You're in the friend category!
You're in the friend box!
You're in the friend area!
You're in the friend region!
You're in the friend sector!
You're in the friend neighborhood!
You're in the friend realm!
You're in the friend turf!
You're in the friend vicinity!
You're in the friend district!
You're in the friend division!
You're in the friend level!
You're in the friend league!
You're in the friend grouping!
You're in the friend rank!
You're in the friend chapter!
You're in the friend corner!
You're in the friend cubbyhole!
You're in the friend department!
You're in the friend cell!
You're in the friend genus!
You're in the friend faction!
You're in the friend family!
If it hurts you being around her, ask her out or say goodbye.
If you're okay being her friend, enjoy being her emotional crutch until she finds someone to be with.
I told her that I would be happy for her if she found someone else as a boyfriend, and I'm not lying about it.
In case anyone wanted a recap of WaterAstro's contradictory opinions about this friendship. I bolded the important bits.
WaterAstro is only interested in GAF's advice about asking her out again. After being rejected, WaterAstro believes the connection has grown stronger and he's closer than ever. he thinks she treats him more than a friend, she's getting quite personal since the rejection, he feels. He has said "I love you" to her and they hold hands in a "platonic" way and is thinking of telling her "I don't think we'll ever be in a relationship" to see how she reacts. If the girl gets into a relationship and divulges stuff to him, he'll spend less time with her, which makes crystal clear that WaterAstro isn't there just as a true friend. So it's quite clear that if the girl finally said after 5 million years that she wants to be more than friends with WaterAstro, he'd most likely accept rather than stick to his only-friendship/not-looking-for-a-relationship-right-now mentality that he thinks he has going (only fooling himself).
The whole career thing where WaterAstro thinks he's super important to her to get further in her career is just odd, as if she couldn't make it without him at all.
WaterAstro says he could find a woman like her, no problem, but so far hasn't shown any evidence of this yet. From the information given, there is no indication given that WaterAstro has tried dating other women at all since this infatuation.
Also, Chumley keeps on treating WaterAstro as a damsel in distress that needs saving against the big meanie dogpile.
Hey guys, there's this girl who I'm obsessed with. She's a grown woman, but she doesn't have a best friend from high school, college, work, family, etc., it's me, a guy who she met three months ago at a job fair. My primary hobby during the week is constantly helping this woman to get her career going. I clearly think about her all the time and I'd give my left foot to be in a relationship with her. I fear that my sickeningly spineless behavior - we actually hold hands (not on the street though, that would be impure) and say "I love you" to each other - has frozen me out of ever having a relationship with this woman. I mean, she already said she's not interested, but I think about the possibility of her changing her mind all the time, and I incessantly fantasize that my cringing servitude will convince her to see the light.
Wait, if you all thought I really cared about this, LOL. Damn, what a bunch of rubes y'all are. It's crazy that you think I'm actually into this girl lmao...jokes on you if you misinterpreted my OP that badly smdh...anyway, no time for this, got to go back to helping this girl get her career going bbl
That about sum it up?
Lots of people told him what was up in a constructive way. He became defensive and dismissive and isn't interested in hearing it. I think I understand the spirit of your replies here, because it kind of sucks to see somebody get ripped up. But in this case...man, the kid deserves it. He hasn't shown an ounce of self-reflection here. When you backpedal this hard and act like everybody else is crazy for very correctly understanding your awful and pathetic OP, you're going to be justly roasted. I understand wanting to keep things cool but this isn't the guy/thread to do it with, imo.
You summed everything up perfectly.Hey guys, there's this girl who I'm obsessed with. She's a grown woman, but she doesn't have a best friend from high school, college, work, family, etc., it's me, a guy who she met three months ago at a job fair. My primary hobby during the week is constantly helping this woman to get her career going. I clearly think about her all the time and I'd give my left foot to be in a relationship with her. I fear that my sickeningly spineless behavior - we actually hold hands (not on the street though, that would be impure) and say "I love you" to each other - has frozen me out of ever having a relationship with this woman. I mean, she already said she's not interested, but I think about the possibility of her changing her mind all the time, and I incessantly fantasize that my cringing servitude will convince her to see the light.
Wait, if you all thought I really cared about this, LOL. Damn, what a bunch of rubes y'all are. It's crazy that you think I'm actually into this girl lmao...jokes on you if you misinterpreted my OP that badly smdh...anyway, no time for this, got to go back to helping this girl get her career going bbl
That about sum it up?
Lots of people told him what was up in a constructive way. He became defensive and dismissive and isn't interested in hearing it. I think I understand the spirit of your replies here, because it kind of sucks to see somebody get ripped up. But in this case...man, the kid deserves it. He hasn't shown an ounce of self-reflection here. When you backpedal this hard and act like everybody else is crazy for very correctly understanding your awful and pathetic OP, you're going to be justly roasted. I understand wanting to keep things cool but this isn't the guy/thread to do it with, imo.
Cant be as bad as a 2nd cousin of mine who caught feels for a girl and bought the girl a new car, a dodge charger, hooked her up with a full time job and took her out to nice places only to be told that she found new dick and wanted to stay friends with him lol. Dude was pissed but supposedly he learned his lesson. I doubt it.The funniest part is while the OP has a breakdown and has to bitterly hold in his resentment for a girl who he thought he'd get to slam because he spent time with her, she gets to do whatever the hell she pleases with her life. Maybe she feels like swiping on Tinder. Maybe she found a dude already. Skies the limit with her life.
Even if OP gets over it, he won't have learned shit. And the same miserable shit will happen, the same embarrassing topic will pop up on GAF, and the same replies will follow.
I used to be more sympathetic but this is literal nice guy shit so enjoy holding that L fam.
I told her that I would be happy for her if she found someone else as a boyfriend, and I'm not lying about it.
I mean it's OK to just be friends too. Sheesh some people saying just ditch her. It's like the sole reason to have a woman around is for you people to fuck or something.
He can't be just friends because if she gets into a relationship, he'll start spending less time with her ("I'd tell her to cut out the hand holding and going out with me too much."). That's not what friends do.I mean it's OK to just be friends too. Sheesh some people saying just ditch her. It's like the sole reason to have a woman around is for you people to fuck or something.
Cant be as bad as a 2nd cousin of mine who caught feels for a girl and bought the girl a new car, a dodge charger, hooked her up with a full time job and took her out to nice places only to be told that she found new dick and wanted to stay friends with him lol.
I mean it's OK to just be friends too. Sheesh some people saying just ditch her. It's like the sole reason to have a woman around is for you people to fuck or something.
If she already turned you down then you're not in the friend zone. You're just friends.
Remove yourself to find out if she needs you.
If you can convince her that you don't/won't have romantic feelings for her, you could probably get some sex out of itI met a woman in a career related event, and I started helping her with getting her career going. She already turned me down saying that she doesn't want a relationship until she has her career going, but I'm still helping her and being really good friends.
I might have set myself back by asking her to be in a relationship with me because she wondered, afterwards, why I am still helping her a lot. I told her that I would be happy for her if she found someone else as a boyfriend, and I'm not lying about it. I do feel like I put myself in the friend zone position.
However, we go out together a damn lot, about 3-5 times a week, sometimes to help her, but not strictly about that because she enjoys being with me and talking with me. I'm her best friend, and she's super comfortable with me. We even say "I love you" in a platonic friendship sense, and we even hold hands A LOT when we sit down and chat, but not down the street that would show we're in a relationship. She's super concerned about my feelings and everything that might make me feel depressed too.
Does it sound like I'm forever friend zoned? We've been together for 3 months, and it's only getting stronger, it feels like. I like to dwell on the possibility that she wants to be with me when we get her career going, but I needed to see what others think.
what is a "healthy relationship"
when you realize the 'friend zone' isn't actually thing and its just an idea people make up in their heads to:
1. Minimize our hurt feelings
2. Place the blame on woman for daring to not be interested
the better off you'll be.
what is a "healthy relationship"
wat
how does the term 'friend zone' blame anyone?
what is a "healthy relationship"
It implies that if the other person just did their part, they wouldn't be in the friend zone.
I mean it's OK to just be friends too. Sheesh some people saying just ditch her. It's like the sole reason to have a woman around is for you people to fuck or something.
Oh my dear, you sound like such a Nice Guy. Tis a shame that this cruel world still doesn't reward your kind with the free pussy you so clearly deserve.
I don't think OP is coming back, you guys.
I think some of you guys really broke him with the tough love.
Glad folks tell him the truth. I learned that shit in middle school. Just "being nice" don't magically make a girl like you lmao. Gotta grow up sometime...
what is a "healthy relationship"
nothin personnel, kid. I'm just really cold.
I'm just now realizing that your avatar is Pokemon cards.
I told her that I would be happy for her if she found someone else as a boyfriend, and I'm not lying about it.
This never works and also you shouldn't have lied.
Fuck one of her friends.
Biggest fuckin simp fuckin hell
i think if you pretended to have a date with someone, she'd respond by being like "ayyyyyy my dude, nice, i wanna hear details tomorrow"
because she's your friend and would be genuinely happy that you're going on a hot date
(at least that's how i'd respond, haha)
oh snap
He'll be back, he's just on the phone to her giving her a career advice and seeing as it's Friday night go to the movies and get something to eat. He'll pay of course becuse that's what friends do and seeing as she's not started her career probably not got much money.
God fucking damn it I HAAAAAAAAATE the term "friend zone" so much. Why is this still such a thing?
God fucking damn it I HAAAAAAAAATE the term "friend zone" so much. Why is this still such a thing?