First thing is support new developers making interesting games regardless of their sexual identity.
Second, if you go to /v/ or /b/ or have ever playfully participated in a conversation that would not be out of place on either of those boards, then stop. Stop justifying it by saying it's not all bad, or by saying that you used the word 'bitch cunt' as a joke. Have discussions like an adult who's not afraid of the changing face of game development.
If you already do those two things, then you're golden. You've done your part.
Of course I do number one, but...I am never alllowed to use 4chan again? That seems a bit unreasonable, or what do you mean?
This is all well and true, but it seems the overwhelming majority of the hate spewed by the gaming community is towards women, even if it's not-specifically targeted toward one female or another. "That's just the misogynist culture of gaming" (or, "That's just the Internet") is a horrible answer, and lends this complacency toward our hobby that paints us in a very bad light AND simultaneously traps us in this tunnel vision of objectification and harassment towards people who aren't "us." (we reinforce the system, yadda yadda)
Look, Adam Sessler, Phil Fish, Patrick Klepeck, Marcus Beer, Boogie2988, Peter Molyneux, Robert Florence, Jim Sterling, Geoff Keighly, Don Mattrick, Bobby Kotick, those Call Of Duty community managers, etc. etc. I could go on for ages, are not women. Yet they still get a lot of hate and abuse.
So what unites most of these guys with the women that you say are so often the target of harassment? I assume you mean Anita Sarkeesian, Jennifer Hepler, that MN9 CM and now this case.
They are all
doing things that people dislike alot, in many cases they are openly engaging in controversial conversations in a rather aggressive and or judgemental fashion. It should come as no suprise, that on the internet, where every anonymous frustrated man or woman can say anything without repercussions, that results in a very agressive mob.
The overall frustration and annoyance in the gaming community will not recede, if we ignore that not only women get treated like shit, because if we always have a gender discussion during every single incident like this that involves women, it further seperates female and male video game enthusiasts.
I certainly feel that I become weary and suspicious of feminists do and say and I hate myself for that. I really hate it, believe me.
I just want everyone to be nice and treated equal. =(
Edit: I hope I don't come across as if I was of the opinion those people deserv what they get. They don't, even if I wish some would be a bit more friendly or do some things differently. Situations like this are horrible and wrong, wether you made a stupid comment or mean business decision or not.