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So I just went on my girlfriends ipad....
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MarkMclovin
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OP, I'm pretty sure you just want to have it out with her but she'll either come clean about it or try to hide it or even try to blame you for it. Just talk about it and end it all there. Be the adult.
Either way, the relationship is over. It will always come back to you one way or another. You'll keep seeing that dick pic and the conversation had around it. I'm sure what hurts more, is the fact she had this conversation in the first place, not the pic itself. I highly doubt the guy knows about you, but don't go down the road of getting at him even though I'm sure giving a beat down would feel great.
As you both rent together, I'm pretty sure you each have 30 days notice to give the landlord. Talk to Citizens Advice and tell them the situation, leaving out the other details and they'll advice on the legal side of things. You're certainly not stuck.
Secondly, after you've moved out, hit the gym and get some goals set up.
Good luck OP.
Either way, the relationship is over. It will always come back to you one way or another. You'll keep seeing that dick pic and the conversation had around it. I'm sure what hurts more, is the fact she had this conversation in the first place, not the pic itself. I highly doubt the guy knows about you, but don't go down the road of getting at him even though I'm sure giving a beat down would feel great.
As you both rent together, I'm pretty sure you each have 30 days notice to give the landlord. Talk to Citizens Advice and tell them the situation, leaving out the other details and they'll advice on the legal side of things. You're certainly not stuck.
Secondly, after you've moved out, hit the gym and get some goals set up.
Good luck OP.
but seriously op, do this. Then wait for her to bring it up
Gravy Boat
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read my edit.
Getting kicked out of a flat by your landlord isn't some 'Oh well, on to the next one' deal. Where I used to live, one particular estate agent leased at least 90% of the houses in the area. If they had to kick me out and end our contract short, I'm effectivly locked out of 90% of the flats in the area.
There's also the possiblity of them taking you to a small claims court for loss of income due to them having to end the contract.
Vire
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Oof, 4 years? I was devastated when I found out about a girl doing me dirty after 8 months.
Daffy Duck
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I take it you don't know the guy then?
If it was me, I would talk to her about it when she gets home (like others have said) and see what she says about it.
You've decided it's over so that's one hurdle you've dealt with already, now it's just about the gory details of the relationship with this guy.
Sucks man. Sorry.
If it was me, I would talk to her about it when she gets home (like others have said) and see what she says about it.
You've decided it's over so that's one hurdle you've dealt with already, now it's just about the gory details of the relationship with this guy.
Sucks man. Sorry.
Milly Osworth
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Forward it to all her family members with the message: "I am cheating on my boyfriend with some creep, here is a photo of his penis."
Irrelevant since you said he'd get evicted for making her uncomfortable.
They can't make you pay or do anything once they evict you.
He already said he's going to his parents' place to get himself back on his feet.
Do not do this.
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Transhuman
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You should make an audio recording using a phone when you dump her just incase she gets physically abusive and you need to press charges.
Also you could post it in this thread.
Also you could post it in this thread.
He should, but at the same time, he shouldn't.
It would be amazing for us.
As I said before, he shouldn't do anything that she can get a hard record of. No phone calls, no texts.
Vire
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That's some petty shit.
MikeHaggar
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this is brilliant. especially if you just decide to pack up and leave before she gets home. don't say a word to her. just let the wallpaper speak for itself lol.
If you don't know anything about assured short term tenancy agreements in the UK, I suggest refraining from making ridiculous statements about it.
No one is getting evicted, that's not how it works.
Pankratous
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I like some of the revenge suggestions in this thread, but this is overdoing it imo. The dick wallpaper was a nice suggestion.
Gordon Shumway
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QuantumZebra
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After this, pee on her iPad to establish dominance.
just tell her "its been real" and dip
SocksAndShoes
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This is not how adults think and act. Being super petty and childish helps nobody in this situation.
Gravy Boat
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It's not irrlevant at all. They have your deposit. They're not making you pay anything, they just won't give you back the deposit you would normally get back at the end of the agreement. That's how depsoits work.
And again, he would never be able to lease from them or their partners again. If they're a big agency, that's a big problem as it means way less flats that are available for him to move into. You're trying to make this all seem like a simple operation when it's way more complicated and damaging than you think.
The end point is, it's not as simple as just one party moving out or getting evicted. Neither of those things are easy or worth the time and repercussions. It's just terrible advice to give someone.
This situation requires a clean breakup. Not further escalation and petty squabbling.
ChaosZeroX
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I would do the dick pic wallpaper as well and just leave. When she texts/calls you, just say you'll hash out the details of the lease later.
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
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It's over.
Sooner you accept this, the faster you can heal.
Sooner you accept this, the faster you can heal.
Pankratous
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Well, maybe they should. If she's humiliated maybe she'll understand what she actually did. And won't do it to another person.
StarCreator
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I think based on his most recent posts he's already come to that conclusion. But there's the matter of the fact they're on a shared lease, so he can't just leave, nor can he force her to move either.
j0hnnix
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Lol. Best one.
Honestly.. You can talk with her.. she can be honest, she can also manipulate you, she can also lie. This is a bit much, its whatsapp on a tablet, she was having a not so "innocent" conversation... yeah time to leave her and when you do take all the food from the fridge and take a stinky stump under the bed(not really) but would be good f u.
Ninja Scooter
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He's breaking up with her. Why should he care?
BladeoftheImmortal
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Some people are cut out for long term monogamous relationships and some people aren't.
Your gf is obviously not one of them.
Your gf is obviously not one of them.
If he's going to confront her, he shouldn't give her the benefit of time in which she can come up with a ridiculous lie or some asinine deflection that leads to a shouting match.
Just talk to her, explain what happened and hit her with the realness of what this means.
After reading through all the pages this is the only thing you should do.
If you have decided its over, then the conversation with her will only serve as an outlet for you to vent, and may not be all that constructive.
Move on, and I wish you the best of luck in your next relationship!
If you have decided its over, then the conversation with her will only serve as an outlet for you to vent, and may not be all that constructive.
Move on, and I wish you the best of luck in your next relationship!
Zen_Arcade
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She's not an idiot. She knows what she did and doesn't care. Texting a picture of that guys dick to her family isn't going to make her sit and ponder about her choices. Humiliation like that isn't going to make her feel like she got cheated on either.
The only petty thing suggested in this thread worth doing is changing the lock screen on the iPad to the picture of the dick. That's just funny.
ChaosZeroX
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Also, OP once you do have a conversation with her, don't let her try to become the victim. Women love doing that shit when they do something wrong.
I never said he was. The other poster did. You should read the conversation carefully before jumping in on a whim and failing.
Opus Angelorum
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Take a copy of the conversation as proof.
Personally I'd send a message something like:
"I was using your iPad today and WhatsApp was left open. Is there anything you'd like to say?"
Personally I'd send a message something like:
"I was using your iPad today and WhatsApp was left open. Is there anything you'd like to say?"
NeOak
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InfiniteBento
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I wouldnt bother with arguing about it. Its obviously done now so just pack up and get out of there.
She made her bed, let her lie in it.
She made her bed, let her lie in it.
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Transhuman
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ajim
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Sorry to hear mate. I've been in a similar situation to yours and that other dude in this thread who kept taking his gf back after her lying and its terrible.
These people aren't worth second chances, they'll continue to do it and they unfortunately leave a bitter taste in your mouth for future relationships ( at least for myself).
I'd be really prescriptive in your conversation with her around what you've seen how it's impacted you and the image she has left of herself and you do not want anything more to do with her. I wouldn't worry about questions of 'closure' it's not worth it. Prescriptive in your delivery of impact and goodbye and see ya later.
Sorry mate. Good luck.
These people aren't worth second chances, they'll continue to do it and they unfortunately leave a bitter taste in your mouth for future relationships ( at least for myself).
I'd be really prescriptive in your conversation with her around what you've seen how it's impacted you and the image she has left of herself and you do not want anything more to do with her. I wouldn't worry about questions of 'closure' it's not worth it. Prescriptive in your delivery of impact and goodbye and see ya later.
Sorry mate. Good luck.
He can't afford rent by himself, unfortunately. The lease is screwing things up, and they're both on it.
The Abominable Snowman
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Eh... I dont think its a big deal if she didnt send anything back. Guys send dick pics all the time, but if she didnt send anything back there's no intention of her doing anything with him.
Guys like to shoot their shot. And unfortunately in this society if you do anything other than compliment them, you will make them angry or hurt their feelings. Doesn't mean shes giving into temptation.
Guys like to shoot their shot. And unfortunately in this society if you do anything other than compliment them, you will make them angry or hurt their feelings. Doesn't mean shes giving into temptation.
I'm guilty of flirting even though I'm in a relationship. She knows about that and I wouldn't do anything more than talk with those girls. She knows one of them came to visit me for a few days and nothing happened, not a single kiss or touch. Anyway, mine isn't as long as OP (the relationship) nor as serious, so I can understand where the frustration comes from.
Actually, I'm stopping this now after reading the reactions here. It is something I do when I'm bored, so I'll just do something else to pass the time.
Also, why do some of you obsess so much with the size of the penis? The sexual comment probably had nothing to do with that.
And what is stopping her from doing the same?
Actually, I'm stopping this now after reading the reactions here. It is something I do when I'm bored, so I'll just do something else to pass the time.
Also, why do some of you obsess so much with the size of the penis? The sexual comment probably had nothing to do with that.
And what is stopping her from doing the same?
Darryl M R
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Send her parents a d-pic? Talon you beautiful SoB, I like where your head is at.
Is your gf hitting the gym? She should. I can send her some instragram accounts of women that focus on squats.
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