is good advice.
Not going to take it, then?
Hudo
Member
Can confirm. Had a colleague who was a Mensa member. Dude couldn't finish his PhD mainly because he couldn't handle constructive criticism and was unpleasant to be around in general, which was especially an issue when he was supposed to give lectures to undergrads, where you are supposed to teach them in such a way that they hopefully learn something not talk down to them and confront them with like higher mathematical concepts from the get-go.
E-Cat
Member
I just might.
IlGialloMondadori
Member
Yeah man, seems like you know what's up. It is what it is, and man, it's never too late, just get on it and do what you wanna do for YOU, don't worry about anything else. Then accept it all, failures and successes as they come.
mxbison
Member
None of that really matters.
Humans are never satisfied, it is what it is. Why do you think billionaires are obsessed with making even more money? Or do dumb shit like travel to the bottom of the ocean?
If you solve a problem the next will come up, and that's actually a good thing because it keeps you going. You need up's and down's in life, the worst thing that can happen is emptiness. Depressed people usually don't feel bad, they feel empty.
Just enjoy the ride, appreciate the small things, and stop worrying so much about what you don't have.
Humans are never satisfied, it is what it is. Why do you think billionaires are obsessed with making even more money? Or do dumb shit like travel to the bottom of the ocean?
If you solve a problem the next will come up, and that's actually a good thing because it keeps you going. You need up's and down's in life, the worst thing that can happen is emptiness. Depressed people usually don't feel bad, they feel empty.
Just enjoy the ride, appreciate the small things, and stop worrying so much about what you don't have.
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TheDreadBaron
Member
OP what was your dream that you’re ready to give up on, and why didn’t it work out?
StreetsofBeige
Gold Member
In school I did pretty well and always cared about my grades, but even then I don’t think anyone cared so much they arrived to be a Mensa member. Who cares.
If life, everybody knows what they are good at and what they need help with. And basically nothing in life even resembles an IQ test unless someone in life actually bumps into situations that involve pattern recognition and knowing which family member is Sally’s grandmother’s fraternal twin adopted cousin.
It gets to a point you set aside high stuff like this and just love life doing things you know how and asking for help for other things. If the guy fixing my washer and dryer is a high school drop out with an IQ of 88 who cares as long as he can fix it. I’d rather he do it than a Mensa guy with a 200 IQ whose has never fixed anything.
I’m have both a bachelors and grad degree. Who cares. Most people don’t even know that unless somehow people are talking university and it gets brought up. My old boss 20 years had a frad degree too. I asked why she never tells anyone and she said it doesn’t really matter. I followed her advice and like it this way.
Then you got the arrogant types who like to tell the world they are a Harvard alumni from fraternity house alpha beta and the school mascot are the Condor Carnivores from the Big 10 division etc… like it’s a badge of honour. Losers.
I find you get a lot of this shit when I’m on conference call with Americans. It’s like half the people on call are Al Bundy living off their college days. The rest of us from the Toronto office are like WTF are these people wasting time talking about? The purpose of introductions is to say your name and what job function you do so people have an idea what you do. Not give a laundry list of background education, what your fav school mascot is etc… weird. No wonder these introduction segments take 15 minutes alone.
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JimmyRustler
Gold Member
The biggest realization I had is that even reaching all the lofty goals is not all that fullfilling. It’s all smoke and mirrors.
Just look at how widespread drug use among the upper circles. It’s insane. Those people should be happy, living their live. Instead it seems everyone is going to the shrink and dead inside.
Accept live for what it is. Don’t be a bum and find a job with with you can live comfortably without having to fear goin broke if something happens. Build a good social circle around you with people you care about. Enjoy life.
Just look at how widespread drug use among the upper circles. It’s insane. Those people should be happy, living their live. Instead it seems everyone is going to the shrink and dead inside.
Accept live for what it is. Don’t be a bum and find a job with with you can live comfortably without having to fear goin broke if something happens. Build a good social circle around you with people you care about. Enjoy life.
German Hops
GAF's Nicest Lunch Thief
As long as you have a decent chode, you should always be content with life. 
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StreetsofBeige
Gold Member
Yup.
Ive never done drugs and never will. Not even weed or ectacsy pills. I dont know any hard druggies.... at least not that I've ever seen or heard about. But I got friends who do weed going back to university or during the clubbing days they'd pop pills. I never did that shit, but good thing is they are all in good shape and they're still my friends. They never ditched me because I didn't join them.
I've smoked maybe 3 cigarettes my entire life only because other people were doing it and I did one with them. I had no idea what the hell I was even doing.
It's w weird thing because in no situation do I see doing drugs even an important thing to do.
1. You're dirt poor and depressed and need to get through the day without thinking about reality. Well IMO, instead of being comatose on a couch or zoned out in a back alley, if you really want to improve yourself, getting drugged up or bombed on bottles of brandy is the last thing you should be doing.
2. You're rich and have it all. I've heard the reasons.... peer pressure from other richos, or it's safer because the richer you are the better quality drugs you get which arent tainted with fenatyl or something where you drop dead in 10 minutes. I dont know how true that is but it doesn't matter. You'd think millionaires would care more about living life traveling or buying awesome food and cars than being coked up or a meth head. You're already living a high life and you want to be frazzleminded like a street druggie all day? Weird.
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College is a big deal in the US, different culture. People are also proud about their alma mater since it’s a selective and hierarchical system.
Synless
Member
Did this guy stick to his vision and see it through? Where is he today?
I firmly believe success is in the mindset. Its about recognizing your failures and learning from them, it’s about knowing when others around you want to pull everyone down but themselves and leaving to join those who support and elevate.
If your a loser in life, you chose it.
Happosai
Hold onto your panties
Nothing hard to accept. I've managed to hit moderate success but that doesn't necessarily make me wealthy. This was through hard work, dropping in and out of school to work and after getting married; having a wife who won't let me give up. We don't want to be millionaires or billionaires. I've seen plenty corrupt themselves the moment they have even the slightest raise at work or just given slightly more power. Not much of a popular sports fan and don't have social anxiety...so I'd never like being a celebrity. I can ride a bike or motorcycle and be satisfied just as much as any car I've owned. Cars age and depreciate in value too fast to really be worth the investment for anything more than a point A - B type. I'm not an engineer and make comics in my off time; so I doubt that will cure cancer.
Nothing hard to accept. Maybe for those who haven't matured to adulthood...life is too difficult. Work, settle down, become a mentor, be consistent, organize and prioritize. Be credible.
TMONSTER
Member
I had been moping recently about my life and certain cards ive been dealt and came across a video narrated by an individual living with Cerebral Palsy. Their journey, their daily battles, their unyielding spirit - it served as a powerful reminder that one's perspective can often be clouded by personal trials and tribulations. No matter how challenging we perceive our circumstances to be, there's always someone out there who might view our situation with a longing desire to trade places. It's humbling and sobering, prompting a shift in perspective. In the grand scheme of life, perhaps we are not as ill-fated as we sometimes believe ourselves to be.
Winter John
Gold Member
"If your a loser in life, you chose it."
I once met a guy in the local shelter who had been a millionaire. You think he chose to end up sitting next to me in a fuckin soup kitchen? No. He didn't. He had a run of bad luck, got in over his head and it all went to shit. When I met him he was strung out on booze and spent his days selling magazines on a street corner. You think he chose that? You think when he was sitting up there in his king of the world office he thought to himself, this is great n all but what I really want to do is be a drunken homeless bum and have some long haired asshole serve me soup?
I once met a guy in the local shelter who had been a millionaire. You think he chose to end up sitting next to me in a fuckin soup kitchen? No. He didn't. He had a run of bad luck, got in over his head and it all went to shit. When I met him he was strung out on booze and spent his days selling magazines on a street corner. You think he chose that? You think when he was sitting up there in his king of the world office he thought to himself, this is great n all but what I really want to do is be a drunken homeless bum and have some long haired asshole serve me soup?
Chiggs
Member
It's hard to digest it, honestly.
I've watched several of my peers go on to be VPs and EVPs at companies despite their glaring/critical flaws. One of these guys even asked me to share proprietary information with him so he could "set up shop" at his new job, meaning he had no creativity or desire to put together his own plan for his new role...just wanted to take what was developed by other people and make it work at the new company.
I've come to the conclusion that:
A) My mouth gets me in trouble
B) I have a hard time NOT calling people on bullshit/lack of work
C) I really hate kissing executive leadership ass
Because of this, I am destined to NOT rise above a certain level at work. Like I mentioned earlier, it's frustrating...especially when you see really terrible people getting to positions of power that set them up for life with juicy stock options and extravagant salaries.
Everything you've heard about the worst people rising to the top at large American corporations is quite true. I realize there are probably exceptions to the rule but man...they are few and far.
I've watched several of my peers go on to be VPs and EVPs at companies despite their glaring/critical flaws. One of these guys even asked me to share proprietary information with him so he could "set up shop" at his new job, meaning he had no creativity or desire to put together his own plan for his new role...just wanted to take what was developed by other people and make it work at the new company.
I've come to the conclusion that:
A) My mouth gets me in trouble
B) I have a hard time NOT calling people on bullshit/lack of work
C) I really hate kissing executive leadership ass
Because of this, I am destined to NOT rise above a certain level at work. Like I mentioned earlier, it's frustrating...especially when you see really terrible people getting to positions of power that set them up for life with juicy stock options and extravagant salaries.
Everything you've heard about the worst people rising to the top at large American corporations is quite true. I realize there are probably exceptions to the rule but man...they are few and far.
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StreetsofBeige
Gold Member
It's one of those things with human nature where we're all different. Some people accept issues, some people cant. Why can some dirt poor immigrants still strive for success, but a born and bred local fails and feels like shit?
No doubt social media plays a part of it too. Havent depression and suicides skyrocketed the past 10 or 20 years? Not sure, I thought the rates have been trending up.
I have no proof of this, but I remember gaffers bringing (or maybe a different site I read) where it often comes down to your situation and environment. If your born and raised in a western country where there's haves and have nots, some people cant handle life. On the other hand people living in a poor country where the surroundings, jobs and standard of living are like 3 notches down the ladder the community and family still stay together happy because everyone is kind of in the same boat anyway so who cares. There's not too many BMW drivers eating overpriced food zooming by making the locales feel downtrodden.
The thing you mentioned about trading places, I think that's part of the problem. When some people out there are constantly comparing against other people it can become a mental issue. I'm not talking about improving one's self to something decent. I dont think too many human on Earth wants to live in a dirt hut drinking sewage water. But it gets to a point where if you hit a certain state in life, anyone can just live a modest life till you die. Who gives a shit if a neighbour drives a better car or if some people dress better at the office.
Since I just went to a Jays game lately, it's kind of like walking around the stadium and half the people are wearing slick jerseys, caps etc... My buddies can also dress up in authentic jerseys which are probably $200+ each. What do I wear every time to the game? Either a top that has nothing to do with baseball or I live it up with my big swinging dick Jays Tshirt I bought at Walmart for $12. Who cares.
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