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Am I in the forever friend zone?

Strangelove77

Strangelove77

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Savitar

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It's called being a security blanket.

You make them feel warm, loved and desirable.

In return you wank off over your shame.
 
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BlueTsunami

there is joy in sucking dick
rtcn63 said:
All these (likely) fake friendzone meme dudes are way handsomer than me explains why I can't even get that far (ignoring the BO)
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You should be reading it the other way. Looks don't entirely make up for personality. Being subservient doesn't make up for looks, if its even attractive (all signs point to no)
 
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Pepboy

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BlueTsunami said:
Nah, the friendzone is a pretty nasty term that places the blame on the one who isnt returning the love. No one is entitled to someone else's love. And even if they're being strung along, they have the ability to punch out and move on.

But the reason this thread is this big is partially arguments over this.
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Its no more blame inducing than "unrequited feelings". It's a descriptive term, not a prescriptive one.

Of course no one is entitled to someone elses feelings. Friendzone has nothing in it, the definition or the origin, that suggests that.
 
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rtcn63

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BlueTsunami said:
You should be reading it the other way. Looks don't entirely make up for personality. Being subservient doesn't make up for looks, if its even atteactive (all signs point to no)
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Anecdotal evidence puts looks at the front of the pack and personality at the back but when you ugly the rules are different.

Dozens of us!
 
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Lulubop

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Livedili said:
what about my membership? I've been on this forum for two years (and even more before getting my registration approved).


Gratz, you understood my joke.


The problem with your attitude is: You're not even willing to try to accept someone elses opinion on it. You're so entilted to your "feminism is warranted" stance that you're not seeing how far these humans went.

When feminists start being triggered by a name or just a couple kissing in public (see here) or by just saying hello to them (here), you know they're not right in their mind. And these are not just some rare cases as you say. It happens frequently to the point of it being just a cult, think Gamer Gate.

But yeah, let's agree on the point: If you're a white male and educated, you're a misogynist. Which is why I don't even bother replying to this thread anymore. End of story. This is stupid beyond belief.
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BTW WTF is wrong with this dude? Get him outta here
 
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BlueTsunami

there is joy in sucking dick
rtcn63 said:
Anecdotal evidence puts looks at the front of the pack and personality at the back but when you ugly the rules are different.

Dozens of us!
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No way. I recently ate at Applebees and some fat fuck walk out with a dime piece. That proves my argument. Or maybe it was just Applebees.
 
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lightskintwin

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rtcn63 said:
Anecdotal evidence puts looks at the front of the pack and personality at the back but when you ugly the rules are different.

Dozens of us!
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No doubt, but when your looks aren't the barrier, your personality can be the difference for success and failure. In fact it can help you look more or less attractive.
 
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MagicWithEarvin

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This thread is sad and hilarious at the same time. For those seeking a meaningful relationship with someone, I hope it all works out for you. I've been fortunate to have married the love of my life, my middle-school sweetheart. The advice I can give is that if the relationship you're building upon is going in circles, you have to be assertive and put your foot down to take steer the relationship in the direction you want it to go. If there are clear signs where the other party isn't interested, such as seeking career goals, looking out for their family's best interest before thinking of theirself, focused on studies, etc - it's time to let go and move on. This may be the hard part, especially when you cling to that one hope where there may be an opening down the line. This will put you in a zone that you may not like: friend.
 
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rtcn63

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BlueTsunami said:
No way. I recently ate at Applebees and some fat fuck walk out with a dime piece. That proves my argument. Or maybe it was just Applebees.
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I've had women I'd known for a period point out that I had a great personality (well, at least not a terrible one) but later hint that being seen in public with me (outside of work/school/etc. where the interaction is somewhat required) wholly disgusted them. A few I think wanted me to go kill myself. Young to old, ignorant to highly educated.

But I accept that people as a whole are just terrible, it's not endemic to any sex. And I try not to be that awful to others if possible.
 
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BlueTsunami

there is joy in sucking dick
rtcn63 said:
I've had women I'd known for a period point out that I had a great personality (well, at least not a terrible one) but later hint that being seen in public with me (outside of work/school/etc. where the interaction is somewhat required) wholly disgusted them. A few I think wanted me to go kill myself. Young to old, ignorant to highly educated.

But I accept that people as a whole are just terrible, it's not endemic to any sex. And I try not to be that awful to others if possible.
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Jesus Chriiiiiist
 
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Belker

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BlueTsunami said:
Nah, the friendzone is a pretty nasty term that places the blame on the one who isnt returning the love. No one is entitled to someone else's love. And even if they're being strung along, they have the ability to punch out and move on.

But the reason this thread is this big is partially arguments over this.
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I've never thought of it as a nasty term. It's a location, a place. If you don't want to be at that place, move on. Go somewhere else.

The location doesn't have to change because you got lost, you need to keep exploring.
 
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lightskintwin

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rtcn63 said:
I've had women I'd known for a period point out that I had a great personality (well, at least not a terrible one) but later hint that being seen in public with me (outside of work/school/etc. where the interaction is somewhat required) wholly disgusted them. A few I think wanted me to go kill myself. Young to old, ignorant to highly educated.

But I accept that people as a whole are just terrible, it's not endemic to any sex. And I try not to be that awful to others if possible.
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Wow, that's fucked up. I can't believe they would say something like that. That's just mean spirited and ugly to be honest.
 
BizzyBum

BizzyBum

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earvcunanan said:
This thread is sad and hilarious at the same time. For those seeking a meaningful relationship with someone, I hope it all works out for you. I've been fortunate to have married the love of my life, my middle-school sweetheart. The advice I can give is that if the relationship you're building upon is going in circles, you have to be assertive and put your foot down to take steer the relationship in the direction you want it to go. If there are clear signs where the other party isn't interested, such as seeking career goals, looking out for their family's best interest before thinking of theirself, focused on studies, etc - it's time to let go and move on. This may be the hard part, especially when you cling to that one hope where there may be an opening down the line. This will put you in a zone that you may not like: friend.
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We're far, far past meaningful criticism at this point in the thread.
 
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rtcn63

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lightskintwin said:
Wow, that's fucked up. I can't believe they would say something like that. That's just mean spirited and ugly to be honest.
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It's because, and this is something I've gathered from my years of er... experience, folks get offended by it. When an ugly person hints/admits to being attracted to you, it's like they're saying that you're flawed in some way, even being ugly yourself. Why else would they think you'd be willing to reciprocate? So it triggers something fierce.
 
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BlueTsunami

there is joy in sucking dick
Belker said:
I've never thought of it as a nasty term. It's a location, a place. If you don't want to be at that place, move on. Go somewhere else.

The location doesn't have to change because you got lost, you need to keep exploring.
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The problem is, people (and it is gender neutral, women do use this term) occupy this space for large blocks of time in expectation. Its damaging in that it also removes potential partners due to the persons own delusions on some specific person.
 
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MutFox

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I was friendzoned(FZ), told the girl how I felt, she said she didn't feel the same way.
So I started dating another girl and the FZ girl stopped talking to me... :|
 
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Belker

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BlueTsunami said:
The problem is, people (and it is gender neutral, women do use this term) occupy this space for large blocks of time in expectation. Its damaging in that it also removes potential partners due to the persons own delusions on some specific person.
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I think that's right, but I think it's also acknowledging that the harm in it, the negative associations, are more with the person that desires rather then the desired.

Unless the desiring goes all unpleasant at the end.
 
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lightskintwin

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rtcn63 said:
It's because, and this is something I've gathered from my years of er... experience, folks get offended by it. When an ugly person hints/admits to being attracted to you, it's like they're saying that you're flawed in some way, even being ugly yourself. Why else would they think you'd be willing to reciprocate? So it triggers something fierce.
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I can understand that, but it's still fucked up. As a decent looking dude, I'm completely self conscious anytime a woman tries to holla at me in public and I'm not attracted to her. I recognize how difficult it must've been to build the nerve to come talk to a stranger, especially as a woman, and try my best to let them down easy. Often times I'm really friendly and entertain the conversation and they're usually cool as hell, and hell, I might even go dance with her if I'm drunk enough. LOL I either tell them I've got a girlfriend or may even take her number with no interest of ever calling her, but will add her on my social media. There's been many times where we've been able to network on a number of things or I will invite her to some group gathering we could be throwing, and there's been times when she met some other guy who was actually attracted to her and they ended up dating.

I have made jokes about it though to my friends, "How she gonna go for the Gold, when she hasn't qualified for the preliminaries." Yeah, I know it's fucked up. :-(
 
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