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I would bail so hard. I have no patience for that shit.
Oh wow - I mean, I guess you found out when you got to your Dad's? That must have been awkward.
one of those things where people put too much emphasis on sex just like money and many other things. sex is more natural than the feelings you have
All she did was see some penis. I have to ask, why does it bother us so much for a person to go fuck when that is instinct of it all.
I mean, boils down to maybe she is a lot better around you for everything else but her getting some moans in would kill all of that and make you go away from her forever?
Not that I am saying what is right or wrong simply offering a perspective.
You can have sex with a man as a man and not be gay but to simply do it. For me, I wouldn't do what you are doing in the same instance, I'd just say something like do you want it? refering to his penis and more in a silly way and not a care or not care way
Nope, found out a few months later after a friend of hers told me she fucked some random dude here and 3 guys when she went to California for a furry convention.
I created a thread on it a few years ago that was pretty comical.
OP. Please listen to me.
This exact same thing happened to me. Confronted my girlfriend about it. She broke down in tears telling me how she seeks attention and there was nothing going on, she just enjoyed the "flirting." I told her this was cheating. She agreed and promised nothing would happen again. Said I could see her phone whenever I wanted.
3 months I continue this damn relationship. Jealousy consumes me and I don't trust the girl I'm with. She ends up not being so open with her phone. Long story short, I find out that after all that she ends up cheating on me. Has sex with another guy. She tries the same shit and I almost fell for it again. I hate myself for continuing that relationship.
It was such a huge mistake. It fucked me up.
Please don't make the same mistake I did.
Be honest and be clear that when you went to use the iPad like you always do, that was what popped up.
Wouldn't want to muddy the conversation with accusations of you snooping around (I'm taking your story at face value).
This is terrible advice. There are only a handful amount of people out there that are okay with being in an open relationship.
I'm desperately waiting for her to get home so OP can tell us her bullshit explanation.
OP, it has been more than 2 hours since you've created this thread. Don't wait for her arrival. Save yourself from the impending stressful show of confronting her. It won't do you any better. You've already stated that the evidence is clear. There's nothing else to know.
Gather the evidence, pack your things, talk to the landlord, and move on.
Sorry to hear that OP. Something similar happened to me (minus the pic), but I found out the same way. I confronted her about it and she appologised, but never said she would stop seeing/speaking to the guy. the relationship, or what was left of it kept going for about 3 months but during that time I was a paranoid wreck. I'm hindsight, I should have ended it then. In the end she packed her bags and left on Valentine's Day. I believe she is still with the guy now.
I'm in the UK, and we were both on a lease for our flat. When she moved out, she ended up still giving me her share of the rent. I imagine if her name wasn't on the contract it would have been a different story. But if you or her move out, then that could be a way to see the lease through until the end/give your months notice.
one of those things where people put too much emphasis on sex just like money and many other things. sex is more natural than the feelings you have
All she did was see some penis. I have to ask, why does it bother us so much for a person to go fuck when that is instinct of it all.
I mean, boils down to maybe she is a lot better around you for everything else but her getting some moans in would kill all of that and make you go away from her forever?
Not that I am saying what is right or wrong simply offering a perspective.
You can have sex with a man as a man and not be gay but to simply do it. For me, I wouldn't do what you are doing in the same instance, I'd just say something like do you want it? refering to his penis and more in a silly way and not a care or not care way
geezus what is with you people I'm not co signing the cheating, maybe she just never said anything, which would be her fault, not his. Seriously, ease up with thinking I'm victim blaming. I've been in relationships were even 20 minutes of video games became a fight. I mean we obviously know what she is capable of. Is it that far out there that in her fucked up head she grew resentment? That's her head case issue, not his.I am suggesting that trying to have the OP doubt himself and his own actions as he's the one getting screwed in this situation, is not a good move.
Why are you trying to place blame on the victim here. Even if the did play videogames all day, they were living together and in a committed 4-year relationship. You don't just go sexting random dudes.
Stop trying to cast aspersions while the OP isn't in the wrong.
I'm not blaming OP
I'm pointing something out that is very very common with females in relationships that get jealous of video games.
No just find someone else with the same values as yourself, OP.Ok? Let's all rage against our biology for the rest of our lives and ruin otherwise decent relationships because we're unable to handle a little bit of emotional uncertainty and difficult communication
Well, it's a 2+ hour drive and I kinda have to justify the trip and related time dedication for all of that. Plus, it's way better to say "hey I'm in Orlando this weekend for a thong and I might have some free time if you want to meet up" rather than "hey I'm coming to Orlando in the hopes that you'll let me throw it in you".
This is the stupidest post I've yet to read on GAF. And I've argued with Donald Trump supporters here.
I don't know man, I feel for OP. Not looking forward to that talk. Hopefully she's mature enough to recognize what she did and be honest about what her motivations were. If there's anything for OP to learn from this, I truly hope that he does and is able to move on a bit wiser.I'm desperately waiting for her to get home so OP can tell us her bullshit explanation.
one of those things where people put too much emphasis on sex just like money and many other things. sex is more natural than the feelings you have
All she did was see some penis. I have to ask, why does it bother us so much for a person to go fuck when that is instinct of it all.
I mean, boils down to maybe she is a lot better around you for everything else but her getting some moans in would kill all of that and make you go away from her forever?
Not that I am saying what is right or wrong simply offering a perspective.
You can have sex with a man as a man and not be gay but to simply do it. For me, I wouldn't do what you are doing in the same instance, I'd just say something like do you want it? refering to his penis and more in a silly way and not a care or not care way
Same thing happened to me. Get out any way you can.
Best of luck to you, OP. Surround yourself with people who care about you and move on.
She's called again (so twice in total).
She'll know somethings up, she knows I'm at home (day off) and I'd normally answer.
Ok? Let's all rage against our biology for the rest of our lives and ruin otherwise decent relationships because we're unable to handle a little bit of emotional uncertainty and difficult communication
You're just taking this random situation from your own life and applying to it his and talking about what "females" do in such a scenario. It doesn't have anything to do with this thread.geezus what is with you people I'm not co signing the cheating, maybe she just never said anything, which would be her fault, not his. Seriously, ease up with thinking I'm victim blaming. I've been in relationships were even 20 minutes of video games became a fight. I mean we obviously know what she is capable of. Is it that far out there that in her fucked up head she grew resentment? That's her head case issue, not his.
OP, it has been more than 2 hours since you've created this thread. Don't wait for her arrival. Save yourself from the impending stressful show of confronting her. It won't do you any better. You've already stated that the evidence is clear. There's nothing else to know.
Gather the evidence, pack your things, talk to the landlord, and move on.
Well, it's a 2+ hour drive and I kinda have to justify the trip and related time dedication for all of that. Plus, it's way better to say "hey I'm in Orlando this weekend for a thong and I might have some free time if you want to meet up" rather than "hey I'm coming to Orlando in the hopes that you'll let me throw it in you". lol
We should organize (in another thread of course).
I don't know man, I feel for OP. Not looking forward to that talk. Hopefully she's mature enough to recognize what she did and be honest about what her motivations were. If there's anything for OP to learn from this, I truly hope that he does and is able to move on a bit wiser.
OP, you seem like a cool cat. I'm sorry this is happening to you. Make sure you rely on your friends/hobbies and GAF for support. It's tough out there but things will get better, you know that. This will not be the end of your world.
Forward the dick pick to her cellphone.
one of those things where people put too much emphasis on sex just like money and many other things. sex is more natural than the feelings you have
All she did was see some penis. I have to ask, why does it bother us so much for a person to go fuck when that is instinct of it all.
I mean, boils down to maybe she is a lot better around you for everything else but her getting some moans in would kill all of that and make you go away from her forever?
Not that I am saying what is right or wrong simply offering a perspective.
You can have sex with a man as a man and not be gay but to simply do it. For me, I wouldn't do what you are doing in the same instance, I'd just say something like do you want it? refering to his penis and more in a silly way and not a care or not care way
Dude, I hate being that guy, but... red flag.I'm not blaming OP
I'm pointing something out that is very very common with females in relationships that get jealous of video games.
What do you want to do, OP? Would you feel better talking to her on the phone and arranging for her to pick her (already packed) stuff, or do you want to wait for her to be there to have the talk?She's called again (so twice in total).
She'll know somethings up, she knows I'm at home (day off) and I'd normally answer.
You are full of shit. "Decent" relationships are built on trust. Sneaking around is a clear violation of that.Ok? Let's all rage against our biology for the rest of our lives and ruin otherwise decent relationships because we're unable to handle a little bit of emotional uncertainty and difficult communication
She's called again (so twice in total).
She'll know somethings up, she knows I'm at home (day off) and I'd normally answer.
Similar thing was going on with me but it was a 3-ish hour drive. What I did is schedule getting there around noon on a weekend and make plans to hang out, go outside, take a hike, go to a river, etc (If that's something you like). But tell her that it would be cool if you could crash at her place after that and leave at some point the next day.Make it clear that it can be sleeping on the floor, a couch, or whatever she's comfortable with. And its very important that you mean it. Even after driving all that time, if she doesn't want to sleep in the same bed as you, RESPECT that. That could also mean that she might not be comfortable with you evens staying at her place at all.
If it works out you get to spend an awesome day with someone and possibly have sex. If not, you still get a great day out of it.
Ok? Let's all rage against our biology for the rest of our lives and ruin otherwise decent relationships because we're unable to handle a little bit of emotional uncertainty and difficult communication
She's called again (so twice in total).
She'll know somethings up, she knows I'm at home (day off) and I'd normally answer.
Open relationships are communicated and decided upon outside of a hurried solution to infidelity. This is idiotic.Ok? Let's all rage against our biology for the rest of our lives and ruin otherwise decent relationships because we're unable to handle a little bit of emotional uncertainty and difficult communication
Maybe text her back and tell her, "I found your little conversation, what's up with that?"
In the time you've known her (over 4 years), did you ever discuss where each of you draw the line regarding fidelity?
And could it have changed over the years given how nonchalantly she carried on with iPad last night?
make the dickpic the ipads wallpaper and see what happens
neogaf.gifThis happened to me once but with hentai.
I don't keep it around anymore.
I don't know man, I feel for OP. Not looking forward to that talk. Hopefully she's mature enough to recognize what she did and be honest about what her motivations were. If there's anything for OP to learn from this, I truly hope that he does and is able to move on a bit wiser.
OP, you seem like a cool cat. I'm sorry this is happening to you. Make sure you rely on your friends/hobbies and GAF for support. It's tough out there but things will get better, you know that. This will not be the end of your world.