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Am I in the forever friend zone?
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excelsiorlef
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What?
The "friend zone" literally is used as I described it. Which is why it's bs
And the title of the OP literally uses the term
Like not one to cite Wikipedia very often but for a pop culture term it'll do:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friend_zone
So uh I'm not the one redefining it
Messofanego
Banned
Haha
katsubento
Member
The lack of romance options in the OP's friend zone is tragic. 
Sorry, couldn't resist.
Sorry, couldn't resist.
IlGialloMondadori
Member
"We even say "I love you" in a platonic friendship sense, and we even hold hands A LOT when we sit down and chat, but not down the street that would show we're in a relationship."
Made me lol hahah. This is both sweet and completely pathetic.
Made me lol hahah. This is both sweet and completely pathetic.
ryutaro's mama
Member
Whatever happened with your maybe baby situation?
OP is probably among the last people on the planet she'd fuck
As a guy, If you find a woman unattractive, she couldn't "be nice" or "be a good friend" her way into your pants. Because attraction isn't a transaction and it's not even really very rational.
I'm just curious why some seem to think that it's any different from the woman's perspective.
As a guy, If you find a woman unattractive, she couldn't "be nice" or "be a good friend" her way into your pants. Because attraction isn't a transaction and it's not even really very rational.
I'm just curious why some seem to think that it's any different from the woman's perspective.
Monkeyball
Banned
Don't worry. As soon as she finds a job she will run to you, rip off her clothes and you will have sex for a week straight. You just gotto have patience.
I already knew the answer when I read the title of the thread. Anyone who asks if they're in the friend zone already has their answer.
If you're confident, dating shouldn't be this "grey area" thing. The friend zone isn't even real. If you have to ask then you've already screwed up.
Women want direct honesty. So ask them out. Don't dance around the issue. If she says "let's be friends" or "I'm just busy right now" then she's letting you down gently but actually has no interest in you.
If you're confident, dating shouldn't be this "grey area" thing. The friend zone isn't even real. If you have to ask then you've already screwed up.
Women want direct honesty. So ask them out. Don't dance around the issue. If she says "let's be friends" or "I'm just busy right now" then she's letting you down gently but actually has no interest in you.
Ban Puncher
Member
written by a woman who's verdict is: Men are binary, testosterone-driven cunts. Nice try though. Feminism at its finest.
As for the OP: Sorry bro, you're in the friend zone. Move along
There's no friend zone lol. What you need to learn is to drop it. She says she's not interested? You start looking elsewhere, you're just wasting your own time if you keep hoping that "Maybe one day!!". Be thankful you got a good friend out of it instead of wondering what "could" have been
If you're thinking in terms of 'friend zone' and that whole philosophy of life, you're doing it wrong.
Damn paradoxes.
Damn paradoxes.
Mediking
Member
^ Wrap it up. We're done.
I will never understand why people ask Gaffers for serious advice, why Gaffers give advice like they're experts, or how these threads get to double digit pages.
dragonelite
Member
Sounds like op will soonish swallow that red pill.
ryutaro's mama
Member
It's the same for all the sexes, orientations and gender identities all over I would imagine.
You like who you like.
Attack You
Member
Why are we reciting Sonic lyrics in this thread?
Anyway, in regarding the friend zone, I've come to realize a lot of GAF likes to throw away the bronze when they don't win the gold, when some of us are lucky to even be in the running.
Crossing Eden
Hello, my name is Yves Guillemot, Vivendi S.A.'s Employee of the Month!
Still don't know but a bit distasteful to bring up in this thread no?
Not for me. I've developed feelings towards a couple friends over my life that I wasn't interested in beyond being friends when our friendship began. Seeing how they treat me, their family, and our peers over time definitely makes me think better or worse of someone.
Not the same as a guy trying to wear down a girl hoping she'll sleep with him of course.
lol
ryutaro's mama
Member
always crazy bacon
Banned
Let me introduce me to a new classification. Orbiters, those guys that double down on being in the friend zone by continuing to hang out with the girl AND her new boyfriend under the same pretence of being a friend. He still wants her and does not want to let her go so will become a friend of the boyfriend as well. Inviting himself to activities that were planned without him, planning activities that involve the couple. Bonus points gained if he's managed to suck up to the girls mother who thinks he's a lovely guy and this allows friend zone guy to claim "he's one of the family".
If this is one of you guys reading this, let me tell you as boyfriends WE KNOW and will try to get you out of the picture ASAP without upsetting new girlfriend.
excelsiorlef
Member
written by a woman who's verdict is: Men are binary, testosterone-driven cunts. Nice try though. Feminism at its finest.
As for the OP: Sorry bro, you're in the friend zone. Move along
Almost like she's literally talking about people who talk about friend zoning and not all men...
But lol at the bolded
You can escape friendzones, I've done it. However there needs to have been some sexual contact, and something to reignite that connection.
It won't just happen that one day you'll be sat there holding hands telling each other I love you and out of nowhere start fucking.
You're going to have to start dropping major hints about sex, walk around with a hardon I dunno - but you have to show this woman you are a sexually attractive person and not just someone to hold hands with.
If you get the sex DO NOT mention relationships. You'll scare her away. Just fuck and then go back to hand holding until you fuck again.
It won't just happen that one day you'll be sat there holding hands telling each other I love you and out of nowhere start fucking.
You're going to have to start dropping major hints about sex, walk around with a hardon I dunno - but you have to show this woman you are a sexually attractive person and not just someone to hold hands with.
If you get the sex DO NOT mention relationships. You'll scare her away. Just fuck and then go back to hand holding until you fuck again.
Glass Rebel
Member
This bit is straight up hilarious.
excelsiorlef
Member
I too knew what to expect coming into this thread.
To the bolded, it's not just the women who want direct honesty. And as the OP described his advances got rejected. But he still seems to want to eventually start a relationship with her although he says he doesn't have romantic feelings towards her or something. The issue is more in responding to the honesty.
or:
- Want to go out on a date?
- No
- Ok, let's hang out together as friends, I'll ask again in few months.
navii
My fantasy is that my girlfriend was actually a young high school girl.
just dont expect any back
Tho to be fair both sides deserve direct honesty. I think you could maybe argue that letting someone down gently isnt very direct as that person may not always understand that theyve been rejected in that way and would still convince themselves that there is hope for something more.
Me personally Id rather a person just tell me honestly and very directly "I am not interested in persuing any romantic relationship with you" or "no. Im not attracted to you"
But I prefer blunt honestly in general and it is how I act myself as well.
Dude Abides
Banned
Another good tip is to masturbate in front of her. Worked for Mike Cernovich.
I thought holding hands counts as sex. Also this post killed me man kudos for you if that's what you were trying to get
Monkeyball
Banned
This will work, do it op and report back to us!
always crazy bacon
Banned
After many hours finally the one post the OP was looking for!
Is that such a strange concept to you? I have a close female friend whom I've known for years, and we say it to each other, too.
It's different with someone you've probably been through a lot with. 3 months really isn't very long.
What is so lol about the bolded when it's not wrong? She condones literally all men, not only those who feel like they're friend zoned.
I agree that some (!) men are binary when it comes to women, but not all. And those are the - according to internet terms - so called beta cucks. Still doesn't make it right to generalize. I'm not calling all women money hungry leeches either, even though some clearly are.
excelsiorlef
Member
I mean taking some pot shot at feminism is always going to make me laugh. Though you actually using beta cuck is even funnier
This is the exact fucking opposite of literally all men, she's literally talking about the type of men who throw around friend-zone.
So unless you think all men throw around friend zone she's literally not condemning all men.
Literally
We'd started saying it a few months into our relationship.
zerokoolpsx
Member
Well, she's not interested in a relationship, so there's not much you can do. I say move on and reduce the amount of time you spend with her. Obviously, its not going anywhere, so why waste your time? If you still want to continue being her friend, that's fine, but don't invest anymore emotionally into it.
She already gave you the hint. Just take it.
She already gave you the hint. Just take it.
Misread it then, my bad.
We can start debating feminism if you like. There's plenty proof that those entitled to it are actually retarded. Just throwing a bone here: Google Hugh Mungus. But keep laughing at it :>
When you're blue balls deep in unrequited love, you can't cure yourself by continuing to have contact with someone who makes you feel pain.
OP needs to ghost. Vanish from her life. You are doing yourself no favours stringing yourself along like this.
Using retarded, beta cuck, etc. I think 4chan/reddit is calling you.
Dynamite Shikoku
Congratulations, you really deserve it!
Did op escape the zone yet
ClosingADoor
Member
If you are waiting for something to happen with this woman, stop. It is not happening. Stop hanging out with her so much. You are basically going on dates without the actual dating. This is not good for you.
If you actually want to be friends and are able to put aside your romantic feeling and move on, then be a friend and actually live your own life instead of tagging along with hers all week.
If you actually want to be friends and are able to put aside your romantic feeling and move on, then be a friend and actually live your own life instead of tagging along with hers all week.
excelsiorlef
Member
I mean this is pretty hilarious.
You misread an article and claim her some was all and rage and now you point to one incident as to why all feminism is bad and those who follow it are the r word...
I mean what.
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