Scenario 2 is just malicious, and Person A is using Person B as some sort of backup or for self esteem or to make others jealous.
Hi all, as a geek, like to know what is the technical difference between, being just friends and having romance? I mean we are able to go out together and have fun, being close and all.
God fucking damn it I HAAAAAAAAATE the term "friend zone" so much. Why is this still such a thing?
My god, you just fucked yourselfI told her that I would be happy for her if she found someone else as a boyfriend, and I'm not lying about it.
My god, you just fucked yourself
OP you need to suddenly remove yourself from her life for a couple months. Then ask her if she will be your girlfriend. If she says no.. Walk away. Seems you are a big part of her life. Remove yourself to find out if she needs you.
First of all, why would you say something like that? Even if that wouldn't bother you, don't say it to her.I told her that I would be happy for her if she found someone else as a boyfriend, and I'm not lying about it.
More annoying is the fact that people rail against the existence of a friend zone when we've got ample evidence of its existence right in this thread. Y'all are like climate change deniers.
.jesus christ
More annoying is the fact that people rail against the existence of a friend zone when we've got ample evidence of its existence right in this thread. Y'all are like climate change deniers.
I don't think so and don't listen to the betas here. Keep doing what you're doing, keep being there for her, keep helping her, it might take a few years but her sex hormones will trigger and she will see you for the amazing person you are and she'll fall into your arms, you'll kiss, have passionate sex and live happily ever after.
The thing is, how much do you want it? It won't be easy, you'll need to sacrifice years and forego any other kind of romantic or sexual relationship to win her over, but it can be done.
Does it sound like I'm forever friend zoned?
More annoying is the fact that people rail against the existence of a friend zone when we've got ample evidence of its existence right in this thread. Y'all are like climate change deniers.
You aren't in a "Friend zone", she's just not into you in that way, and there's no escaping that. If you are continuing this relationship solely because you think you can wear her down and you can change that, you are setting yourself up for heartache.
friend zone is not real
Can you tell me the best way to trigger the sex hormones? That's probably where I've been failing with women.
If the friend zone is normally the size of Pluto, you're on Jupiter.
Ask her out and if she makes it clear that she only wants to be friends, take a hike and look for brighter pastures. I get the feeling this is very one-sided and you're only making yourself a target for heartbreak.
More annoying is the fact that people rail against the existence of a friend zone when we've got ample evidence of its existence right in this thread. Y'all are like climate change deniers.
friend zone is not real
There's a difference between unrequited love and "the friend zone".
And the OP is the first one and tried to use the latter to work his way into her affections.
This railing against the friend zone is weird. If you've been rejected but are happy to be just friends and have moved on to date other people, great, you're one of the few people who went from the potential relationship material to a friend, but don't pretend there aren't a lot of people who use being friends as something to try and wear the person down through nice deeds.
But that's not friend zone.
Friend zone that we are saying isn't real is the idea that being a friend instead of romantic partner is something that is done to and something undesirable and bad. That mentality was what breeds the behaviours you mention but that's not what people are talking about when we say the friend zone doesn't exist.
Thanks for the link, I didn't pay attention at all to the video but in the related response videos was one called "Debunking "White Privilege Explained in Five Minutes"" that was very informative and will help me in expressing my now extensive opinions very strongly on any controversial topic the instant it is brought up. (On the internet anyway.)
Why are you and other trying to rewrite the definition of friend zone?
Everyone knows what's implied when you say friend zone, even the OP. What you're doing is talking about being friends, there's literally no reason to bring the friend zone into that conversation.
You have to ask? Your an embarrassment to other geeks. Unless this is a parody that's flying too close to the sun.
How about "unrequited love"?I agree Miles. Until this thread I just thought friend zone was basically just a way of describing unrequited love, but now apparently its an MRA "I deserve this because I'm nice" thing. So now either we have to find a new term for the entitlement nice guy stuff, or we have to find a new term for being in love with someone who sees you as a friend. It's all so confusing.
Perhaps im more of a gen x nerd.
Seems like the friendzone/romance term is something the avocado millennials came up with.
Is there a possibility to bang each other when the urge arises but no need to be all lovey and sticky together? Both just needs to be attractive physically.
Likewise, is it ok to have a good time together without going into regular banging? Maybe just on rare occasion, like on a high?
/ 32 yo virgin nerd question :|
She already turned me down saying that she doesn't want a relationship until she has her career going,
How about "unrequited love"?
She said no, OP made the mistake of thinking if he stuck around and was a 'nice guy' to her that he could work his way into a romantic relationship.
She sees him as a friend and she's treating him like one, she sees everything that he's done as a friend helping her, the OP doesn't need to shatter the friendship they have because he can't get over his feelings. What he should do is distance himself from her, sp he can get over his feelings but maintain the friendship and start dating other women.
Be happy he found a close friend (friends are rare, relationships are plentiful if you're willing to take chance) and move on with the next part of his life.
Thanks for the link, I didn't pay attention at all to the video
Completely disagree that this is some hard rule.
I've continued to be friends with girls who I knew liked me; it wasn't malicious, we were friends.. and adults. So be an adult and get over it, or don't be my friend.
This assumption is usually the other way around; "that female is using that male because she knows he likes her"... I find the assumption kind of.. sexist. Why is it a woman's fault that some dude is pining for her? Why is she supposed to not be friends with the person again?
Most attractive females attract almost every male who try's to befriend them.. so just, not have male friendships because males can't be adult about things?
Yes occasionally females maliciously continue a friendship with someone they don't even like as a friend, to use them for favors.. if a female "friend" only contacts you to do favors for them, they are probably being malicious and manipulating you. But if a female friend acts like... a friend.. and hangs out with you, parties with you, and does other normal "Friend" stuff.. calling that malicious smacks of male bitterness.
I won't change my mind, because I don't have to. Because I'm an American. I won't change my mind on anything, regardless of the facts that are set out before me. I'm dug in, and I'll never change.Why not?